People that shout "THANK YOU!" to those that don't say it

[tvchoice]

Why do you do so?
Personally, if I hold a door or let someone through and they don't acknowledge and thank me, I don't let it bother me and simply get on with my day. The reason for this is I quite honestly couldn't care less how a total stranger behaves towards me, within reason of course, because they are exactly that. A stranger that means nothing to me.
Therefore, if they don't say thank you, it doesn't matter enough for me to need to react to it, but for many others, they have a different mindset. Help me understand! Why is this?
Surely someone would need to be important to you for their behaviour to affect you enough to react to it?

my dm got cross when she didnt, she thought, get a thank you, but she just didnt hear it!

I was queuing in a shop when visiting a city with a bit of a reputation for directness. The woman in front put the next customer bar on the conveyor belt behind her shopping and I said Thanks, but obviously not loudly enough, as she turned round and said Don't you say thank you?
I was a bit taken aback so I said I did say thanks but you mustn't have heard me.
She then looked me up and down and said Ignorant slob!
I just laughed but afterwards thought of lots of cutting remarks I could have made.

I've said it many times over the years. I quite enjoy showing up an ignorant pig for what they are when I've gone to the trouble to help them. I am sick of the declining standards of common courtesy and social grace nowadays. It costs nothing to be polite, kind and courteous.

Actually what you have written would be fine. I don't need to be sufficiently thanked. Any form of thanks is welcome.
There's some shockingly rude people out there.
I'm 50. I'm still waiting to be punched in the face for outing terrible manners.

I'm the same with people that park in Mother and Child spaces. I'll loudly announce that they appear to have forgotten both child and car seat.

I'm a cunt 🤣 but a very polite one.

This happened once, I was queueing with my DC to get his face painted. The face painter asked him what he wanted. He had been watching the other face painter and didn't realize this lady was about to paint his face. He said "a dog" thinking she was just wondering. She said "a dog PLEASE" which I thought was really mean.
She probably was sick of demanding children but I knew he hadn't seen her and genuinely didn't know she was the face painter.

I probably say thank you too much, and rarely notice what others do, so have never experienced this.

But one of my biggest pre-hates is adults who try to correct other adults 'manners' - or the way they think they should act - in public. (I'm not talking about real anti-social or harmful behaviour, just to be clear.)

You'd hate me, OP, I do it all the time. Rude fuckers.

I think I'd have taken the DC away after that - not in a 'sod this for a game of soldiers' sort of way, but because it would taint the whole experience and spoil it.

It's passive aggressive bullshit. It's very immature. I always open doors and say please or thank you.

I am always horrified (probably too strong a word) at the selfish turds on the train who push in through the doors while passengers are trying to get off
I will shout "let us off ,eh? " .
Maybe they don't know how annoying they are Or don't care

Then there's the one who push in front when others are waiting Especially as some trains you know where they will stop so you wait. (For others to get off ) and these arseholes just breeze past .
"There's a queue y'know"

This! The irony of so many on here saying “rudeness just makes my blood boil - so I make sure I am EXTREMELY RUDE to anyone who I perceive to have transgressed my own ‘manners’ standards”… 🤷‍♀️

I want to sit some of you down with a cup of tea and just let you breathe for a bit!

I agree @tvchoice .

Nobody owes anybody a response, and people don't HAVE to say thank you. I mean, it's nice if they do, and I always do. But IMO if someone does something that someone has not ASKED them to do, there is no need for a thank you.

Yes it's nice, and 'polite,' but no-one should demand it and get all snippy and snarky when people don't behave as they wish, and smile and nod, and thank them profusely.

Anyone shouting 'THANK YOU!' (sarcastically) at someone who had the temerity to not thank them for something they never asked them to do, looks like a fool, and is embarrrassing themselves frankly.

I sort of do, I give a huge sincere smile and hand wave but actually say "you c*nt" childish I know but makes me happy.

So much talk here about manners, but agressively shouting thank you or sarcastically saying you're welcome is also rude and bad manners!

I was waiting to get onto a busy city-centre tram while other people got off, and got an earful from a woman standing behind me for being too slow!

No, I am not going to barge my way into a flow of disembarking passengers - having more than once been in the position where I genuinely thought I wasn't going to be able to get out at my stop due to people doing this.

Because it’s rude not to thank somebody. I must have done it 20 times the other day when I was on a walking trail and kept having cyclists ring their bells at me to move over, which I did every single time to give them space. Not one of them said thank you so I shouted “you’re welcome” every time. It’s just bloody rude.

It's British culture. It's sarcasm.
A stranger may mean nothing to you but years ago Britsh culture was to treat each other with respect and dignity, whoever the other person was.
Sadly, this has been lost and people no longer follow it, e.g. people no longer queue properly, they have a "me first - bugger everyone else" mindset.
It's such a shame.

Because I can’t resist making it clear to some people that they lack basic manners.

It makes me laugh when people do this because they’re making a huge show of manners while having no manners themselves.
I remember a man stopping for me to get past with a pushchair when I was in early stages of postpartum, with post natal depression, on no sleep whatsoever, I think something had dropped out the pushchair or something and I had to pick it up so I was distracted. In my brainless haze I’d forgotten to say thank you to the man that had stopped. I don’t think I’d even noticed him. He made a point of shouting thank you at me in front of the small children he was walking to school. It was so humiliating. I was mortified and really upset about it.

It's because it's annoying OP and if you're being considerate by holding the door (or letting someone out if driving) it is rude not to acknowledge them

However you saying you get on with your day is irrelevant as I've said "you're welcome" but then also got one with my day

Yelling "you're welcome" is at least as rude as not saying thank you.

I always do a passive aggressive cheery ‘you’re welcome!!’ when this happens to me. Makes me feel better 😂

Because it’s politer than what I want to say.

Ironic because this is the height of bad manners.

I’m more likely to give a passive aggressive tut as admonition in these instances, but have in a small number of cases said either ‘I think the word your looking for is thank you’ or ‘You’re welcome’ in instances where I’ve gone out my way. The two that stand out for me are the time on a busy Saturday I let someone with fewer items go ahead of me at the checkout and another time in a different shop where I stopped to helped a Mum pick up and re-shelve a load of items that their child had knocked over and where rolling all over the aisle.

Both times, there was no thanks forthcoming coming at all. They were happy to benefit from my help but had absolutely no intention of acknowledging the favour until I prompted them. The checkout man did give a red-faced thank you, but the Mum with the kid just pretended she hadn’t heard and walked off.

I was raised that basic manners are a non negotiable. The fact so many have now allowed these things to slip I believe is one of the reasons we have some of the societal problems we do. I think it’s really sad that some on here believe that acts of kindness or consideration, however minor, don’t warrant some kind of recognition from the person receiving them. It’s quite selfish and rude in my opinion.