Neighbours go to bed 1am and up at 5am we are knackered , detached house.

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We can hear our neighbours running up and down the stairs , they shout in the house, they shout to each other from the house to the end of the garden.You can hear every word.We hear them in the bathroom , word for word.
The worst thing is that they get up early and shout at each other in the front garden and slam their car doors at least ten times because they are unorganized and spend ages packing the car / going back into the house and slamming their side gate.
Am I being unreasonable and a grumpy neighbour ?
I don't want to be woken up at 5 - 6 am every morning if I have been at work all week.
I am tearful and grumpy all the time.
If they come home at midnight I am asleep and I hear word for word what the are saying to each other, it's a conversation that could wait until they get inside.Of course slamming doors and telling each other who needs a wee or a poo or a cup of tea or a shower first.
I know exactly who and when needs a poo , needs to put on deodorant, what activities they are going to , what they are having for dinner etc etc , with the windows and doors shut. Three generations living there and three children.
Our house is detached .

The first step is to politely let them know how much this disturbs you and what times and noises are unreasonable e.g. shouting and car doors banging outside before 8am. It might - just might! - be that they are unaware of how much noise they make or that it bothers you.

Yes, my neighbours were basically up til 1am, turning night into day, and we are all up at 6am. We were getting no sleep.

The new builds near me are incredibly close to together they're barely detached. So it's possible you can hear everything.

Surely that would mean people walking down the street of these new builds can hear everything going on inside too?

That doesn't work. We had the council involved with our dispute. Apparently its a "lifestyle clash" and nothing can be done. We got no apology from the neighbours either for the upset they caused. People like this don't care. They are selfish.

Who knows, I won't be buying one. We have found a solution without moving house. Just goes to show moving detached isn't always the answer...

The shouting outside at midnight / 5am is something that most people would consider unreasonable and it’s finitely worth asking them to keep it down. I’m not sure you’ll get much traction on the stuff inside their house because it doesn’t sound like they are doing anything particularly unreasonable (like playing very loud music). Are you in the uk? Do you have windows open?

Same. I'm in a mid terrace and we don't hear stuff like that from either side. Only ever hear DIY. Surprises me than more can be heard in a detached!

I don’t really know what you want me to say to this. Good for you, I suppose? I’m just sharing my own personal experience and potential ways to address.

You would not hear through the walls of a new build no matter how close. There are strict standards in place to prevent heat loss (and gain) and sound travel - cavity walls, massive insulation etc. I'm in a newish terraced house and hear nothing through the walls.

you need soundproofing and to start sleeping with ear plugs

With the exception of the stairs bit maybe the post is saying this is all taking place outside which would explain why audible?

@Galliano it was the stairs bit I personally was referring to. Probably the others were too.

You can hear every word.We hear them in the bathroom , word for word.

Isn't this referring to inside?

How is it possible you can hear this much is your houses are detached?

You can contact the council about how to gather data if they are shouting outdoors at unsocial hours.

You need to move I'm afraid.

Do you mean attached rather than detached? I can’t think that you hear so much in a detached house.

I dont think it's a mistake as it's in the heading and wording. This must be a wind up thread as no one in a detached house would be able to hear their neighbours walking up their own stairs, in the bathroom etc if you live in a detached house.

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my friend lives in a new build (well it was New five years ago) & he's in the middle of a terrace. You can hear everything from the neighbours both sides. He might as well knock through and live in one open space with the neighbours.

My neighbour is so loud. I’ve left WhatsApp messages for people when I’m inside my house and he can be heard chuntering away in the background. We are also detached. Thankfully don’t hear much from them when they are inside but in the garden he’s like a foghorn. It’s very annoying if they are in the garden early, and that he is so unaware that he is bellowing out that he needs a wee. On the plus side I feel under no obligation to them to be quiet. Not that we make noise routinely, but I feel no pressure on that score.

I'm with the other posters on here: how on earth can you hear so much in a detached house? Are you talking about the steps outside? Or so clearly when they are outside when all your windows and doors are shut, unless they are yelling their heads off?

I live in a terraced town house which was a new build 19 years ago. I can't hear conversations through the walls. I am sometimes aware of the presence of people on either side, and I don't mind that, but not the sort of thing the OP describes.

I’m in a new build terrace and I can’t hear my neighbours voices so don’t understand how you can in a detached house. Do you have windows wide open? Live in a tent???

There is detached and detached though.

There are some lovely detached homes with wraparound gardens built with solid stone where you would hope to not hear anything.

There are some there are a few metres apart but still in a row of houses where you would assume to hear some noise but not too much.

There are somehow however (mostly new builds) that are technically detached, but you'd struggle to get a cigarette paper between them. It doesn't really reduce the noise that much.

This! I'm in a mid terraced and hear nothing so completely perplexed how you hear it in a detached! I grew up in one too and there'd absolutely no way you would have heard conversations or people running up stairs!

Well the OP must have the hearing ability of a bat. To be sat in your own home and hear someone in the bathroom of their own home no matter how small the gap between two detached houses, is quite something.