For thinking that you shouldn't impose your celebrations on the entire street?

[Tryinghardtobefair]

We had a letter through the door yesterday from a house on our cul-de-sac. It informed us that they will be having wedding celebrations from the 14th-21st April, and that there may be increased cars and loud music but they will try to keep disruption to a minimum. They apologised in advance for any inconvenience caused. They've left their number so people can let them know if they have any concerns.

The music and bad singing is so loud that I can hear it in every single room of the house including the back bedrooms, despite the fact that they live at the top of the cul-de-sac and I live at the bottom so our gardens face in completely different directions.

My husband is sleeping downstairs because it's the only way to somewhat escape it and he has to work. As I've typed this the music has been ramped up so high that I can hear it word for word through closed double glazing. I'm at least 5 houses away.

If it was one night I wouldn't be bothered about it, but there's another 5 nights to go, and clearly the party isn't winding down because the music keeps getting louder. I just don't think it's fair that this is being imposed on the entire street for a week.

AIBU?

So have you contacted them to let them know

No, that’s not really reasonable for one night, let alone multiple nights. I would definitely make a noise complaint asap.

DH won't let me because we're relatively new on the street. I also suspect that the groom won't be checking his phone.

No I don't think it's fair and tbh if I were you I'd arrange to go and stay elsewhere for a week.

I think I'd bite the bullet tonight and contact them tomorrow & tell them it was way too loud. The fact they've contacted you would suggest they'll be reasonable

Who needs a weeks worth of celebrations tho

I checked my council and they say we have to try to resolve it amicably and then do a noise diary if it carries on. Our police don't deal with it and are very clear they don't. There doesn't seem to be a way to report excessive noise when it's actually happening 🤔

We don't have the money to just up and leave for a week. DH is working and DD has Easter clubs that she's really excited to do so I also don't want to pay to stay a couple of miles down the road. I will likely contact them tomorrow, because I don't really want to deal with this for 5 nights. They have ongoing issues with their neighbour and I saw her sticking her head out of the window a couple of times when I went to the bin earlier so I'm secretly hoping she will address it first because they're constantly arguing about something or other.

This sounds like a great reason to have your own party!

You can contact an out of hours noise nuisance person at the council.

We don't have one - Our councils noise complaints says we should try to sort it amicably and keep a noise diary for two weeks before contacting them. There's no out of hours team.

Just go and speak to them tomorrow and ask if they can reduce the noise levels after a set time. They have done the decent thing already so should be approachable.

For those commenting who celebrates a wedding for a week it's common in some cultures and no different to any other traditions in this country or others where things are celebrated by sectors of the community.

Possibly an Asian wedding? They’re often a week long with multiple events, so there may be a cultural aspect.

I'd be ok with it but only because it's a wedding and a one off. Does make me laugh since MN is always complaining that weddings don't focus on the marriage and whole family, yet when they do they also complain 🤣 🙄

I think the week will pass quickly and not be as bad as you are anticipating. There will be a pleasant atmosphere and no doubt you and other neighbours will be invited to some of it. It will be beautiful if it is a Sikh or Hindu wedding, quite spectacular. The music won't go on to all hours.

Don't be mean, enjoy it!

Definitely ring them tmro and tell them to keep it down as you got work and children.... Sounds like an Asian wedding so no doubt it will be very loud, maybe tell them to at least by 11pm call it a night 🙏 meanwhile get some earplugs or use headphones to block the noise. Don't worry about being new on the road , if the noise impacts you then you have every right to complain. Hopefully they're reasonable and listen.

I’d drop in a note. ‘Hello! Congrats on the happy occasion. Thanks for the notice. To be honest, the late night noise is impacting on us and we are five doors down. Can you please have a curfew on noise after 9pm as the rest of us need our sleep for work etc. Thanksa million, number 7.’

It is an Asian wedding 😊

I'm not complaining that the wedding focuses on marriage and family. I'm complaining about the excessively loud music. You can focus on marriage and family without keeping the entire street awake 😅

It's more that people like to moan about anything and everything 🙃 how late is the noise going til? Go join in and enjoy it 🙂

What a stupid reply. Her husband has to get up for work in the morning, why would they want to go round the neighbours and ‘join in’?

There is nothing mean about wanting the noise level reduced. Especially if it will be going on for a week! That’s an awful long time to have rubbish sleep and disturbance.

I’d just leave it. They are behaving very badly, but it isn’t worth getting into it with them. Firstly because they are unlikely to cancel anything and secondly because it’s worth avoiding conflict with people you can’t get away from.

I have lived next door (as in joined onto) someone who played loud music all night. I trained myself to block it out.

I doubt it will be that bad. I've been around a few such happenings and like them - and I'm elderly and value my sleep. They are beautiful, joyous occasions.

But it's not a one off its a whole week. I think there's very few people who'd be happy having a week long wedding in their street

It's an Asian wedding in the UK - go tell them they are being unreasonable!