For thinking that you shouldn't impose your celebrations on the entire street?

[Tryinghardtobefair]

We had a letter through the door yesterday from a house on our cul-de-sac. It informed us that they will be having wedding celebrations from the 14th-21st April, and that there may be increased cars and loud music but they will try to keep disruption to a minimum. They apologised in advance for any inconvenience caused. They've left their number so people can let them know if they have any concerns.

The music and bad singing is so loud that I can hear it in every single room of the house including the back bedrooms, despite the fact that they live at the top of the cul-de-sac and I live at the bottom so our gardens face in completely different directions.

My husband is sleeping downstairs because it's the only way to somewhat escape it and he has to work. As I've typed this the music has been ramped up so high that I can hear it word for word through closed double glazing. I'm at least 5 houses away.

If it was one night I wouldn't be bothered about it, but there's another 5 nights to go, and clearly the party isn't winding down because the music keeps getting louder. I just don't think it's fair that this is being imposed on the entire street for a week.

AIBU?

Because Asians get a free pass from decent neighbourly relationships? Maybe other neighbours will have a weeklong party and see how they like their lives to be so disturbed.

In what ways is it "no different"? I can't think of anything comparable.

I'd go and speak to them. If they sent letters round about potential inconvenience they must know that they would upset some people.

But I'd also be reasonable about. Unsocial hours in most areas is 11pm to 7am so ask them to cut the noise after 11.

Why report them they've already reached out explaining. Why not just let them enjoy their occasion. Just relax. Buy ear plugs if necessary.

An Asian wedding. I quite enjoy the fireworks & that, but they do go on. None of us would never get another nights sleep if we all celebrated in this way. In fact it would probably be banned. I’m sure our last one went on for 2 weeks. I wasn’t particularly bothered & they did put letters through most peoples boxes, apart from the ones in the bungalows. Almost like they think that these elderly people don’t matter.

They go all night long.

Yes they can. Mind over matter. How do you think shift workers cope.? It's not forever either.

Your posts just get sillier and sillier.

I’m guessing they are maybe an Indian family as their wedding celebrations can last up to a week! So it’s cultural, they’ve given out numbers so nothing wrong in contacting during the day to say it was loud!

I can understand some cultures have week long weddings and I have no issue with that but after 11pm, the music needs to be turned down low or off! Nobody needs it loud at stupid o clock!

go there with a plate of.sweetmeats or cake for the happy couple and then ask them to turn it down a bit?

They’re just selfish as evidenced by the behaviour when they parked over a neighbour’s drive.

Why because I have a different attitude/approach from you?
Doesn't make you right and me wrong.

You have posted ridiculous comments. No one should be expected to have to "live and let live" with neigbours creating this level of selfish, antisocial behaviour, nuisance and disturbance just because they want to.

Again because my view is different from yours it is ridiculous. Not at all doesn't make you right and me wrong. But perhaps it makes you appear selfish?? A bit more live and let live in today's world would go a long way. Best wishes.

The people being selfish are the people who think it's fine to inflict week long noisy wedding celebrations until late in the evening on all their neighbours.

That behaviour has nothing to do with "live and let live". This is "I'll do what I want and anyone who is affected can just fuck off, because what I want is more important than anything else"

This behaviour of the opposite of "live and let live" as it's interfering with the neigbour's lives.

If you think that behaviour is acceptable
you are as selfish as they are.

Whatever you want to think so that you believe you are right. Best wishes.

Gosh, what an aggressive response.
OP won't know how the wedding hosts are likely to respond unless she tries phoning the number which was given to all the neighbours in case of problems. Maybe they will turn the music down in the evening, which is all that OP wants - she's not demanding total silence all day. Maybe they won't turn it down, or not much, but there's no harm asking and it is certainly more likely to have an effect than calling the police pretending not to know what is going on. There's no crime to report and nothing suspicious to describe except for a social event which is noisy but peaceful. Perhaps the police, if they did turn up, asking them to be quieter, would have more effect than a neighbour asking, but it's still better to ask first.

Elderly people don't usually mind and are often invited. I know that from experience.

I think you are wrong. It doesn’t work in close together neighbourhoods.

But your comment was irrelevant, regardless of Asian weddings being more “depth” to them than just partying, that isn’t what this thread is about…it IS however about the partying side of it and the loud music and racket they’re making so the person who said about it BU of them to be partying for a week is correct!! Loud music and noise IS A PARTY, whether it be a wedding, birthday, anniversary or whatever it’s still people partying!!

The kind of person who blares music at 1am in a residential area on a week night isn't a reasonable one. Whether they send out a mealy mouthed note or not. No-one with an ounce of consideration does it in the first place.

If it was a one night thing I would grit my teeth and get on with it, but potentially for a week? Nah.

I think you are wrong then because it can an d does work in close neighbourhoods.

How are the noise levels this evening op?

I’m astounded there are people who can read about a family with a disabled parent and child who can’t cope with lack of sleep, who are being kept awake by inconsiderate neighbours who should have hired a venue for their wedding, and think that the family should just crack on while the neighbours take the piss. Unbelievable.

Perhaps but not in my experience