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Trans people

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Mog65 · 17/04/2025 16:46

Firstly, I'm a trans ally

Everyone is up in arms about trans women. What seems to be forgotten these people are human beings. Where is humanity. You have probably been sharing toilets and coming into contact with trans women every day and have no idea. You only hear about the few bad ones. In a public toilet, you go into a cubical and pee. Its not like you're sat there in full public view with your knickers at your ankles.

What has been forgotten also, as many females are changing to. So trans men. So you're in hospital in a ward. The woman in the next bed, identifys as George, clit is now a penis fully working and you're in the next bed! Same person can wander around female only spaces as the law has changed. George can now only be searched by a female. By the way George a transgender man is a pervert! All hypothetical but nobody has brought this up.

Just a thought.

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Zanzara · 17/04/2025 17:51

oncemoreuntothebeachdearfriends · 17/04/2025 17:33

So how do they make imitation bollocks?
Asking for a friend.

While they're carving away at the arm anyway, they can harvest any spare elbow skin. I'm a Billy Connolly fan, and I'm sure that's what they'd do.

ODFOx · 17/04/2025 17:51

DuesToTheDirt · 17/04/2025 17:29

@ODFOx What will happenis that in some cases, where need can be proven, some facilities may become natal women only: for example the patient loos on some hospital wards that all visitors used to be able to use, or in some religious or refuge situations. Need must be proven and provision made for anyone excluded by the selective nature.

No, we don't need to prove a need in order to make toilets only for "natal women" (let's make that just "women", eh?). It's not just about patient toilets, or refuges. It's not just "some cases". Any and all toilets that are for women are just for women. There is a need for single-sex toilets wherever possible, i.e. just about everywhere except small cafes with one toilet. This need is clear and obvious to almost everyone.

And of course there is "provision made for anyone excluded by the selective nature." if by that you mean "men excluded from women-only toilets". Those men go in the men's. Job done.

I was stating the legal ramification of todays ruling, without bias or emotion.
The Supreme Court ruling is not a carte blanche for ‘women only options for everything’ , and most importantly ( at least for your point) it does not prevent transwomen , men, or grizzly bears using the women’s toilets. That isn’t what the equality act is for. It states that everyone should have essentially similar access and opportunity except where a special characteristic overrides this or warrants particular consideration.

AskingQuestionsAllTheTime · 17/04/2025 17:52

LesMisSaigon · 17/04/2025 17:16

@LobeliaBaggins Most of us are not allies. Now we have legal backing
Who the hell are 'Most of us'? Speak for yourself.

Going by the poll, "most of us" is 92%. I think that constitutes a majority.

FOJN · 17/04/2025 17:53

Oh honey, did you think you could drop by and appeal to female socialisation with a couple of paragraphs of "be kind" and we'd all see the error of our ways and beg forgiveness?

Women do not want men, any men, however they identify, however powerful their girly feels are in our spaces. We cannot trust politicians and the judicial system to protect us and our rights to privacy, safety, dignity and fairness in competitive sport. We tried and were abused whenever we pointed out the problems with allowing some men into our spaces so now the answer is no, don't ask again. Women are human beings too.

There are no hormones, surgery or wishful thinking that can turn a clitoris into a fully functioning penis but you keep pedaling that lie and more confused and distressed young women will die trying to make it happen.

ohdelay · 17/04/2025 17:53

SporadicMincePieMuncher · 17/04/2025 17:43

I'm not sure I want to know the answer to this but I'll ask...
Have I got this right - to date, no phalloplasty performed on a female bodied person has produced a structure that functions as a thing to urinate from?

That's absolutely fucking tragic and it's barbaric to put people through that.

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That's right, they just go for something that looks like a bulge and hope it doesn't get infected, atrophy or fall off in the future. There doesn't seem to be the drive to get the plumbing right for transmen.

BrilliantBrilliant · 17/04/2025 17:53

Genevieva · 17/04/2025 17:23

As I said elsewhere earlier today:
There are women and men. There are a small percentage of men with a wide variety of conditions that should not be banded together under the misnomer ‘trans women’. These include transsexuals, transvestites, autogynephiles, misogynistic narcissists who get kicks out of encroaching on women’s spaces, sexual predators who masquerade as women in order to access women only spaces and assault them, and autistic men and boys who have been groomed by trans activists. Grouping these very different people together allows criminals to hide in plain sight behind the benign and the vulnerable.

This 💯.

Why do people not get this.

StupidBoy · 17/04/2025 17:54

I'm sorry but no clitoris that has been turned into a 'penis' of sorts could ever be described as 'fully working.'

FOJN · 17/04/2025 17:54

oncemoreuntothebeachdearfriends · 17/04/2025 17:33

So how do they make imitation bollocks?
Asking for a friend.

Manufactured implants. No idea what they are made of.

Feelingleftoutagain · 17/04/2025 17:54

Trans ally it's lovely that you feel you need to speak, however have you been confronted by a 6ft man wearing a dress demanding he has the right to be in that toilet, even though you are in there your own and haven't spoken? Have you been to a womans rally and had men dressed up with brightly coloured hair shouting about trans rights in your face and pushing you about because you wanted to listen to a woman talking about womans rights? I can tell you it's scary, womans spaces need to be protected

StMarie4me · 17/04/2025 17:54

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BundleBoogie · 17/04/2025 17:54

Mog65 · 17/04/2025 16:53

The clitoris is used in the making of the penis.

