To be fuming at her for this!

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I own a caravan in Wales and I invited my best friend and her 4 children to come to it for the week for a free holiday with my DS4 her DC are 12, 8 8 and 9 months. started off well but 4 nights in and at 9pm her youngest started being sick now she’s been sick and her and all her kids have been sick at this point it’s now midnight and she’s like I wanna go home. We came in my car though so I’ve now had to cut my DS holiday short to go home in the middle of the night in a 3 hour drive sitting with kids being sick she’s refusing to let me drive my own car stating “not being funny but you’ll make everyone sick with your driving!” My DS is terrified of sick my friend has shouted at him to stop screaming when everyone’s being sick I just feel like this isn’t fair. I think if it was me I’d have seen the night out and got my partner to pick me up in the morning but she was having none of it!!
im angry to the point I don’t think I want to be around her anymore
not drip feed but earlier in the week she passed me her phone to fix something and she’d text her partner complaining about my DS because in her words is “a fucking nightmare” for crying over wanting a donut the crying lasted less than 5 mins yet I’ve listened to her youngest cry every hour of the day and not complained to anyone. Anyway am I being unreasonable to be fuming at going home in the middle of the night when her partner could have picked her up in the morning

Yes you are right!

Seven!

Standing down 🤣🤣
or should I say 🤢

Tbh I'd want to go home if my kids were vomiting and get them home where I am confident where everything is / husband etc but she shouldn't have dragged you into going home - get the OH or someone else to get them!
The bitching about your child is another matter - maybe take a step back from all this once all sorted. Are you going home? Surely not driving straight back!

Tell her to pull over, and tell her you are driving and she can sit with her kids. Who cares what she says tell her it is your vehicle and what you say goes. She sounds horrible.

To invite a grown-up and 4 children to a caravan? A caravan?

I think OP is secretly messaging MNetters from the back of the car….hopefully not covered in sick

No, I know - does not sound fun one bit!!

I'm not sure I'd have let her drive... regardless of the comment!
I mean OP surely isn't going to drive back once her friend / ex friend and sicky sprogs are home? That would he 6 hours driving time altogether!

(Sorry for edit)

I wouldn’t have left in the first place but at this time of night I’m less willing to do anything for anyone.
Including hubby 🤣🤣

FFS.

What do you mean FFS!? Educate yourself!

Your triggers are your responsibility to manage.
Just as other people's are theirs to manage. And just as mine are mine to manage.

It's not OPs responsibility to manage your phobia. If you're so phobic of vomit you can't cope without a trigger warning, a parenting forum probably isn't the best place to spend your time.

This request to put bloody trigger warnings.

Trigger warnings are for genuine triggers, such as sexual abuse, rape, that kind of thing.

If you’re on a parenting forum then people are going to talk about vomit because, newsflash, kids throw up.

And clearly you’re not that “triggered”if you’re still reading.

Plus @Jumpingthruhoops you really wouldn’t have got this far down the thread as we’re all posting green vomiting gifs. Those of us in the UK or nearby are still up at 3:29pm unable to sleep and some may even be up with vomiting kids.

Its too much to cope with TW requests for this ….honestly……just too much.

Personally I want to see if OP gets home OK and her car isn’t ruined

Oh no wrong one.
Wow so similar though
Another try
Yay!

Just trying to keep your spirits up OP 💐

Sounds horrible! I wish you had stood your ground and refused to leave and hid your keys. But don’t beat yourself over it. Sounds like you are outnumbered.

If I’m honest, as soon as I saw you have one kid and she has 4 kids, I was thinking ‘this will be a disaster’.

You should never have offered this holiday, OP. But the silver lining is hopefully after this you’ll never have to see her again.

Ask her for petrol money.

Ahhh right... so a parenting forum wouldn't have trigger warnings relating to threads on miscarriage, stillbirth or sexual assault? People who've experienced that should just 'manage their own triggers'?
Are you for real? That is literally the point of a trigger warning: for people to warns others that a thread my be triggering.🤦‍♀️
There was nothing in this thread title to suggest it would have anything to do with my particular phobia; if there was, I wouldn't have clicked on it. So a TW would have been very helpful.

Sounds like she’s very self centred and has struggled in the caravan (so have you though). She’s just snapped and not considered your needs. I have a friend like this. She can’t tolerate much in terms of change and then can’t think of anything but her own needs so I know how awful it must feel for you.

Sounds like you’ve been generous & kind offering to share your caravan especially with such a young baby but she doesn’t seem to have as much tolerance as you. She was disrespectful sending a text like that. I don’t think you need to make any decisions about your friendship at the moment but I do feel you need to have a holiday from her for sure!

Lesson learned hey! Don’t invite people to share your space again. Try not to give it too much headspace. It’s done now. Just have a thinking few weeks about the friendship and if it’s really worth your time.x

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You’re seriously equating a stillbirth with emetophobia?

Why didn’t you stop reading at the first mention of someone ‘being sick’?

You’re actually comparing a fear of 🤮 to stillbirth and you’re telling to people to get real?

How fucking offensive can you get?

I haven't got 'that far down the thread'; as soon as I saw what it was about I stopped reading. If there's a warning beforehand, I wouldn't have clicked on it at all.
My message was to the OP. As you quite evidently know nothing about this phobia/illness, you've really no business responding.

You're the one with the car so you control when it leaves and who drives it. It doesn't sound like the illness is life-threatening or that the children are being taken somewhere where they'll get care, so it would have been safest and most sensible to wait until morning. And of course you don't have to let someone else drive your car; I wouldn't. If she picks up the keys and acts like she's going to take the car after you've said no, tell her you'll call the police.

It's pointless to let yourself be bullied and then ask if minding the bullying is unreasonable, though. Ending the friendship sounds like a great idea, if you decide you want that, because she treats you like crap and it's not great for your kids (or hers) to see that.

I did!

Presumably because they wanted to derail the thread with a load of pointless bullshit.

Triggering my arse.

Clearly it’s not that bad if they’re still reading.

And to compare the fear of sick to stillbirth is beyond offensive.