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Mog65 · 17/04/2025 16:46

Firstly, I'm a trans ally

Everyone is up in arms about trans women. What seems to be forgotten these people are human beings. Where is humanity. You have probably been sharing toilets and coming into contact with trans women every day and have no idea. You only hear about the few bad ones. In a public toilet, you go into a cubical and pee. Its not like you're sat there in full public view with your knickers at your ankles.

What has been forgotten also, as many females are changing to. So trans men. So you're in hospital in a ward. The woman in the next bed, identifys as George, clit is now a penis fully working and you're in the next bed! Same person can wander around female only spaces as the law has changed. George can now only be searched by a female. By the way George a transgender man is a pervert! All hypothetical but nobody has brought this up.

Just a thought.

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BrilliantBrilliant · 18/04/2025 08:57

BelfastBard · 18/04/2025 07:48

Because the unwritten rule has been that trans people can say and do as they please without reproach because they’re “vulnerable”…

This. They are vulnerable. Women have always been told to move aside or shut up or worse if they stand up to the TRA rape threats and violence.

PaterPower · 18/04/2025 09:00

CarrotParrot · 17/04/2025 16:53

Clit is now a fully working penis?

Bollocks

They can’t manufacture working testicles either 😁

But yeah… bollocks!

AnSolas · 18/04/2025 09:05

Dandie55 · 17/04/2025 20:30

Of course, but that hinges on the idea that you always clock them as a trans man and not just a man, and I'm just wondering what happens when they are mistaken for a male, particularly if their identification has been changed to male etc. I just wonder if this might make people bolder in challenging those where they are a bit unsure on their sex, as the law is on their side now and what actually happens in that situation.

No one gave a shit about them til now, weird eh?

I have a relative who is a trans man so I always did. Might be the motivator here tbh. But yes of course I've seen trans men that don't pass, but in online spaces I've seen plenty that very much do. Met plenty of short males in my time too.

I suppose the ones that do pass will just carry on using the men's toilets if they do so already actually.

Funny how the prison system will place males without a GRC into womens prisons but not risk women in mens prisons.

Note the police recorded the womans gender not sex so unless the police system has two individual fields for sex and for gender they continue to have a risk of this happening again.

www.news.sky.com/story/amp/woman-wrongly-processed-as-man-and-sent-to-all-male-prison-13243357

An investigation has been launched after a woman was wrongly processed as a man and sent to an all-male prison.
The blunder occurred last week after the female inmate was passed into the care of the Scottish Prison Service (SPS) with incomplete information about their sex.
It is understood the woman was processed as a man due to her appearance.
Once the gaffe came to light at HMP Perth, the woman was kept in segregation overnight and transported to the female prison estate the following morning.
Police Scotland said it is reviewing its custody procedure to avoid a repeat of the incident.
The mistake occurred after the woman appeared at a Sheriff Court in Fife and was remanded in custody.
A force spokesperson said: "On Monday 21 October, an individual was passed into the custody of the Scottish Prison Service with incomplete information about their gender.
"We are reviewing our custody procedure to ensure this does not happen again."

Futurehappiness · 18/04/2025 09:13

AInightingale · 18/04/2025 08:56

Webberley on X yesterday:

'Message to the little ladies out there nervously clutching their handbags, fumbling for their pearl necklaces, waiting for the Supreme Court to decide whether their precious space might be invaded: By those terrifying creatures with.… a PENIS. Here's an idea: Get a life.'
And:
'This Dad [a man who objected to adult men in changing rooms] is sending a clear message to his nine year old daughter that men are to be feared. No they are not, stop giving young girls this message.'

Those who would harm and endanger children and are cavalier about women's protections are ALWAYS on the same side.

I thought about how I could write a point by point rebuttal of this, but on reflection I don't think it is necessary. The sneering, belittling misogyny & contempt for women's boundaries is there for all to see.

And yes men ARE to be feared. We all know it, and the VAWG statistics confirm what we all know.

