To think this was not appropriate for MIL to say in front of DD

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My Dad died last week. Went to visit MIL with DD (15) and DH today. MIL asked how we all were and before I had chance to finish my sentence she started to talk about the loss of her own Dad. Lots have people have done this over the past week, it does seem to trigger people to talk about their own experiences (something I’ll try very hard not to do in the future as I’ve found it quite difficult to listen to other people’s bereavement stories, it’s quite exhausting to give them the appropriate response/empathy etc when you’re going through it yourself). Anyway, that’s not what my AIBU is about.

She then said that after her Dad died, she lost a baby so it was a particularly difficult time. This has never been spoken about in front of DD before. I’ve been aware that she had a miscarriage.

I was just stunned that she thought there and then was the time to mention it. DD is trying to come to terms with the loss of her grandad and now we’re having to explain miscarriages etc to her. Seems incredibly insensitive. I’m just venting here, I’d never say anything to DH or MIL, just wondering if I’m the one being over sensitive given the timing or if others agree with my thoughts.

I'd imagine that hearing that 'grannie' lost a child and a parent at the same time would be upsetting to many children. Understanding what a miscarriage technically means is a bit different to knowing that a (probably much loved) family member has endured one and the aftermath especially at the moment for the DD. Maybe because her grandad had died less than a week before it's a particularly sensitive time and she is feeling more vulnerable than she usually would?

YABU, why is your daughter going to be ’coming to terms about her grandmothers miscarriage, surely that’s not her her most pressing concern. Huge overreaction.