For thinking that you shouldn't impose your celebrations on the entire street?

[Tryinghardtobefair]

We had a letter through the door yesterday from a house on our cul-de-sac. It informed us that they will be having wedding celebrations from the 14th-21st April, and that there may be increased cars and loud music but they will try to keep disruption to a minimum. They apologised in advance for any inconvenience caused. They've left their number so people can let them know if they have any concerns.

The music and bad singing is so loud that I can hear it in every single room of the house including the back bedrooms, despite the fact that they live at the top of the cul-de-sac and I live at the bottom so our gardens face in completely different directions.

My husband is sleeping downstairs because it's the only way to somewhat escape it and he has to work. As I've typed this the music has been ramped up so high that I can hear it word for word through closed double glazing. I'm at least 5 houses away.

If it was one night I wouldn't be bothered about it, but there's another 5 nights to go, and clearly the party isn't winding down because the music keeps getting louder. I just don't think it's fair that this is being imposed on the entire street for a week.

AIBU?

Unacceptable.

From your updates, it sounds as if they sound as if they won't respond to complaints and if the police won't do anything-ring your MP. Ring Child protection and tell them your child's health is at risk from lack of sleep. Ring any one and everyone that you can think of. Video it and send it to their X pages.

No-one should have their sleep disturbed for a week by unneighbourly neighbours and it doesn't matter a shiny shit what culture they're from.

If they want to behave like that, they should have bought a home miles away from anyone.

What a great state of affairs when the council or police won't get involved when someone decides they want to deprive their neighbours of sleep for a week. What a bloody country we live in.

Very selfish of them. At least they left a number

i think they need to hire a venue for these type of celebrations

In this case, you might be best to not bother contacting them. Ear plugs are your friend in this instance. Or white noise.

Our neighbours had multi day celebrations when their daughter got married. They did similar to yours, and gave us notice.

The 'main' reception was at a city centre venue over an entire weekend, however they had a large marquee in their garden for some of the preceding celebrations, cars (and coach loads of people) came and went (it was noisy back and forth).

We told them to use our drive if they required for guests for the duration of the celebrations, as did the other surrounding houses (and we gave the happy couple a card and a small gift).

We were treated to trays of delicious food (it was seriously tasty food!) during the celebrations. A fortnight or so after the wedding, the bride and groom came round with chocolates to thank us for being so understanding/thoughtful.

If that poster would be fine with no sleep for five nights and would just join in, they probably don't work or have kids at home during the day and can sleep in the day, so don't need to worry!

It is only one week. Buy ear plugs and go to bed.

I would put a congratulations card through the door and ask that the music is quieter tonight

They've left their number so people can let them know if they have any concerns. Yet you/your husband still don’t want to contact them to let them know your concerns and prefer to complain here (you) or become ill (him).

Surely it would be possible to contact them politely, congratulate them on the wedding, wish them well but explain about the effect the noise had on you last night (tell them what time you/DH have to get up for work) and ask them to dial it back/finish earlier for the rest of the week. Surely the other residents of your street have the same problem - you could try speaking to them and banding together. If the noisy family ignored you and it was the same every night, then you would be justified in complaining here or elsewhere.

The problem is the noise level surely. You could tell them that it’s all great except that the music needs turning down at 10pm so people can sleep.

If you’re understandably worried about asking them to turn it down, buy ear plugs and have a large glass of wine or two before bed to knock you out

They sound like absolutely shit neighbours.
Why won’t the police do anything??

ha ha!! as if they'll have one of those!! it'll be at best, an answer phone.

@BellissimoGecko Noise is considered a "civil" issue... the issue is supposed to be dealt with by councils but they have slashed funding for this and i know of one case where they accepted the noise from a 'club was too loud but then told the neighbours they wouldn't do anything about it.

They sound so entitled. Taking over a whole street for a week. You want a week long wedding, get a weeklong venue.

Can your husband not buy some earplugs today so at least he can sleep for the rest of the wedding? I know that it’s still frustrating but if he’s not willing to complain and the council etc won’t do anything you may as well accept it and try and find ways to block out the noise and still get a good nights sleep rather than complain but ultimately do nothing else and sleep badly as a result.

I do know people who would deal with this by going round and smashing all their teeth in and, though I certainly wouldn't recommend this course, I can say that it seems to work.

Can you call the police because they're being antisocial? I know they don't deal with excessive noise, but could it be classed as antisocial behaviour if the same happens again. Even licensed wedding venues and music stadiums have a noise curfew!

It’s totally unreasonable to play loud music past a certain time every night for a week - wedding or no wedding. Friday and Saturday night- up to midnight is tolerable. Any other night music should stop at 11. I would go round and explain your concerns. Hopefully they are reasonable when you speak to them.

'DH won't let me because we're relatively new on the street.'

Translation - My husband is a coward and is scared that any perfectly reasonable request to turn the music down or off will result in confrontation where they might laugh at him or even give him a bop on the nose and he will run away crying.

I coils t be married to a man like that.

Complaint in no uncertain terms that they should have hired a hall and not had the loud celebrations disturbing everyone past midnight!

Or noise cancelling headphones. They are incredible.

I didn't see the post about your he and being disabled until I had written my post above! In that case I apologise as he isn't a coward if he's disabled.

You need to complain if he physically can't.

I actually think they are being really nice warning people in advance. Many wouldnt. Its a wedding and just a week!

I live in a big Muslim community (DP and I are basically the only non Muslims on the street) so from now through summer there are lots of week long celebrations for weddings- loads of cars, singing, fireworks in the daytime etc. It is loud, but we knew when we moved into this community that would potentially happen. We find it very joyful, but we don't have kids- admittedly that would potentially make it more challenging.

Some people have to work or look after kids during the day. They don't have the luxury of sleeping during the day and not having to worry about being kept awake for 5 nights!

Nobody reasonable behaves like this in the first place. Whether or not you send out a note, blasting excessively loud music at 1 in the morning in a residential area is arsehole behaviour, especially on a weekday.

Saying "well we did tell everyone and left our number" isn't fair nor a get out clause. It puts the onus on those around them to have to feel awkward like the OP and ask them to curb their behaviour, when it is very obvious to anyone with half a brain cell that they shouldn't have been doing it in the first place.

Get on to your Councillor & The Police

You have the flyer as evidence