My half-brother has invited my sister to his wedding but not me

[DarkestOfBirds]

My half-brother is getting married later this year. I haven't been invited but my sister has. I am incredibly hurt and feel that not inviting me feels very pointed.
He and I have never had any kind of falling out or any animosity but aren't very close. When my Dad remarried by step-mother wanted a very clear separation between my Dad's old life and family and hers. Dad has often made me feel like the B-Team to his new family. I am the only family member who hasn't been invited (we are a very small family, not lots of cousins etc).
I am trying to brush it off but keep returning to how hurt I feel at being left out.
AIBU?

You say your dad made you feel like a B-Team, does your sister feel the same? Is she closer with them generally?

You said you aren’t close. 🤷🏻‍♀️ Is he also not close to your sister or is their relationship different?

I didn’t invite my half brother to my wedding. It never even occurred to me why I would. We also aren’t close at all.

I think I would pretty much ghost him if he thinks so little of you.

I think it depends on other things . My cousins would invite my older sister to events but not me, they are closer in age and generally more closer. Tbh they feel like strangers to me so I’m ok.

How did I know this comment would be in the first few, so predictablen🙄
I'm sure op knows that, but it doesn't stop her feeling hurt by it.

Op is it possible your invitation has been lost?

What has your dad said about it?

Of course it's their prerogative, doesn't make it any less hurtful though.
I wouldn't bother with any of them tbh.

Need a bit more info really - were you aware that he's closer with your sister? Is it a matter of principle for you that if your sister's invited you should be too, or do they get on better so there's an understandable reason why he's asked her?

Lots of people only want their wedding guests to be people they're close to, regardless of genetics.

If you're not close would you only be attending out of obligation if he invited you? Is he close to his other half sister?

And would you actually want to go to his wedding anyway or is it more the sense of being snubbed that bothers you?

Are they closer in age, or did they do more together when younger?

OP, when you say your sister do you mean your full blood sister? If so then more context is needed. Was your half brother much closer to this sister, is there any reason at all you can think of?

Is your sister close to him? Possibly a totally different relationship going on there. You say yourself you aren’t close.

Why bother asking for advice if you know the reason for no invite.?

Are you sure it’s not an oversight / invite list in the post

You openly admit you're not close to your half-brother. Is he closer to your sister? Do they have more in common or slightly closer in age? If none of those apply then, yes, you have every right to feel hurt and upset. If they do apply, then, sadly it appears he only wants family members at his wedding who he feels he has a relationship with. What has your Dad said? Have you told him you feel hurt?

@Blueskies25 - sadly not. When the 'save the dates' went out last year I told my Dad that I hadn't received one and felt hurt. At the time he brushed it off as an oversight. When the official invites went out Dad said that he spoke to my half-brother but I don't know what was said. My sister told me that Dad is upset by the lack of invitation.

No, he isn't really closer to her. She got married 5 years ago and invited him and his now fiancé.

Is your sister a full sister to your half brother, if that makes sense.

I would have very happily gone and would see this as a chance for us to become closer. If I was getting married I absolutely would have invited him - I see him as family, even if we aren't that close.

That's very hurtful. Does your sister know why you weren't invited?