People that shout "THANK YOU!" to those that don't say it

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Why do you do so?
Personally, if I hold a door or let someone through and they don't acknowledge and thank me, I don't let it bother me and simply get on with my day. The reason for this is I quite honestly couldn't care less how a total stranger behaves towards me, within reason of course, because they are exactly that. A stranger that means nothing to me.
Therefore, if they don't say thank you, it doesn't matter enough for me to need to react to it, but for many others, they have a different mindset. Help me understand! Why is this?
Surely someone would need to be important to you for their behaviour to affect you enough to react to it?

YABU. There are a lot of entitled people around. Once my friend held the door open for the next person behind her, but then loads of people started going through. Not one of them
wanted to take over holding the door, so my friend gently let it go, only for the people behind her to have a go at her.

If you don’t mind not being thanked that’s all well and good, but if other people want to speak up, let them.

I’ve been on the other end of this. In a lift, saw people running towards it so re-opened the doors as they were closing and kept them open so they could pile in. By now squashed to the back of the lift. Nothing said, all fine.

My floor came, they had to move slightly to let me out. Uppity woman shouts “Thank you” as I go. I’m afraid she didn’t get the politest of responses back.😳 I always thank people who hold doors open etc, but that was unnecessary.

I believe that since COVID many people have forgotten how to behave in public. I don’t know if they spent too much time on their own or believe they are entitled to now behave how they want.

I run a hospitality business and I am astounded at how many people lack basic manners. Grown adults who can’t say please or thank you. I hope these people don’t have children.

It’s like people listening to mobile phones in public on loud speaker or having video calls on loud speaker. The consideration for others has gone. People must believe that’s it’s now acceptable and sod everyone else - I’m going to do it because it’s want I want to do and hard luck if you don’t want to hear it.

IMO consideration for others is basic good manners and makes for a better society for us all.

Glasgow? I’m Glaswegian btw 😂

If I give way to another driver and they just sail past without acknowledging me I always shout THANK YOU. I can’t help it.

I have no idea. I certainly wasn't thinking Oh how kind, I must say thank you.
It's just my instinct to say thanks automatically.
It crossed my mind that one day she might say something similar to the wrong person and regret it.

Reading threads like this make me worry for my child who I have always taught manners, however he has selective mutism and cannot speak in certain situations.

We have interventions in place to help him, however as it stands he cannot physically speak in certain situations and the passive aggressive comments just hinder everything that we are working towards.

I am well aware that some people may just be impolite but given the situation with my own child, I could and would never make assumptions about anyone's personalities.

For those who do the passive aggressive "thank you" or "you're welcome", if someone tells you they did thank you but you didn't hear, do you then apologise?

But don't you see that in most cases it's rude to expect thanks for doing things that are a normal part of how a civilised society works?

I'm not talking about people who go out of their way to be helpful; but things like the example given below of putting the divider down onto the conveyor belt. That isn't doing anyone a 'favour' - it's just part of how a supermarket conveyor works; if anything it's of benefit to the person in front because if it's not put down, they're going to end up paying for the person behind's shopping!

I always put one down after I've loaded my shopping, even if there's no one behind me at the time, and certainly don't expect thanks if there is someone there.

Expecting thanks for that kind of thing suggests you are so big and important that the normal social transactions of daily life are beneath you.

It's never happened. Who are these people who say thanks without moving their mouth or making a sound?

Me too
I grew up with the manners police (my gran) and I am happy to pick up that gauntlet from her now she is no longer with us.

You have a point.
I will always look a person in the face before I open my mouth, and ime you can definitely tell the entitled ignoramuses from the distracted ones, or the ones who have other troubles.

Some people definitely overreact. I was pushing an awkward trolley, full to the brim, across a designated Asda crossing, some jerk who was nowhere near at the time, had to slow down marginally so I could get to my car...he wound the window down and shouted abuse, ending with "Say thank you next time"...twat.

I was in Spain last weekend, and saw a waiter put a drink in front of a man who didn't say thank you. I noticed the waiter say "de nada" quite loudly. Made me smile.

When I lived in Spain they used to say I was too excessively polite for all the por favor gracias and perdon that I said. Better that than not saying it

Last time this happened to me (coz Im not a very loud person) the irritating twat just started screaming at me that I was lying and hadnt said thank you at all.🙄

9 times out of 10 people who aggressively shout THANK YOU! or YOUR WELCOME! are entitled arseholes who are suffering from main character syndrome IME.
Ive had a women start screaming at me for not thank her when we both moved equal distanced on the pavement and she didnt thank me either....somehow I still had to acknowledge the massive effort she made on my behalf by permitting me to exist in her world.
oh, and people who move practically to the other side of the street when you could easily pass each other? Im not thanking you because you apparently have a personal space bubble bigger then the pavement!

(honestly Im not totally horrible....I do always thank people, when it makes sense!).

People who shout thank you like that are vulgar and mannerless and have no class. Even more so than the people who don't say thank you.**

It’s just basic manners. It’s not rude to want acknowledgment for a gesture of kindness (holding a door). It’s only seconds out my day but I don’t have to give those over to the other person to stop them getting hurt.

I noticed a lot of this went out the window with Covid. Like you didn’t have to say thanks or just smile anymore if someone gave way to you in a shop. It’s like we weren’t humans anymore behind the masks. It doesn’t seem to have come back after the masks went.

Gosh, a lot of people scream at you when you are out and about.

I do it in the car when I wait for someone to go pass and they don’t acknowledge it, so rude!

What can I say...I live in a very 'classy' area!😆

I was talking about not letting the door slam in someones face, and holding it open for them.
It's rude of them to swan through without a backward glance.

The divider thing on a supermarket conveyer belt doesn't bother me. I do always put one after my own shopping, I dont care if the person in front does or does not.

If I held a door open for someone and they didn't say or indicate thank you I would react - either a passive aggressive thank you, or a sarcastic you're welcome. I would then get on with my day and not give it another thought.

A simple thank you costs nothing and allowing rudeness to proliferate with no challenge just ends with no-one showing anyone any basic respect.

I've been known to do a "you're welcome!" to the people who don't say thank you.

I do try and ignore the rudeness of others, but sometimes it's just hard!

I always say ‘you’re welcome’ nice and loudly if someone doesn’t say thank you.

I do it when driving - it’s really not difficult to put your hand up to thank someone for waiting. Some drivers don’t even glance at you!