Friend not talking to me because I shared a photo from her Wedding

[ByTidyHare]

I attended my best friends wedding a few weeks ago. The day after, I posted some photos to Instagram which were mainly of me and my DP, with one of them of myself and my friend.

This was posted in the morning and on the same afternoon, my friend messaged me to ask I took it down as she didn’t want any photos posted from the day. I said of course and removed it. Before the ceremony, there was an announcement not to upload anything to social media which I assumed related solely to the ceremony and as we were quite near the back, I didn’t take any photos of this anyway. The photo of my friend and I was taken later that evening.

My friend went on her honeymoon soon after. I learnt from another friend whilst she was away that she was really upset with me for uploading the photo and that it ruined her reveal of the day/dress with professional photos as people would have seen it on my page for the few hours it was uploaded.

I didn’t want to message my friend whilst she was still away so I waited until she returned. I apologised, said I was horrified and that I’d mis-understood the instructions thinking they only related to the ceremony.

She replied to say she was still really upset and that I took away the reveal which she’d only have one chance to do in her life and she can’t believe I ignored her wishes. I again apologised but she hasn’t spoke to me since and I’ve learnt from another friend that she doesn’t think she will forgive me.

AIBU to think my friend is now over reacting or is her reaction proportionate?

I think she is being precious.

She's got major Main Character Syndrome. Hopefully she'll get a bit of perspective once she's been away and realised the world continued turning.

Sounds like a Bridezilla.

What?!?!
you’re friend is seriously over reacting

I can understand her being annoyed (especially since you were specifically told not to share anything and did so anyway) but she should get over it eventually

The reveal FFS. As if people care. Total bridezilla.

Presumably the most important people in her life were at the wedding, and saw her dress. No one else gives a damn!

YANBU

it ruined her reveal of the day/dress with professional photos

What the fuck has the world come to?

Bloody hell, is she a celebrity? Was she planning on revealing it in Ok! Magazine or Hello for big bucks? Because if she’s not, she just sounds like a bridezilla who you are better off without.

You can’t so any more than say sorry, I get shes upset, but she making it far bigger than it to be, and really no one gives a shit about a big reveal.

What you did was thoughtless and I can understand her being a bit upset but she's making a massive mountain out of a molehill if she really thinks it's unforgivable. Surely most of the people who saw your post would have seen her dress in person anyway, unless you're an influencer with thousands of followers?

"reveal"

Good grief. No-one cares!

YANBU

The usual rule is don't upload a photo of the bride until she has uploaded herself.

Saying that she is being a bit OTT to still be annoyed

Surely everyone who she wanted to “reveal” to were at the wedding ?!
I swear just as you think there can’t be anything else more ridiculous left to come from people , up pops another bride with a more self absorbed idea !

What is she? A bloody princess? All this reveal stuff is nonsense. No one cares half as much as she thinks they do. And the pretend care, fawning and comments are all fakery anyway.

Sorry OP, but in my opinion you are both as bad.

Firstly, what is all the crap about a "reveal" of the dress? Lord help us. Most people won't give a flying monkey about it.

Secondly, don't post photos of other people on social media without their permission.

You screwed up - she told everyone not to post on social media

I cant believe anyone would consider posting a photo of the bride in her dress before she’s agreed you can

She’s being over dramatic about the whole ‘reveal’ thing, but you need to give her time to get over it

Indeed! Who else cares about her "reveal"?

Besides which, chances are good that she's going to get at least one more chance to focus on a wedding rather than a marriage...

She’s being a bit ridiculous. No one really cares, let’s be honest.

stuff like this just screams self absorbed to me!

The reveal to whom?! Everyone she cared about would have been at the wedding surely? Nobody else would give a crap about her and her wedding.

’Reveal’? Honestly people need to get over themselves.

I’d have no patience for this kind of shit. You’ve apologised, removed the picture, done deal.

I literally couldn’t spend time with someone who thought like that.

A reveal? To who?? B list friends she didn’t bother inviting to her wedding?

I agree that she is being precious about ‘taking away the reveal’ (WTF?) but you were out of order posting those photos when she specifically requested not to.

The rule is to not share pictures until the couple themselves have shared them. And they specifically made an announcement about same.

I’d be annoyed with you too OP, I’m sure she’s thinking it was thoughtless at best and deliberate at worst. But you’ve said sorry and removed the pic, you can’t do anymore now.

She's clearly overreacting as her close friends will have been at the wedding anyway and the others won't likely be following your instagram.
But if there was a request not to post pics to social media, I think there's no way one wouldn't presume it relates to the whole day. Wanting to be in control of what gets posted first is the only reason someone might request that.
If say the church don't want pictures, they just request no pictures, not a social media ban.

The dress reveal is when she walked down the aisle.

For anyone not invited to the wedding, they won’t give a shit about her dress reveal because why should they?

Unfortunately you can’t argue with batshittery. She’ll either get over it or she won’t, there’s not much you can do. You’ve apologised.