DH said he's leaving because I'm having another drink

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I have just hosted all my in laws 8 adults and more children, including my own 4 under 5! Full roast dinner, made it, cooked it, cleaned it, cleaned entire house before and looked after everyone. No one else did anything really other than DH carving the meat. I have filled everyone's drinks ho5 and cold. Fed dn a snack by hand. Bf one of my dc and now after they have left I have opened another bottle of wine and said this one is mine. DH has said if I drink it he is leaving. Aibu to tell him to crack on as I have had enough!

It sounds like you were talking about the whole bottle.

The extra drink aside - why are you martyring yourself by doing all of this alone?

A bottle of wine when bf a baby isn’t a good idea. Contrary to the belief most have about consumption of alcohol it’s not that causing the most danger. It’s the fact the you are drunk, could fall asleep while feeding, accidentally roll/smother etc. It appears there is more to this from the comments above. You need some support x

How many glasses had you already consumed? Were you going to drink just one glass of wine or the whole bottle?

if you have a problem with alcohol, your husband needs to take the children and leave. Doing anything else would be irresponsible. It doesn’t matter how great you are at throwing dinner parties.

I thought the same. Reads very similar to a pretty identical post.

Have you posted something like this before OP?

Have you posted this same thing before, or is this some kind of AI repost? Because I’m sure I’ve read this, or something extremely similar, before

This has definitely been posted before..

I'm sure we've had this exact scenario before.

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Whole bottle
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OP does not come back.

It obviously depends on whether you mean a glass or the bottle, and on whether you drink too much generally. I've read a similar thread before, and there were issues with alcohol for that OP.

Two different issues.

Was everyone out of order leaving you to do all the work while dh plays the meat cutting hero? Yes.

Should you open a bottle of wine?
Well, that depends. How much have you had already? Do you have ongoing issues with alcohol? Does your dh think you do?

And if you do drink too much, he needs to make good on his threat and leave with the children for their sakes.

Drinking while BF is fine. It's looking after a baby that's the issue, same as for dad. if you're sober enough to look after the baby, you're fine.

I’m going to go out on a limb and say I’m with your husband here because I can’t imagine it’s the first time an issue with alcohol has come up for this ultimatum to be issued.

Why have you done all the work? That's really unfair. Having another drink is the least of your worries.

Ah, but then he'd have to do the hard work for his own kids.

If someone is telling you that you have a drink problem, it’s likely that you have a drink problem.

Do you have a drink problem?

If you're drinking a bottle of wine I assume bf stands for bottle-fed?!

She’d have to drink more than a bottle of wine to affect her breastmilk.

My SIL used to refuse any help with dinner as she would be in the kitchen necking the wine whilst she cooked and would rather we didn’t see it.

Used to pretend she hadn’t had a drop until she fell over 😟

How much have you drank already?

I have opened another bottle of wine and said this one is mine.

What the whole bottle?

Unless you have an unhealthy relationship with alcohol he is being unreasonable.
Also did you say you were breast feeding or did I misunderstand? Is drinking wine recommended while BF?

It doesn't matter how much running around you've done if you have a drink problem, that's no justification for getting wankered on a bottle of wine.

Sorry if this is not the case - why do you think he is so opposed to you drinking?

An entire bottle of wine?

Anyone drinking a whole bottle of wine (on top of what they’ve already drunk) and additionally breastfeeding is on rocky ground. I say that as someone who likes a drink and also breastfed for a cumulative 16 years or so. They don’t mix. They just don’t. What’s the backstory here? Are you an aggressive drunk? Do you cosleep with your baby while pissed?