You can’t ‘make’ a penis. HTH.

NessieDoesExistYes · 17/04/2025 17:55

Mog65 · 17/04/2025 16:46

Firstly, I'm a trans ally

Everyone is up in arms about trans women. What seems to be forgotten these people are human beings. Where is humanity. You have probably been sharing toilets and coming into contact with trans women every day and have no idea. You only hear about the few bad ones. In a public toilet, you go into a cubical and pee. Its not like you're sat there in full public view with your knickers at your ankles.

What has been forgotten also, as many females are changing to. So trans men. So you're in hospital in a ward. The woman in the next bed, identifys as George, clit is now a penis fully working and you're in the next bed! Same person can wander around female only spaces as the law has changed. George can now only be searched by a female. By the way George a transgender man is a pervert! All hypothetical but nobody has brought this up.

Just a thought.

The law makes it very clear why this is going to change.

Your opinion is just that.

PrimalLass · 17/04/2025 17:55

FrippEnos · 17/04/2025 17:18

One of the reasons that I feel sorry for trans people is that they are being sold the lie of a "fully functioning" opposite sex body and then find out that its not what is being done to them.

This is so apparent on places like Reddit. For a long time any 'bad news' would have been deleted and the person banned.

AshesofTime · 17/04/2025 17:56

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Even if it's not a fad and there have been transpeople forever, why does that mean males should be allowed in female single-sex spaces? After all, they've only changed their gender, right?

Women aren't a fad. Women have existed forever. Women have been abused by males forever. Women have every right to uphold their boundaries even if that makes transwomen sad.

Fingernailbiter · 17/04/2025 17:57

CarrotParrot · 17/04/2025 16:53

Clit is now a fully working penis?

Bollocks

And George won’t have them either.

AshesofTime · 17/04/2025 17:57

PrimalLass · 17/04/2025 17:55

This is so apparent on places like Reddit. For a long time any 'bad news' would have been deleted and the person banned.

I was banned on Reddit because someone posted that banning male athletes from female sports wouldn't help anyone. I simply replied that it would help the women and girls who are competing and deserve fair sports. Banned for hate speech!

It's insane in so many ways on there.

bridgetreilly · 17/04/2025 17:57

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Research shows that the threat of increased suicide is not substantiated.

Also it is not hating a trans person to point out that they are suffering body dysmorphia or autogynaephilia, so that psychiatric treatment is more likely to help them than going along with their self-delusion. It is actually wanting the best for them.

Themaghag · 17/04/2025 17:58

Mog65 · 17/04/2025 16:53

The clitoris is used in the making of the penis.

In practice very few trans men opt for phalloplasty because it has an 85 percent failure rate and even when the operation is successful an erection is only achievable with mechanical support. Trans men are the least of our problems.

FruityCider · 17/04/2025 17:58

What would be really fucking nice is, just for a change, trans-identifying individuals and their allies showed a tiny shred of concern for women.

All women are in danger here. Gay women, women seeking abortion, immigrant women, big burly bald women with elevated testosterone and hair all over them (apart from head) due to medical treatment are affected, selfishly, just like me. And actually, effeminate men who like wearing make up and dresses, but still call themselves men. Everyone is going to affected by this. Don't think this will stop here.

The right to call yourself as you choose is inalienable.

Gloriia · 17/04/2025 17:58

I really hope the madness of the last few years is coming to an end all the pronouns nonsense and calling people like Eddie Izzard she became he's having a day in heels.

Wear a dress, wear a man's suit whatever you like just don't expect people to agree that you've had a sex change.

AshesofTime · 17/04/2025 17:59

bridgetreilly · 17/04/2025 17:57

Research shows that the threat of increased suicide is not substantiated.

Also it is not hating a trans person to point out that they are suffering body dysmorphia or autogynaephilia, so that psychiatric treatment is more likely to help them than going along with their self-delusion. It is actually wanting the best for them.

The suicide threats are classic abusive male aren't they? Very "If you leave me, I'll kill myself" vibes.

AccidentallyWesAnderson · 17/04/2025 17:59

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Parody? Very good.

Totallymessed · 17/04/2025 17:59

Shegotanology · 17/04/2025 17:07

I'm not quite sure why women are so scared of trans women.
They've been around for longer than people realise without much fanfair.
I don't know of anyone assaulted by a trans person. I'm not saying that doesn't happen but it's not something you see in comparison to how many women are killed by men.

Because transwomen are men. They commit violence and sex offences at the same rate as other men. The reason you are more likely to know someone raped by a "cis"man is simply because they are the larger group. In the same way you are more likely to know a woman who has been raped by a male driver of any colour car than you are to know someone raped by a man who drives a yellow car.

BMW6 · 17/04/2025 17:59

Having just seen photos and descriptions of Metoidioplasty surgery I feel sorry for anyone who does that to themselves.

So they can pee through it - often standing up - but it's only 4 - 6 cms long (teeny tiny), unattractively pointy and cannot be used for penetrative sex.

So no, not a fully functioning penis. You may be able to pee standing like a bloke, but is that worth all the pain and disfigurement?

spannasaurus · 17/04/2025 18:00

The supreme court judgement means that should George or any other transman become pregnant they are eligible for pregnancy and maternity legal provisions. If they were legally male those provisions would not apply to them.