People that shout "THANK YOU!" to those that don't say it

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Why do you do so?
Personally, if I hold a door or let someone through and they don't acknowledge and thank me, I don't let it bother me and simply get on with my day. The reason for this is I quite honestly couldn't care less how a total stranger behaves towards me, within reason of course, because they are exactly that. A stranger that means nothing to me.
Therefore, if they don't say thank you, it doesn't matter enough for me to need to react to it, but for many others, they have a different mindset. Help me understand! Why is this?
Surely someone would need to be important to you for their behaviour to affect you enough to react to it?

I have done this on occasion 😆 it's not the most mature thing in the world, but manners are important, whether you're a stranger or not. Thankfully I now have children who say loudly "mum that man didn't say thank you!!"

I am still mortified by this memory...

I was in our local baker's shop, and (this was a very rare occasion) without any of my very small children. A man ordered a pasty and didn't say 'thank you' and I, still in my 'mum' persona, said 'thank you' very gently correcting him as you would a small child.

He looked a bit embarrassed and said 'thank you' to the lady behind the counter, took his pasty and went. I, scarlet with embarrassment, furtively bought my pack of cheese straws and scuttled out. So sometimes it can be habit...

I have been known to say that on occasion, a small win to maybe piss off a rude stranger but I can't imagine anyone thinks about other than in the moment

Because it shows how rude they are and how they have no manners and that they need to realise that they should treat people with respect… we are not holding doors open or giving way to a car for OUR benefit… we are doing it to be a nice member of society… i am astonished at you OP that you cannot see that… and would ask do you say thankyou when someone shows you an act of kindness?
Rudeness makes my blood boil… it’s free and can go a long way to make someone’s day a little better

I have definitely said “you’re welcome” to some ignorant git when I was feeling particularly fed up at being accommodating and then not being thanked.
It’s just venting, isn’t it?

The kind of people who do this are often extremely rude and entitled - for example, people who walk three abreast on the pavement and think they have done you a favour deserving of thanks by one person dropping back; when you and your companion had already gone single file as soon as the threesome came into view, in anticipation of needing to pass.

yes I say “you’re welcome” to people if they say thankyou or not!

I have sarcastically said "you're welcome" before to people who should have said thank you.

It's always been men.

Because consideration for others is basic good manners and makes for a better society for us all. And because it is annoying when you show good manners and some ignoramus just barges on through without any consideration for others and the politeness they have been shown.

I do this as well. It might be childish, but it's better than what I would like to say to them.

Because it's rude obviously. If someone has the decency of opening a door for you, the least you can do is say thanks.

It depends on my mood, if I’m happy I let it go but if I’m in a bad mood I have occasionally bellowed a “thank you”. I have also picked up peoples litter and handed it back them with a big smile “I think you dropped something”.

I LOVE DOING IT

David lloyd members are fucking obsessed with holding doors to the point its performative

I got a load of abuse from a bloke who held a door open whilst I was struggling with an overtired baby and tantrums toddler.

I also shout out you're welcome to people who don't wave if we pull onto the side of the road to let them pass on narrow roads.

Same applies to drivers who don't acknowledge us when we are out walking!

I don’t say but inwardly seethe. It’s like they’re treating you like a servant who is beneath them. A ‘thank-you acknowledges the act and is basic manners. Having said that I once had it done to me but I had said ‘thank-you’ although clearly not loud enough but as I was in a bit of a daze as I’d just been told I had cancer and was worrying about how to tell my sons.

I have done it sometimes, depends on the mood I’m in to be honest ! It takes nothing to say thank you, or please, or excuse me. Some people are just so rude and there isn’t any need for it.

Brilliant! I did that to my husband in the pub once years ago. It was our quiet village local pub and we’d gone for Sunday lunch. The kids had been about 6 &4 and had gone up to ask for some water each and I’d called over don’t forget to say thank you. My DH went up after to order a pint and I automatically called out the same. Everyone in the pub was in stitches.

Urgh well the other day I was leaving the sports centre and trying to herd three hyper children out and a woman stepped aside to let me through the doors and I ABSOLUTELY DID thank her, I always do. she obviously didn’t hear me and rudely and sarcastically went “oh you’re WELCOME”.

I dithered over whether it was petty to be like “I did say thank you!” But she had already gone 🙄

Manners are important but I wouldn't insist anyone else do it. Not my business!
Ps. I'm a habitual over-user of thankyou.

I'm the same as you OP occasionally I don't say thank you ot it's miss timed and it really annoys me when someone says your welcome sarcastically.
On flip side I've had several incidents in the past when I have held door open for people and then someone has tried to shut the door not realising ( not observing) that I'm holding it open and they have trapped my fingers in the hinges !! Think big heave door and as I am walking away little old lady can't push it open so I hold it open awkwardly and then someone tried to shut the door after they go through! That was very very annoying ( and painful).

I always nod/wave/say thanks as appropriate. I hate being around the people who bellow “you’re welcome” if they perceive they were not sufficiently thanked, it seems rude and aggressive to me, which negates the polite initial act.

I'm more of a YOUR'E WELCOME kind of arsehole. Not always, only when deserved.

See? I'm an arsehole.

What's wrong with basic manners?

Thank you. Please. Simple words, mostly learned at the age of 1 or 2.

i probably do when driving, when they cant hear me!