To be fuming at her for this!

[Sicksicksick9]

I own a caravan in Wales and I invited my best friend and her 4 children to come to it for the week for a free holiday with my DS4 her DC are 12, 8 8 and 9 months. started off well but 4 nights in and at 9pm her youngest started being sick now she’s been sick and her and all her kids have been sick at this point it’s now midnight and she’s like I wanna go home. We came in my car though so I’ve now had to cut my DS holiday short to go home in the middle of the night in a 3 hour drive sitting with kids being sick she’s refusing to let me drive my own car stating “not being funny but you’ll make everyone sick with your driving!” My DS is terrified of sick my friend has shouted at him to stop screaming when everyone’s being sick I just feel like this isn’t fair. I think if it was me I’d have seen the night out and got my partner to pick me up in the morning but she was having none of it!!
im angry to the point I don’t think I want to be around her anymore
not drip feed but earlier in the week she passed me her phone to fix something and she’d text her partner complaining about my DS because in her words is “a fucking nightmare” for crying over wanting a donut the crying lasted less than 5 mins yet I’ve listened to her youngest cry every hour of the day and not complained to anyone. Anyway am I being unreasonable to be fuming at going home in the middle of the night when her partner could have picked her up in the morning

I have literally never met anybody who is emetophobic in real life and yet somehow they are all over MN. Sorry random comment, it's just so strange.

Probably too late now but she (OW) can drive her kids home and bring your car back whilst you sleep/carry on with holiday. She can then go home on public transport/have husband collect her.

I hope you all got back safely.
How far away were you? I see you put her husband was drinking so couldn't collect them immediately, but could they have got a taxi?
I think she was rude to take your car keys and then drive. She should have asked you to drive them.

I don't think this friendship works with the children around. How long have you been friends? Do you usually do stuff with children? Your children are completely different ages and I don't think this holiday was going to be ideal with so many people in a small space and with the different ages of children. I also think you both should have considered what if something like this happened and maybe she should have brought her own car.

I know! It's also the only phobia I know of that seems to have such a need for control of others discussions!

Op for future situations you need to show your ds that you are in control of the situation and he doesn't need to worry.
You need to find your voice.

Did you at all tell your friend you wanted to drive your own car, it's ridiculous she "won't let you".

You're a grown woman, or are you saying she's kidnapped you?? If so, as someone else suggested, call the police.

Yeah I'd have told her to not take your car or I'd be calling the police to report TWOC.
No way in the world I'd let someone drive my car Third Party whilst they were I'll and had poorly kids in the car. Recipe for disaster.

Tbh I'd want to go home if my kids were vomiting and get them home where I am confident where everything is / husband etc

What an idiotic thing to do! Why would you put your kids through that? Being away from a toilet for 3 hours in a stuffy car would be a horrendous experience!

That doesn’t mean she was actually insured to drive your car.

I’m fully comp and so it my mother, I can’t drive my Mums car because my insurance doesn’t cover me to drive other peoples vehicles even 3rd Party. It’s a common misconception that just because you are both fully comp that you are insured to drive the other persons vehicle with consent. I wouldn’t have let her drive without evidence her insurance covered her to drive other vehicles 3rd Party.

No, it's just so MN 😆

Seven people in a caravan sounds like before everyone starts spewing tbf.

YANBU to be pissed off with her but she’s not being unreasonable to have a private rant to her husband about your kid annoying her.

YABU to let your friend walk all over you- if you don’t want her driving your car you shouldn’t let her.

Threads like this really frustrate me. If you didn't want someone to drive your car who in their right mind would let them drive their car? You take control of your keys and it's a matter of telling them that they either get in the back or get on Uber.

I have it, it’s horrible.
Made me suicidal at one point. Didn’t leave my home for a year at another. Led to an eating disorder as my eating became so disordered. I am tall and was six stone, my hair was falling out, I looked and felt awful.
However, had some therapy which really helped and manage it better now as I’m still reading this thread.
While I agree that it’s not in the same category as other traumas mentioned it can be life changing.
It is a horrible condition which can take over your life. I couldn’t even watch TV or read a book.
It is a horrible, horrible way to live.
I am so lucky I got some help which got to the root of it.

I have.

It's a real thing for a friend of mine. She chose not to have children because of the inevitable vomit.

Same. I tell people it’s because I never met the right person.

Sorry OP, but this is on you.

Letting other people walk all over you and then whining about it afterwards only hurts you and your child. Your child is suffering because you’ve passively allowed this situation happen.

You need to remember this low point and use it to improve your boundary and assertiveness skills. Read some books and consider hypnosis to change how you deal with your fear of dominant people.

Learn to say NO and mean it.

edit: I’d wallop anyone who tried to nick my car keys and drive my car, even DH! 😂

Your friend is a bitch for putting you in the firing line of all her children's puke! She just didn't want to get her clothes dirty! Good luck with the inevitable sick bug coming your way. Ditch her and be more assertive next time someone tries to bulldoze you.

Call it a day OP and chalk it up to experience. Grow a set of balls whilst you are at it too. I am quite short and to the point sorry! Mind you trying to read your thread was semi pointless as it has been taken over with pages of trigger warning arguments...why people cannot just leave it or scroll past is beyond me..

And yet you're still here. 🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️

You let her drive your(!) car on a long journey with only 3rd party?! And are you sure your/her insurance actually has this? It used to be standard but hasn’t been for a good few years now. I know some can only afford 3rd party but if your car is of any value why would you allow this?!! Oh & yes, friendship should definitely be over.

And yet, here you are, still reading.

It’s annoying but whatever it is- you’re probably both going to get it. So I’d clean the car today. Have a nice day with your Son to calm down.
then see how you feel. If no one is being sick- I’d go back for a few more days.

i think she was mad for thinking she would drive your car. I would have said no incase she was struck down ill.

i think you could learn a lesson here and always travel down separately if going away in a group in future. So people can leave separately. I hope you and your son escape the bug @Sicksicksick9

How big is your car??

Yes good point. My mum’s insurance means I can drive her car but if I had an accident it would only be covered if I wasn’t at fault. So it’s not fully comp for others driving.

I can’t be reading all this OP because you REALLY should have found your voice, said NO and stood your ground. you’ve let her walk all over you and traumatised your kid in the meantime.

it astounds me how many people on here just have no ability to say no. Your friend is a cow, but you have choices , you were just weak in the moment , everyone should have stayed out until this morning and your friends partner should have come. That’s really the simple answer here. The action that was taken by you both was batshit crazy.

I can’t see how five young children and two adults in a caravan for a whole week, especially when from different families, was going to be anything other than a disaster. Even more so when everyone has travelled together and so can’t leave independently.