Merrymouse · 18/04/2025 09:19

Shelagh Fogarty on LBC yesterday

Caller: ‘The number of trans people in jail is not statistically significant.’
SF: ‘It is if they raped you’

aaargh! Most men aren’t rapists. Many men are members of groups that are very small in size. It doesn’t therefore follow that a man who is a member of a small group shouldn’t be treated like any other man.

Well said Shelagh!

Fimofriend · 18/04/2025 09:21

Screamingabdabz · 17/04/2025 18:25

Actually you make a good point about respect - we hear all the bleeding heart rhetoric about special men but we never hear about the outrageous DISRESPECT (and worse) that this ideology is to women.

No respect at all for the experience of women, who let’s not forget are still abused and used as a weapon of war around the world. Still groomed, killed and enslaved by violent men even in our own country. Our biological experience still waved away as if it’s nothing. Still paid significantly less and a myriad of other sex discrimination.

What makes trans women so much more valuable than actual women?

What makes transwomen more valuable than women is that they are men. Everybody knows it. Everybody has always known it. They are men.

Merrymouse · 18/04/2025 09:22

Futurehappiness · 18/04/2025 09:13

I thought about how I could write a point by point rebuttal of this, but on reflection I don't think it is necessary. The sneering, belittling misogyny & contempt for women's boundaries is there for all to see.

And yes men ARE to be feared. We all know it, and the VAWG statistics confirm what we all know.

I could write a point by point rebuttal of this

I think the Supreme Court have covered that!

ThatCyanCat · 18/04/2025 09:22

When pressing for men in women's spaces, it's always the biggest, most important civil rights movement of our time. When women object, it's always so tiny and insignificant a matter that they shouldn't be concerned with it.

Silversixpenny · 18/04/2025 09:23

PaterPower · 18/04/2025 09:00

They can’t manufacture working testicles either 😁

But yeah… bollocks!

Literally

MissScarletInTheBallroom · 18/04/2025 09:27

Merrymouse · 18/04/2025 09:19

Shelagh Fogarty on LBC yesterday

Caller: ‘The number of trans people in jail is not statistically significant.’
SF: ‘It is if they raped you’

aaargh! Most men aren’t rapists. Many men are members of groups that are very small in size. It doesn’t therefore follow that a man who is a member of a small group shouldn’t be treated like any other man.

Well said Shelagh!

He's wrong anyway.

The number of trans people in jail - and in particular the type of crime that they tend to be in jail for - is statistically significant.

It is significant because it shows that trans women are certainly no less likely to commit sex crimes than other men, and may even be more likely to do so.

The statistics can only mean the following:

A) trans women are more likely to be sex offenders than any other group

B) male sex offenders are likely to claim a transgender identity, either in order to commit crimes more easily or after they are caught

or

C) trans women are not more likely to be sex offenders than other men, but they are more likely to be caught and sent to prison

Even if the truth is C), you cannot get away from the fact that a non-negligible number people who are or claim to be trans women are sex offenders.

Fimofriend · 18/04/2025 09:27

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Fimofriend · 18/04/2025 09:29

spannasaurus · 17/04/2025 18:37

Chase Strangio had to admit that the suicide claim is untrue in a recent case on the US Supreme Court

https://www.city-journal.org/article/aclu-attorney-confesses-transgender-suicide-claim-is-a-myth

But when they do commit suicide it is often after the surgery when they found out that they were sold a lie.

merrymelodies · 18/04/2025 09:36

KarmaKameelion · 17/04/2025 17:18

One thing I think of is that there are people who lost their jobs, livelihoods, got cancelled,because they feel that a woman is an adult human female.

i don’t really care about whose toilet someone wees in but i care about people being allowed to have an opinion that is not the same as theirs.

Absolutely! 👏

Fimofriend · 18/04/2025 09:40

Teddlesisagoodboy · 17/04/2025 19:17

How many men are going to go to the effort of dressing up as a woman to go in a woman's bathroom just so they can molest women. Get a brain and a life!

