Has my husband lost his mind?

[orangesky1]

My husband has decided he wants to go and be a holiday tour leader overseas. With tips, his view is that this would be reasonably well paid.

we have a child in a school. I have a good job. He is deeply unhappy with the day to day life as a parent. We have a really good life but he doesn’t see it that way. This proposal is the only way he can see himself happy.

he wants us to go out there with him. I have said he can do this but he has to go there first by himself and show that it will work. I don’t believe it will, and will not disrupt my child’s life and my career for this whim. The job will involve stints of him being away on tours. I am not averse to moving for a positive financial situation and lifestyle change but to me this is madness. Fine if single, not compatible with being a responsible parent.

I think he is really fundamentally depressed, this depression will not magically disappear once the novelty has worn off

am I being unreasonable?

Your child won't do this because they will like the stability of home. Ime kids def see through this stuff. The hardest bit will be deciding what to say to your child. The truth without judgement, imo

Dad decided he wanted to become a dive instructor and live on the beach. Dad hardly calls, never posts gifts, has young gf. Dad slags you off to child as no fun. Child sees aging old bloke on the beach spending all his money on a young gf, and think FFS. No wonder mum didn't go.

Child is not stupid. You don't react. You say ' Dad was different when we got married and then we wanted different things,

Def get everything signed and in your name though. And a new emergency contact for you and child, as clearly he will be too busy to pick up from school etc. And you don't want to be asking permission to move house, go on holiday outside the UK.

I really would put "what will people think of me?" to the bottom of your list of concerns right now. Adults will see his choices as a kind of crazy mid-life crisis. As for your child - young children value stability and security and generally hate the idea of changing schools or moving house - even to live in a holiday spot - because they know it is scary and difficult to make new friends. Once grown up, they'll see it as the adults do.
One suggestion - as long as you can afford it, I wouldn't argue about the money for the first course, so that he can't use it against you. But I would take steps to separate finances as a priority, so you don't end up financing further courses/qualifications and see a solicitor ASAP. Good luck!