For thinking that you shouldn't impose your celebrations on the entire street?

[Tryinghardtobefair]

We had a letter through the door yesterday from a house on our cul-de-sac. It informed us that they will be having wedding celebrations from the 14th-21st April, and that there may be increased cars and loud music but they will try to keep disruption to a minimum. They apologised in advance for any inconvenience caused. They've left their number so people can let them know if they have any concerns.

The music and bad singing is so loud that I can hear it in every single room of the house including the back bedrooms, despite the fact that they live at the top of the cul-de-sac and I live at the bottom so our gardens face in completely different directions.

My husband is sleeping downstairs because it's the only way to somewhat escape it and he has to work. As I've typed this the music has been ramped up so high that I can hear it word for word through closed double glazing. I'm at least 5 houses away.

If it was one night I wouldn't be bothered about it, but there's another 5 nights to go, and clearly the party isn't winding down because the music keeps getting louder. I just don't think it's fair that this is being imposed on the entire street for a week.

AIBU?

Don’t be so bloody racist. People of other cultures are still allowed to celebrate things in the UK FFS.

OP, what is the point of complaining on here or ringing the council without so much as asking them to turn the music down. The fact they’ve warned you in advance and asked you to let them know if it’s loud suggests they are nice people. Just send them a message.

I believe if you’re having a party of that level of duration and noise it should be at a venue built and equipped for it, ie a countryside hotel / town hotel that would have soundproofing on event rooms. To consider a home in a domestic area to me feels selfish and inconsiderate.

The fact they’ve warned you in advance and asked you to let them know if it’s loud suggests they are nice people.

No it doesn't. It suggests they are complete chancers who think their "advance warning" gets them off the hook for their appalling, selfish behaviour. If you'd read the OP's posts you'd see they are not nice.

Update: DH was apparently happy enough on the sofa thankfully and it hasn't caused any pain this time. I'm guessing the air mattress we picked up helped. You could hear a lot more upstairs than you could downstairs so he slept okay. Last night, I put DD to bed slightly early, stuck my earphones in and went to bed early myself because I figured that sleeping through it is the way to go.

I think someone must have said something though because tonight, there are lots of cars and we saw guests going to the house. BUT it's a LOT quieter and the big curtain of fairy lights they have hanging down the outside of the house have now been switched off.

Prior to today the lights were still on at 4am when I was up with DD. If someone has complained, I expect it was one of their actual neighbours. The wedding house is on the corner of the cul-de-sac and the lights shine directly into 2 people's upstairs windows.

Thank you everyone who gave me support and constructive advice.

I would like to give my own advice to those who were virtue signalling and being very patronising about Asian weddings/food/culture: Please educate yourselves, and realise that there are lots of different cultures within Asia. Lots of different foods, outfits, weddings. Positive stereotypes are harmful as well, and I can guarantee that nobody wants you fawning over their minority culture. I'm from a minority culture as well and it gets a bit weird when people jump straight to the irrelevant positive comments as soon as they see me (whilst getting my culture wrong half the time).

I'm going to leave this thread now unless there's another major update

Thank you again ❤️

Tryinghardtobefair: "I'm from a minority culture as well and it gets a bit weird when people jump straight to the irrelevant positive comments as soon as they see me (whilst getting my culture wrong half the time)."

I totally get that and it is very annoying.

I'm glad everything seems OK. Thanks for the update.

So sorry I accidentally touched "unreasonable" instead of reasonable! I think those people are being very inconsiderate! Of course police won't be of help. Perhaps several neighbour's calling the endless wedding!

Contact Environmental health at the local council. If it goes on late at night, you can also report to police

Seven nights is excessive by anybody's yardstick.

Agree with this, my husband is Indian so been to quite a few weddings and whilst the whole event takes up to a week the main "partying" with music etc does not last a week, 2 of the days at most.
Half of it is daytime rituals that are pretty quiet and mundane tbh

Nicely said, OP.
Wishing you all the best.
Sorry, I'm late to the thread so can't contribute anything but to give you a round of applause for your final post.

Well done!

I didn't say that but great job at jumping to assumptions 😉