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To be fuming at her for this!

422 replies

Sicksicksick9 · 19/04/2025 02:05

I own a caravan in Wales and I invited my best friend and her 4 children to come to it for the week for a free holiday with my DS4 her DC are 12, 8 8 and 9 months. started off well but 4 nights in and at 9pm her youngest started being sick now she’s been sick and her and all her kids have been sick at this point it’s now midnight and she’s like I wanna go home. We came in my car though so I’ve now had to cut my DS holiday short to go home in the middle of the night in a 3 hour drive sitting with kids being sick she’s refusing to let me drive my own car stating “not being funny but you’ll make everyone sick with your driving!” My DS is terrified of sick my friend has shouted at him to stop screaming when everyone’s being sick I just feel like this isn’t fair. I think if it was me I’d have seen the night out and got my partner to pick me up in the morning but she was having none of it!!
im angry to the point I don’t think I want to be around her anymore
not drip feed but earlier in the week she passed me her phone to fix something and she’d text her partner complaining about my DS because in her words is “a fucking nightmare” for crying over wanting a donut the crying lasted less than 5 mins yet I’ve listened to her youngest cry every hour of the day and not complained to anyone. Anyway am I being unreasonable to be fuming at going home in the middle of the night when her partner could have picked her up in the morning

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TheSlantedOwl · 19/04/2025 02:07

Why did you agree?

For me this would be the death of the friendship.

UncharteredWaters · 19/04/2025 02:07

Just don’t take her home. It can wait to morning.

crumblingschools · 19/04/2025 02:08

I’d be amazed if you won’t be sick in the next few hours

Eenameenadeeka · 19/04/2025 02:09

Oh dear sounds like a nightmare. Don't think I'd want to drive them all home vomiting in the middle of the night! A caravan isn't ideal either though. Why can't he pick them up now

Sicksicksick9 · 19/04/2025 02:10

She’s turned all the lights on and was packing woke my DS up who was shaking and crying about the sick and was throwing everything in my car I’m absolutely raging as I sit in the back of my car being driven 3 hours home stuck be tween kids being sick I really don’t think I can continue this friendship!
I hadn’t mentioned the text that I’d seen it because I didn’t wanna cause unnecessary tension for anyone but I’m so fucking angry

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Sicksicksick9 · 19/04/2025 02:10

Eenameenadeeka · 19/04/2025 02:09

Oh dear sounds like a nightmare. Don't think I'd want to drive them all home vomiting in the middle of the night! A caravan isn't ideal either though. Why can't he pick them up now

Apparently he’s been drinking

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Jumpingthruhoops · 19/04/2025 02:12

Sicksicksick9 · 19/04/2025 02:05

I own a caravan in Wales and I invited my best friend and her 4 children to come to it for the week for a free holiday with my DS4 her DC are 12, 8 8 and 9 months. started off well but 4 nights in and at 9pm her youngest started being sick now she’s been sick and her and all her kids have been sick at this point it’s now midnight and she’s like I wanna go home. We came in my car though so I’ve now had to cut my DS holiday short to go home in the middle of the night in a 3 hour drive sitting with kids being sick she’s refusing to let me drive my own car stating “not being funny but you’ll make everyone sick with your driving!” My DS is terrified of sick my friend has shouted at him to stop screaming when everyone’s being sick I just feel like this isn’t fair. I think if it was me I’d have seen the night out and got my partner to pick me up in the morning but she was having none of it!!
im angry to the point I don’t think I want to be around her anymore
not drip feed but earlier in the week she passed me her phone to fix something and she’d text her partner complaining about my DS because in her words is “a fucking nightmare” for crying over wanting a donut the crying lasted less than 5 mins yet I’ve listened to her youngest cry every hour of the day and not complained to anyone. Anyway am I being unreasonable to be fuming at going home in the middle of the night when her partner could have picked her up in the morning

Can you put a TW on this thread?Emetaphobia is a thing... 🤢

Pippa12 · 19/04/2025 02:12

Why did you agree to take her home/give her the keys to your car?

I agree you should not have to cut your holiday short, but you should have asserted yourself better. You might be glad tho if you and your son start vommiting soon. 7 poorly people in a caravan sounds horrific.

AutumnAir82 · 19/04/2025 02:14

Bin her off, she's selfish

Sicksicksick9 · 19/04/2025 02:15

Pippa12 · 19/04/2025 02:12

Why did you agree to take her home/give her the keys to your car?

I agree you should not have to cut your holiday short, but you should have asserted yourself better. You might be glad tho if you and your son start vommiting soon. 7 poorly people in a caravan sounds horrific.

I’m not great at asserting myself tbh I’m a very go with the flow person and she’s very I’m in charge bulldozing her way thru person so I did say I didn’t think it was a good idea and we should just stay but she was having none of it the keys were on the side and she just picked them up

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Snoopdoggydog123 · 19/04/2025 02:15

YABU. You're an adult with free will. You couldve taken your son into your room told her no and bedded down

Sicksicksick9 · 19/04/2025 02:16

Snoopdoggydog123 · 19/04/2025 02:15

YABU. You're an adult with free will. You couldve taken your son into your room told her no and bedded down

Sorry it’s a tourer so there are no separate rooms should have explained that

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HomeTheatreSystem · 19/04/2025 02:25

Is she even insured to drive your car??

Sicksicksick9 · 19/04/2025 02:27

HomeTheatreSystem · 19/04/2025 02:25

Is she even insured to drive your car??

It’s fully comp so third party insurance

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TheHouseElf · 19/04/2025 02:28

Act like a doormat, then don't be surprised when people walk all over you.

Stand up for yourself and your child. This woman is a CF. Get your car keys off her for one thing. If she's not insured on your car and she has an accident on the way back, you're well and truly stuffed.

Anononony · 19/04/2025 02:32

Sicksicksick9 · 19/04/2025 02:27

It’s fully comp so third party insurance

Have you checked? That's not a thing on most policies now, and it's usually down to what her insurance is, not yours. I was insured to drive other cars 3rd party at one point on my insurance, but other people couldn't drive mine unless they were named

TheSlantedOwl · 19/04/2025 02:35

She sounds an utter nightmare. But you’re allowing yourself to be bossed around.

UncharteredWaters · 19/04/2025 02:40

Sicksicksick9 · 19/04/2025 02:27

It’s fully comp so third party insurance

That usually means third party for you to drive other vehicles NOT other people to drive yours?!

claudiaswinklemen · 19/04/2025 02:40

Sicksicksick9 · 19/04/2025 02:27

It’s fully comp so third party insurance

Who is fully comp? You or her?

Sicksicksick9 · 19/04/2025 02:41

claudiaswinklemen · 19/04/2025 02:40

Who is fully comp? You or her?

Both of us are fully comp

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claudiaswinklemen · 19/04/2025 02:42

That’s lucky.

Pippa12 · 19/04/2025 02:45

Sicksicksick9 · 19/04/2025 02:41

Both of us are fully comp

Is she on your actual insurance policy as a named driver? If not, she is only 3rd party, no matter what she tells you.

DrPrunesqualer · 19/04/2025 02:47

Ten people in a car!

How?

Pippa12 · 19/04/2025 02:47

DrPrunesqualer · 19/04/2025 02:47

Ten people in a car!

How?

It’s 7 isn’t it?

Sicksicksick9 · 19/04/2025 02:50

Pippa12 · 19/04/2025 02:47

It’s 7 isn’t it?

It’s 7 I have a 7 seater

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