To be fuming at her for this!

[Sicksicksick9]

I own a caravan in Wales and I invited my best friend and her 4 children to come to it for the week for a free holiday with my DS4 her DC are 12, 8 8 and 9 months. started off well but 4 nights in and at 9pm her youngest started being sick now she’s been sick and her and all her kids have been sick at this point it’s now midnight and she’s like I wanna go home. We came in my car though so I’ve now had to cut my DS holiday short to go home in the middle of the night in a 3 hour drive sitting with kids being sick she’s refusing to let me drive my own car stating “not being funny but you’ll make everyone sick with your driving!” My DS is terrified of sick my friend has shouted at him to stop screaming when everyone’s being sick I just feel like this isn’t fair. I think if it was me I’d have seen the night out and got my partner to pick me up in the morning but she was having none of it!!
im angry to the point I don’t think I want to be around her anymore
not drip feed but earlier in the week she passed me her phone to fix something and she’d text her partner complaining about my DS because in her words is “a fucking nightmare” for crying over wanting a donut the crying lasted less than 5 mins yet I’ve listened to her youngest cry every hour of the day and not complained to anyone. Anyway am I being unreasonable to be fuming at going home in the middle of the night when her partner could have picked her up in the morning

Fully comp doesn’t automatically allow anyone to drive. I have fully comp and am the only insured driver. If anyone else drives it they would need to be insured to drive any car.

Just saying that so you can check or to clarify for others, it may just be your wording and that’s totally understandable, that sounds exhausting.

im sorry this happened to you x

@Sicksicksick9

My DD is 15 and has severe emetophobia, hardly anyone even knows what it is. That would've been absolute torture for your DS. He could be scarred for life. My DD has already had 27 therapy sessions and we're just scratching the surface.
OP send the cleaning bill for caravan and car and cut all contact. I hope your DS will be able to go back to your caravan 🥰

Driving other cars extension ( which is the bit in your policy that allows someone to drive your car is for emergencies only, you could argue that this is an emergency but I’m not sure your insurance company would agree)

No it’s not. Not in any policy will you find that the circumstances are mentioned. You either have DOC cover or you don’t. (Obviously there are likely to be conditions such as the other car has to have insurance in force and not be owned by your spouse).

Sorry just to clarify it’s a sited tourer so on a seasonal pitch. Also anybody can tow a caravan now as long as you’ve passed your driving test the rules changed after Covid :)

This 👆

The exact OP was posted a while back so why is it even back on here posing as a brand new thread. OP is still posting without making any reference to the fact I and another poster have said this thread is being duplicated but posing as new!

Do you know what this means or why it’s back on here as if it’s new and who or what is the OP posting?

Are you going to say why you are treating this thread as if it’s current and not something you sorted a while back? The exact same scenario down to every little detail cannot have happened twice in the space of a couple of weeks.

Not quite. Anyone can tow under 3.5tonne and @Redfloralduvet is likely correct that it would be over that limit. Additionally, just because you legally can doesn’t mean you should. Not relevant if this is sited but another instance where you need to be careful legally as, with the insurance, you only seem to know some of the rules.

Fully comp means YOU are insured to drive someone else's car with third party insurance.
She is only insured to drive yours if she has her own fully comp insurance in her name.

Only some times is this true. It depends on your individual insurance policy.

You ABUfor not standing your ground then coming here complaining

Is this post real? Or just.made up?

If it is real. This women and her kids are a grade one family of areseholes. Why are letting yourself being treated like this?

If she is a friend who needs enemies?

You need a crash course in assertiveness training.

If it is a made up. It makes me want to vomit as well.

Pass the sick bag Alice !!! as Peivate Eye used to say

That does not allow HER to drive YOUR car.

That still does not mean she’s insured to drive your vehicle unless her policy specifically says she can drive other vehicles, or, she’s a named driver on your policy. You are misunderstanding fully comprehensive.

https://www.confused.com/car-insurance/guides/driving-other-cars-on-your-car-insurance

Third party only applies if HER insurance covers her to drive other cars, it has nothing to do with yours.

It's all very odd and make some wonder about MN admin ethics. I see replicated scenarios time and time again. I will not be fooled.

She would not let you drive your car. Basically you did everything she told you t do and now you are moaning. Grow a backbone, stand up to her and tell her to go F**k herself. By the way , no one drives my car, not even my husband. not in a million years.

THIS

Is she always such a drama llama?

You clearly don’t have a good sense of how emetophobia or phobias in general work. He’s little. He clearly has a severe phobia, and phobias are not rational things. This isn’t him being silly, or needing to get a grip, it’s a kid who’s terrified of something and is now faced with that thing in a confined space and a stressful context, and he’s struggling to cope. I have the same phobia and at his age would have really, really struggled too. Maybe we could go with kindness rather than judgement here.

It’s not more important than others but the fact is, you’re scared of yourself.

If you’ve a phobia of flying, you don’t fly. Spiders? You can run the fuck away, clowns, I never see a clown. But when the thing you’re terrified of is something your body does, you can’t escape it.

And you’re not only on high alert when you’re actually ill. It’s all day everyday thinking this will be the day. Every bodily sensation is ‘is this it? Am I going to throw up?’ And the anxiety means you’re constantly nauseous so it’s a vicious cycle.

And on top of all this, many emetephobes develop anorexia because they’re too scared to eat in case it makes them sick.

This is just a very brief insight into why it’s so bad.

Trigger warnings help because an emetophobia brain will read this and panic that the caravan they’re going to next week will be the one it happened in or they’ll be terrified there is yet another bug going around that they will definitely catch. Both completely irrational but nothing about emetophobia is rational.

However, I do agree that it’s impossible to mage everyone’s triggers. But if you know what you’re writing could trigger someone, then it’s a nice thing to do to give a heads up.