Well, there was this bloke in America who hid in a septic tank to sneak a peak at naked women, so ....

jerkchicken · 18/04/2025 09:47

Teddlesisagoodboy · 17/04/2025 18:58

What I don't understand about all these idiots going on about no penis in female places is what is to stop any man wandering in a female toilet right now, if that's what they want to do. If they want to go in a toilet and molest someone, which tbh most of them don't bother to go to that effort to molest someone, then they can? There's no bouncers on the door. What is the issue. Are you all terrified of men if you are say alone with them other places, like at work, or seeing the doctor or dentist or something. You are all so embassing.

Total nonsense. If this is the case and men can just assault anyone wherever they please, why do trans women claim they are safer in women’s facilities than men’s? The irony of calling us “idiots” after making such a comment.

Teddlesisagoodboy · 18/04/2025 09:55

I never or anyone I know has ever been assaulted by a trans woman in a toilet ITS A MADE UP ISSUE. I have been assaulted by men in broad daylight, in the street, in a club surrounded by people, at home, in relationships. Men are more of an issue than trans women, there are more of them too.

LobeliaBaggins · 18/04/2025 10:00

Teddlesisagoodboy · 18/04/2025 09:55

I never or anyone I know has ever been assaulted by a trans woman in a toilet ITS A MADE UP ISSUE. I have been assaulted by men in broad daylight, in the street, in a club surrounded by people, at home, in relationships. Men are more of an issue than trans women, there are more of them too.

You cant make it up.

DuesToTheDirt · 18/04/2025 10:00

BowTiesPinkTail · 17/04/2025 21:03

I, a cis woman, am very devastated for the trans population. We are moving backwards, not forwards in terms of equality. I will continue to teach my children that trans women are women, and trans men are men and that trans rights are human rights because I am not an inhumane monster.

And again, TRANS RIGHTS ARE HUMAN RIGHTS for those at the back.

Equal rights does not mean "same rights". Ignoring trans people for a moment, women and men should have equal rights, yes? Equal in terms of employment opportunities, education, safety, yes? Not that doesn't mean that women have a right to use the men's toilets. It doesn't mean that men have a right to enter women's sporting competitions.

So what is it about trans people that gives them the right to opposite-sex facilities?

Oh, and while we are at it, why do you think trans women are women? I have nothing in common with trans women that I don't also share with men (2 eyes, hair, lungs...). And there is nothing at all that I have in common with all women and no men except our biology. It's certainly not a shared mentality or wearing a dress. So.... can you answer this?

UrsulasHerbBag · 18/04/2025 10:02

Yes they can @LobeliaBaggins and they do. Teddy could click on any of the links here but can’t seem to manage it and then Teddy could read all about the thing that never happens happening.

OhCalmTheFuckDownMargaret · 18/04/2025 10:05

Mog65 · 17/04/2025 16:53

The clitoris is used in the making of the penis.

Not as a fully functioning penis it isn't.

Teddlesisagoodboy · 18/04/2025 10:08

LobeliaBaggins · 18/04/2025 10:00

You cant make it up.

You guys make everything up, that picture of trans people in prison someone shared up thread is completely made up. Do you not fact check anything? There aren't even that many trans people in prison.

Bingbopboomboomboombopbam · 18/04/2025 10:08

BelfastBard · 18/04/2025 08:05

It’s very telling that women’s righteous anger and defence of their sex based rights is always demeaned as “pearl clutching”.

Again, it wasn’t about rights, as I agree with the ruling. But sure, go off.

scorpiogirly · 18/04/2025 10:09

Firsty, nobody hates trans people.

The thing about trans people, and it's usually biological men, is that they have the same rights we all have. But they want extra rights. Rights to enter spaces of the opposite sex. Rights to complete against the opposite sex etc.

George, in your scenario, is a woman. Women generally do not have a sexual violence streak considering 98% of sexual crimes are committed by biological males.

spannasaurus · 18/04/2025 10:11

Teddlesisagoodboy · 18/04/2025 10:08

You guys make everything up, that picture of trans people in prison someone shared up thread is completely made up. Do you not fact check anything? There aren't even that many trans people in prison.

So it was OK for Karen White ( a man) to be put in a women's prison and sexually assault female prisoners because he's only one of the few men in female Prisons.

Would you tell his victims that their assault was not a problem because there's only a few men in prison

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