To be fuming at her for this!

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I own a caravan in Wales and I invited my best friend and her 4 children to come to it for the week for a free holiday with my DS4 her DC are 12, 8 8 and 9 months. started off well but 4 nights in and at 9pm her youngest started being sick now she’s been sick and her and all her kids have been sick at this point it’s now midnight and she’s like I wanna go home. We came in my car though so I’ve now had to cut my DS holiday short to go home in the middle of the night in a 3 hour drive sitting with kids being sick she’s refusing to let me drive my own car stating “not being funny but you’ll make everyone sick with your driving!” My DS is terrified of sick my friend has shouted at him to stop screaming when everyone’s being sick I just feel like this isn’t fair. I think if it was me I’d have seen the night out and got my partner to pick me up in the morning but she was having none of it!!
im angry to the point I don’t think I want to be around her anymore
not drip feed but earlier in the week she passed me her phone to fix something and she’d text her partner complaining about my DS because in her words is “a fucking nightmare” for crying over wanting a donut the crying lasted less than 5 mins yet I’ve listened to her youngest cry every hour of the day and not complained to anyone. Anyway am I being unreasonable to be fuming at going home in the middle of the night when her partner could have picked her up in the morning

You sound so passive!

I would have refused to go home or for her to drive my car. She could arrange to be picked up when her DP sobered up.

You have allowed yourself to be bullied by this woman.

Oh goodness me, bulldozer is definitely the word.

I would not be able to come back from this.

is she familiar with caravans? When we had one there were a lot of preparations and checks to make sure it was safe to tow, hope it is all ok

What is strange? Are you thinking it’s a made up phobia?

it’s very real and scary for the person suffering

That would be the end of the friendship for me. More based on the message rather than the driving home incident (which I also think is unreasonable but I suppose people can panic and not think rationally during the night and when their kids are ill).

I just can't get over that there were 7 of you in one room in a caravan?!

The most amazing part of the story is that everything was ok for 4 days. 2 families, one room. One toilet. Pissing down with rain. Crying baby. I would have lasted a day max.

I don't think it's made up. I think it's strange that there is such a high concentration of emetophobics on MN.

She's an anxious mum dealing with a sick child. She's snippy
You should have said wait until the morning and get your DH to collect them I wouldn't have put s child that was being sick in a car.
You have to take responsibility for that you should just have said how ridiculous it was

You should have a least done the driving Op & had your son up next to you if safe so that she could look after her own sick kids.

I'd probably have & sleep & think about going back.

@Maddy70but did you see the bit where the OP said that the ‘friend’ said that OP’s DS is a ‘fucking nightmare’? That’s really unkind regardless of the circumstances.

People have phobias about all sorts of things. I have a friend who has a severe phobia of fish. She doesn’t shout at people who mention fish without warning her first, because she’s not an egomaniac.

youre taking the piss right?

I would have asked her to leave when saw the text rather than waiting to be sat in my own car surrounded by vomit.
Your poor little boy!

Yep sounds luke a nightmare even before the vomiting tbh.

Why are you friends op? She sounds horrendous.

Exactly this!
back to OP. The whole thing sounded like a nightmare before it began. 7 people in a tourer was never going to work, sounds absolutely grim.
I feel sorry for your neighbouring caravans who had to listen to all these shenanigans in the early hours. You’ll be popular.

It’s the OPs child, not the OP herself. My child also suffers with it.

I am not surprised that a forum with lots of parent posters have experienced emetophobia in their lives

If you behave like a doormat, then you're gonna get walked over.

Remember, "no" is a whole sentence.

But for what it's worth, you might be glad to be home in a few hours when you and your son also start chundering.

I've very recently learnt myself that holidays with other peoples kids are a recipe for disaster. I've recently returned from a holiday with a friend and her two kids. And frankly, some of their behaviour was embarrassingly bad. But lesson learned, I won't go away with them again. Or at least not for a lot of years.

That friendship is done

This thread is weird. I can 100% understand her wanting to go home, all her kids are throwing up and the rest of you are likely to be next. If not ill myself, I’d want to get home and give my caravan a deep clean.

For me this would be the death of the friendship

As a PP said. Leave this ‘friend’ to it now. Such a selfish mean person. You don’t need her in your life.

It’s actually yourself you are/should be angry with for being so wet and letting her take and drive your car! This could have waited until morning. She sounds unpleasant - I would be ditching this ‘friend’..

It’s a really shameful phobia for most sufferers as it’s completely illogical, and can really take over your life if you’re not able to get a grip on it. I imagine people who talk about it on an anonymous forum aren’t so open about it in real life. Nobody I know in real life knows the extent of my phobia or the avoidance behaviours it causes, but they will have heard me say things like I can’t do X because [insert literally any other excuse that sounds a smidge less insane e.g. “fear of flying” rather than “fear you MIGHT be seated next to someone with stomach bug and physically unable to move away.”]
At its height, it can also make people incredibly neurotic, self-centred, controlling and lose all perspective, hence PP’s inappropriate request for a trigger warning…

Utterly mad and stupid to invite 4 kids to spend a holiday with you. You would have had a brilliant time with just your son. Sounds like a nightmare from the start.

I hope this is a wake up call for you to end this friendship as she's a very selfish and mean git. You offer her a free holiday and she acts like a entitled spoilt brat. Send her a text to give you the fuel money for the journey, I bet you she won't and will further say horrible things to you for it. Please stop being so soft and allowing this attitude to carry on. She was awful about your son even though she bought 4 of hers along for free 🙄 let it be a lesson learnt for the future, holiday alone then to ever invite her again. Hopefully you both don't catch their V bug 🙏

You let her demand to drive your car and to shout at your kid. You should have said 'No.' and 'you do not shout at my child', at minimum.

Her having fully comprehensive insurance doesn't mean she has driving other cars included.