DH said he's leaving because I'm having another drink

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I have just hosted all my in laws 8 adults and more children, including my own 4 under 5! Full roast dinner, made it, cooked it, cleaned it, cleaned entire house before and looked after everyone. No one else did anything really other than DH carving the meat. I have filled everyone's drinks ho5 and cold. Fed dn a snack by hand. Bf one of my dc and now after they have left I have opened another bottle of wine and said this one is mine. DH has said if I drink it he is leaving. Aibu to tell him to crack on as I have had enough!

She said she’s going to have another bottle of wine to herself. So at least one bottle of wine and it sounds like she’s been drinking already when the guests were there. Even if she hasn’t had anything to drink yet herself a bottle of wine for one person is a lot. I’d be on the floor, drunk as a skunk and vomiting 🤷‍♀️.

As a previous poster said a husband doesn’t threaten to leave over his wife having a bottle of wine. There’s obviously a back story with excessive alcohol consumption and the husband thinks the OP has a problem, and he’s probably correct.

Denial is the cornerstone of addiction…

@Swimswimmswimswimswim "... and now after they have left I have opened another bottle of wine and said this one is mine. DH has said if I drink it he is leaving." It seems like there's so much you're not telling us OP.

• "another" bottle of wine - how many bottles were consumed yesterday whilst all DH's family were there and how much of it did you drink?
• Was it the last bottle you had in the house and your DH just thought you'd both had enough for one day?
• "this one is mine" - were you planning on drinking the whole bottle yourself?

Drinking a whole bottle of wine in one sitting is way too much for anyone - even more so if you'd already been drinking over lunch. Do you have form for drinking an entire bottle of wine? Do you have a drink problem - or does your DH think you have?

Why are you hosting his family? DH shops, cooks, hosts his own family when he invitee them.

Stop hosting! And yes, get rid of the twat.

Ah yes, blame the woman without asking any questions!

It sounds like OP was running around everyone else all day and finally opened a bottle SHE could drink from.

If you have a drink problem I understand his comment , if not one glass is fine whilst bf

That sounds exactly the same.

This is a fake post. It’s been posted a few times.

OP has been back to say that post wasn’t them!

I remember a very similar thread, and last time you had a dance party in the kitchen with the kids and your husband and said something along the lines of you’re pissed ??

I have asked questions. I asked if she was going to drink the whole new bottle herself and how much she’d previously drunk. The OP hasn’t been back and answered them. I’m not blaming anyone.

Like others have done Im pretty sure I recognise this poster from previous posts. She has an alcohol problem.

I've asked mnhq to compare the two threads and check whether it's a repeat poster.

If “D”H wants to help his wife and his children, perhaps he could start by lifting a finger to help with cooking/ cleaning/ family responsibilities. But I’m sure that all went right over your head when you saw an opportunity to judge an exhausted woman.

Ah I read a few pages but it was mostly just a fight about breastfeeding vs three glasses of wine. Thought she admitted she had a problem. But you are right they are vvvv similar

now after they have left I have opened another bottle of wine and said this one is mine.

So it sounds to me as if this was a 'joke' and he took it too seriously?

I think your issue is you have a husband who's lazy

You've gone to a lot of effort for a small issue, surely?
Name changing is allowed- no rules about that.
Not sure what you want to gain from your query?

'stalking' a poster to try to find their back posts is actually not condoned by MNHQ anyway.

OP, ignore anyone who tells you to ignore other posters.

You should not have had to run around being everyone's skivvy and should have told them to help out.

But that isn't the point. The point is I can't believe anyone's partner issues an ultimatum of "if you drink that I'm leaving" without there being a serious backstory of alcohol issues.

"This one is mine" suggests you were planning on drinking the whole bottle to yourself which is too much for anyone. I say that as someone that drinks alcohol at least 4 days a week.

Gawd what's the matter with folks here?

It was said as a JOKE I assume and an expression of her frustration.

Get a grip.

Acting the martyr/victim to justify alcoholism is helping no one.

Nah I don't buy that it was a joke at all. Her husband wouldn't have had that reaction otherwise.

I'm the child of an alcoholic and you don't make threats like that unless alcohol is an ongoing issue.

Do get a grip.
OP has posted twice here.
There is no evidence she is an alcoholic.

Can't you see that what she said was a joke?

Sense of humour fail from so many posters here.

And her H is an arse. What a selfish person he sounds.

There are two different issues here, the first is how did everything fall to you to be responsible for all of the planning, preparation, and execution? It is horrible that your husband did nothing to help, and pathetic that not a single adult stepped up to help during the day. You are in no way being unreasonable to be frustrated/upset at the lack of help and respect.

the second issue is the drinking? Having a glass of wine versus planning to drink a whole damn bottle are two very different things when also breastfeeding. You husband’s reaction is over the top if you were having a glass or it might be warranted if he watches you polish of whole bottles of wine every week.

Oh so you know her husband do you?

Maybe instead of jumping to the conclusion she has a drink issue you need to consider she has a HUSBAND ISSUE.
Look at what he didn't do to help over the day.

IMO even a stone cold sober, teetotal woman would grab a bottle and say 'this one's for me' after the way he behaved.

stop jumping to conclusions.

OP would not have posted this if she had a drink problem, would she?

(And don't try to say it's a 'cry for help'.)
She needs help with her marriage.

Fake OPs can be used to train AI. Flagging that up to MNHQ is not a bad thing to do. Calling an OP a troll or saying this is a fake situation is not allowed.

I don’t think the OP sounds like AI or a troll post but I see where others might.