To want to cry at the cost

[Charltonstrek]

Dp has gone to his home country for his sons wedding which was arranged against my at this time against dp wishes dp wanted more time to arrange the money but the brides parent would not listen. It's a pakistani wedding so numerous events celebrations plus airline tickets and normal spending money.
I'm not well off I'm only working a few hours due to mental health etc and dp isn't on loads and we have ended up in some debt for this and to be honest I'm so depressed about it all he's there has another week and is almost out of money again I'm so fed up as I'm currently living on my overdraft and my dp won't have a wage for 2 weeks whrn he gets back.
I'm not sure what I wish to gain by posting here I really don't but I guess I just need some support to air it out so please go easy on me but I'm completely buggered up.

I'm always looking at other people rather than myself not sure why

Possibly because your fundamental world-view is that if you look after other people around you, they will look after you. And you want to be looked after.

Sorry, life doesn't work that way.
Basically, you have to learn to look after yourself. There is no-one who is going to rescue you.

I don’t mean to sound mean but in his Islamic culture you’ll probably never be accepted as his ‘wife’ but rather you will simply be seen as
Nikah mutah or ‘pleasure wife’. Have some self respect and walk away from this one sided arrogance and find someone of your own culture who will treat you with respect and as a valued individual.

Op I think that you need to confess how much this holiday & wedding have cost, because YOU YOU need to see the truth

For a wedding & a holiday that you are not attending

Let me start for you

Flights
Transport to & from airport in UK & abroad
Travel insurance
Loss of wages while on holiday
Spending money while on holiday
Food
Accommodation or is he staying with his family ?
Clothes (Op mentioned) would be cheaper to buy in Pakistan
Wedding present (gift of money ?)
Total Cost is ???

Do not send him another penny !

What a bizarre thing to say. Nikkah is a wedding contract, almost identical to saying, i accept .... to be my husband. A bit of research before commenting would really work wonders. Whose to say the lady is a Muslim, but even if she is, under islamic rules, the lady does not have to share a penny with her husband. This lady has chosen to give her husband money and she could have just said no. That's on her not religion.

Sorry, but yes. This.
You don't have it spare, don't make yourself short so you're worrying over bills and food.
Tell him sorry, but you haven't got any more to give.
He'll have to find it himself or surely a relative there would help him out.

It’s too late now but he should have only went over for a very short amount of time. I imagine as the father of the groom the spending was always going to be lavish.