Neighbours go to bed 1am and up at 5am we are knackered , detached house.

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We can hear our neighbours running up and down the stairs , they shout in the house, they shout to each other from the house to the end of the garden.You can hear every word.We hear them in the bathroom , word for word.
The worst thing is that they get up early and shout at each other in the front garden and slam their car doors at least ten times because they are unorganized and spend ages packing the car / going back into the house and slamming their side gate.
Am I being unreasonable and a grumpy neighbour ?
I don't want to be woken up at 5 - 6 am every morning if I have been at work all week.
I am tearful and grumpy all the time.
If they come home at midnight I am asleep and I hear word for word what the are saying to each other, it's a conversation that could wait until they get inside.Of course slamming doors and telling each other who needs a wee or a poo or a cup of tea or a shower first.
I know exactly who and when needs a poo , needs to put on deodorant, what activities they are going to , what they are having for dinner etc etc , with the windows and doors shut. Three generations living there and three children.
Our house is detached .

Before trying sleeping tablets what about speaking to the neighbours? They may have no idea how loud they are.

I've had an ongoing problem with mine so complained to the council in the end - who were very supportive. I was prepared to take it to court if necessary. Anyway, it seemed to do the trick and now we are on better terms, believe it or not and noise levels are down. I think my reaction to the noise was becoming more extreme and I was behaving very irrationally in the end - it started to consume me and cause physical pain in my head so something needed to be done. He still gets up at 6am every morning and wakes the whole of our household up but I can live with that.

I think I'd jokingly say to the neighbours next time you see them "Did you have a nice poo then other night?" And when they seem surprised, just say something like "Oh sorry! I didn't realise you didn't know that we can hear everything. Last week, you were talking about x, y and z".

It might make them think a bit.

Which law is this please?

How on earth are you hearing them in the bathroom or on the stairs if you're detached?! Are you houses made of straw or something? Or are you misunderstanding what detached means?

Our opposite neighbours are the same OP, they can't talk to each other and have to shout. They've got a dog so their kitchen door is always open whatever the weather and the shouting just carries. Some people just have no idea how loud they are.

I wonder if you might have misophonia and therefore a heightened awareness to noise, because living in a detached house you really shouldn't be hearing your neighbours going to the toilet unless you are literally straining – no pun intended – to listen.

I get it. And know how it affects you. Its awful day in day out dreading the noise or if they have company how loud will they be for how long? Awful way to live your life. Glad you got support from your council. Mine wasn't supportive unfortunately. Having to fight fire with fire now.

Oh they'll know...

I definitely recommend this as an immediate way to get respite. Even if you have money, it takes time to sell up. Moving bedrooms gives immediate relief from personal experience.

I'm amazed that the sound transmission is so bad in a 1930's house. My semi-detached house was thrown up built in 1946, and I only hear my neighbours talking occasionally, when we're both in the kitchen at the same time, although when their GCs visit they play a game that seems to be based on stomping up and down the stairs and making as much noise as possible (stairs are on the outside walls).

I wonder if it would be worth speaking to them, explaining that you can hear them talking and consequently know more than they'd probably like you knowing, eg who needs a dump and when, and asking if they could try and be a little quieter, especially late at night and early in the morning.

However, this also stood out for me:

I like to read and sit in my garden and not have TV or music because it annoys me.I like bird song , nature sounds etc .

I wonder if perhaps you are more sensitive to noise than most? I know I am, and I have to make a conscious effort not to get riled by it. A neighbour's boyfriend leaves for work around 5am when he stays over, and he has the music in the car on so loud that I can hear it clearly through closed, double glazed windows. It annoyed me to start with, now I just think "Oh, he's off to work" and go back to sleep.

I'm currently being annoyed by the noise of an angle grinder which has been going on since at least 8am, but I know it's unreasonable of me, so I'm doing my best to ignore it.

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Have you tried speaking to them? Most of the disturbances you list seem to be avoidable.

They may not, given it's a detached house. Worth a conversation.

I used to live very near an airport runway. We had good quality double glazing fitted and it blocked ALL sound. Windows open, ear rattlingly loud. Windows closed, total silence.

If they're selfish enough to do it in the first place, believe me, they'll not care and won't change just because OP isn't happy.

It’s ridiculous to be shouting and slamming car doors at 5am. If they don’t know how loud they are then they need to be told. Some people are completely clueless about their lack of basic etiquette and the effect it has on others. I’m not sure how you are hearing the internal stuff if you’re in a detached house. It seems quite an unusual problem.

OP if its that loud, make recordings and speak to the council.

I'm in a 1930s terrace. Before the current neighbours moved in I would have said it was very soundproof. Not so much now. For some reason we can hear everything - when they have people over we can hear them chatting and one night they had a row and I could hear it word for word. They wake me up every morning with the kids running around on the hard floor in shoes and screaming etc. Same thing with the constant in and out packing the car and kids hysterical because they don't want to go to nursery. Don't know why you're getting such a hard time on this thread, I can believe it!

Also ask your council for noise recording equipment to be installed due to the level of noise they've been making which is causing you distress OP.

White noise machine for your bedroom and you don't hear anything

No one should have to resort to ear plugs in their own home. Or white noise to block out the sound. We are all entitled to rest.

Worth a try, as several have said. We lived in a semi-detached and could hear particular sounds from the neighbours - I mentioned it to them once and they were surprised because they couldn't hear us and assumed we wouldn't hear them. They kindly made a few changes - radio against the other wall in the kitchen for example. Easily sorted.

I live in a terrace and can’t hear a thing!

I have neighbours that sit with their balcony doors open in summer, and they’re sort of diagonally across the street from me
I can hear the entire conversation because they’re drunk and doing that loud drunk not quite shouting voice. That’s through double glazing when I forgot to shut the top vent