Neighbours go to bed 1am and up at 5am we are knackered , detached house.

[Motheroffive999]

We can hear our neighbours running up and down the stairs , they shout in the house, they shout to each other from the house to the end of the garden.You can hear every word.We hear them in the bathroom , word for word.
The worst thing is that they get up early and shout at each other in the front garden and slam their car doors at least ten times because they are unorganized and spend ages packing the car / going back into the house and slamming their side gate.
Am I being unreasonable and a grumpy neighbour ?
I don't want to be woken up at 5 - 6 am every morning if I have been at work all week.
I am tearful and grumpy all the time.
If they come home at midnight I am asleep and I hear word for word what the are saying to each other, it's a conversation that could wait until they get inside.Of course slamming doors and telling each other who needs a wee or a poo or a cup of tea or a shower first.
I know exactly who and when needs a poo , needs to put on deodorant, what activities they are going to , what they are having for dinner etc etc , with the windows and doors shut. Three generations living there and three children.
Our house is detached .

I am in a terrace & can't hear my neighbours having conversations so I am confused how you hear them running up the stairs etc

I’d move
I don’t know what else you can do if the noise is that bad. Unless you want to go down the soundproofing route
white noise could be useful tho when you’re sleeping to help you drown them out

do you have double glazing? do you wear ear plugs? can you sleep at the back of the house?

How can you hear them if you are detached? They must be a terrible build quality of house!

Perfectly reasonable to ask them to keep it down eg not shouting outside at 5am

You hear them going up and down stairs? And you’re detached? What on earth are your houses built from? It sounds like they’re about an inch apart too if you can hear every word they say outside

How can you hear them when they shout in the house/ run up and down stairs ?

You say you’re in a detached house.

Am I missing something ?

Get some Loop earplugs. House must be made of cardboard!

I’ve lived in plenty of Victorian and Edwardian terraced housing where this has been the case. It is very frustrating - I think particularly if you’re a quiet household yourself, next door probably don’t realise how much you can hear. Unfortunately, there’s not much you can do apart from have a quiet word with them, or use some music/white noise.

I live in a flat and don't hear my neighbours conversations.

Are both houses made of paper? How can noise travel so much in detached houses?.

Just read again and realised you hear them talking in their bathroom too! I really don’t get it. We’re detached and can’t hear a thing.

Are your houses made of cardboard? Do you have particularly acute hearing? That's bizarre. Wear earplugs to bed? Move to a rural location?

I honestly think some people are just loud and can’t help it!
we’ve always had two men as our neighbours and never heard them!
they have recently moved out and one man has moved in, wow he is the noisiest human I’ve ever known.
I can hear his tv, walking, cupboards opening, playing Xbox.. but I’ve just accepted some people are loud. I’d rather not have an issues with my neighbour and they can probs hear noise too

Maybe just let them know you can hear them when they're outside. Ask if they could keep the conversation until they get inside, especially late at night / early morning.

I wouldn't say a word about hearing them when they're in the house because that's quite unusual!

I feel your pain ours are the same but we are semi detached with them so it’s just awful.

kids never have any bed time and run riot all day and night screaming at each other, no rules, no consequences it’s just awful. When we moved in neither of us had kids and honestly they were the perfect neighbours - now it’s utter hell and I’m in tears regularly. We are going to move, I just can’t take it anymore. Sadly can’t afford yet and will only move to detached in case we incurred this again with attached neighbours.

I can’t see how people especially children can survive on such little sleep. Maybe that’s why they’re so badly behaved?

I’ve lived in a Victorian terrace and haven’t heard this much conversation, noisy neighbours yes but it’s been music and shouting, never had this problem in a detached house.

i have only lived in detached homes for well over 20years, I have never heard a neighbour speak whilst in their home, let alone walk up the stairs, I wouldn’t have a clue what time my neighbours go to bed or get up. How can you be living detached and hear all this?

have a quick chat with them. Hopefully they will at least try. Invest in some good ear plugs too.
if that doesn’t work I would probably move.

We live in a terrace and can’t hear our neighbours this much - only a few muffled words if they’re shouting up and down the stairs, and the odd bark from the dogs.

Are the rest of your family being disturbed or is it just you? Have you tried earplugs?

Have you tried having a word with them OP?

The law states there should be quiet between the hours of 11 and 7. So it’s not unreasonable to expect they keep it down at those times, particularly outside the house in the street.

Is it a new build house @Motheroffive999? The new build estate by us has the houses so close together that I can well imagine neighbours can hear everything even though the houses are technically detached. The only permanent solution is to move house in that case!
I’ll second the suggestion for Loop Sleep earplugs, they work a treat for me to block out nighttime noise

And here was me thinking moving detached was the solution to our neighbour woes....instead we moved out bedroom to the living room, and our living room to the dining room. Our living room is now next to the neighbour's living room so we now fight fire with fire. TV blaring really loud against the party wall with F words banded about freely. They go out a lot now in the evenings. They've put us through hell, having late visitors talking loudly into the small hours. We have had it with them. Couldn't get any sleep. You have my sympathies though OP if this is happening in a detached property!

What sort of detached house is it? Is it only single glazed? Do you have your windows open all night? Maybe upgrade your windows.

The new builds near me are incredibly close to together they're barely detached. So it's possible you can hear everything.