To back out of weekend away

GertrudePerkinsPaperyThing · 12/04/2025 09:13

Yeah I wouldn’t be going on a weekend away that risked either of those things!

Topjoe19 · 12/04/2025 09:13

No way would I be going! Why not book somewhere that has enough beds?

pictoosh · 12/04/2025 09:14

Ugh - one of those situations where someone is expected to take one for the team. Do you suspect it would be you?

MellowPinkDeer · 12/04/2025 09:15

Sounds horrific!

arcticpandas · 12/04/2025 09:16

I'm too old to share beds so I would definitely back out.

CaptainFuture · 12/04/2025 09:16

God no!! Unless she is saying she'll take thr sofa, don't go! Why book somewhat without the right number of beds?!

JackieDaytonaLuckyBrews · 12/04/2025 09:17

Fuck that. There is no way I'd pay full price to three way share a bed or kip on the sofa -I'd get no sleep and/or be stiff as a board the next day. It just wouldn't be enjoyable for me at all.

Evaka · 12/04/2025 09:17

What the fuck? For starters I'd never let someone book somewhere on my behalf without showing the listing. But yes, back the hell out.

DP's pal tried same rubbish last year when they were traveling to Portugal for a match. Wanted a bunch of 40 something men to kip on couches in a tiny flat. DP booked his own house with a pool ;)

B1anche · 12/04/2025 09:20

Calmdownandcarryon · 12/04/2025 09:11

A friend is organizing a weekend away for a group of us, we're staying in an air b n b which is all fine however ive just checked the listing and there are not enough beds for us all to go. She's said about sleeping on the sofa or 3 of us sharing one of the beds, I really dont like this idea especially as she expects us all to pay the same. Everyone will be sharing double beds but even so someone will be on the sofa yet all paying the same, am i wrong to back out of going?

Yes back out now and make it clear why. Sleeping 3 to a bed sounds even worse than sleeping on the sofa.

Loopytiles · 12/04/2025 09:21

Very awkward, but presumably if your friend booked it without first getting money and firm commitment from all attendees to pay £X costs even if you later don’t attend, it’s her financial risk.

If you agreed without her having shared details, then you’d need to stump up your share even if you don’t go.

jeaux90 · 12/04/2025 09:22

It’s a hard no from me

stopringingme · 12/04/2025 09:22

I would definitely back out or book elsewhere and meet up.

I can think of nothing worse than sharing a bed or even a room with someone who I have not made that choice to share with.

And what a ridiculous suggestion that three share one bed.

The poor sofa sleeper will not get any privacy and no sleep due to others either staying up or being around in the morning, not my idea of a weekend away.

I take it the organiser has not volunteered theirselves to sleep on the sofa.

pictoosh · 12/04/2025 09:22

See I wouldn't mind sleeping on a sofa in itself (I can fall asleep anywhere)...but it's going to be in a communal area. What if people want to stay up late to chat and drink? What about others getting up earlier and coming into the sitting room? Does the sofa sleeper get up then or does everyone else creep around because she's sleeping?

I wouldn't like feeling like the add-on, which kipping on the sofa would create.

SpringIsSpringing25 · 12/04/2025 09:22

I've reached the stage in life where I'd only share a twin room with specific friends, not a random share partner allocated to me, there would have to be a very compelling reason for me to share a bed and there's no way on God's green earth I'd be sharing a bed with two friends, I wouldn't mind sleeping on the sofa & being a short arse, I'm usually the one to get that job 🙄 but no way would I be paying an equivalent amount to someone having a bedroom and especially if that's an ensuite?

It's all two teens early 20s for me!! at that stage of my life it would have all been fun and I've been more than happy, but not any more.

I still don't mind the sofa, I sleep on my friends sofa when I stay with them over Christmas & sleep really well!

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Calmdownandcarryon · 12/04/2025 09:23

Thanks wasn't sure if I was being a diva!
Yes I feel I would end up sleeping on the sofa/sharing with two others based on previous events.
What do I say now to get out of it? She checked dates everyone was free before booking, do I come up with a clashing event or just say I dont fancy it and deal with the fallout?

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Ineffable23 · 12/04/2025 09:23

Yeah that would be a no from me, totally legit to back out - and actually quite considerate if it means everyone else gets a bed.

pictoosh · 12/04/2025 09:24

Just tell her the truth...the truth is fine.

"There aren't enough beds for everyone so I'm not going to come."

JackieDaytonaLuckyBrews · 12/04/2025 09:24

Calmdownandcarryon · 12/04/2025 09:23

Thanks wasn't sure if I was being a diva!
Yes I feel I would end up sleeping on the sofa/sharing with two others based on previous events.
What do I say now to get out of it? She checked dates everyone was free before booking, do I come up with a clashing event or just say I dont fancy it and deal with the fallout?

I'd be absolutely honest. Say you don't want to sleep on a sofa or share a bed. You'll fine it uncomfortable and won't sleep.

SpringIsSpringing25 · 12/04/2025 09:25

pictoosh · 12/04/2025 09:22

See I wouldn't mind sleeping on a sofa in itself (I can fall asleep anywhere)...but it's going to be in a communal area. What if people want to stay up late to chat and drink? What about others getting up earlier and coming into the sitting room? Does the sofa sleeper get up then or does everyone else creep around because she's sleeping?

I wouldn't like feeling like the add-on, which kipping on the sofa would create.

Yes, when I stay at my friends over Christmas, the going to bed but can be a bit of a pain because they sit on the sofa with the telly on and fall asleep... so they're sleeping but I can't🤣🤣 eventually they wake up again and decide to go up to bed, but by that time I'm usually past my sleep moment.

The mornings don't bother me because I'm always awake really early!!

PinkyFlamingo · 12/04/2025 09:26

Nope no way. Probably booked so where too small to get it cheaper and you can guarantee she won't be sleeping on the sofa!

pictoosh · 12/04/2025 09:26

JackieDaytonaLuckyBrews · 12/04/2025 09:24

I'd be absolutely honest. Say you don't want to sleep on a sofa or share a bed. You'll fine it uncomfortable and won't sleep.

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Yep. No sofa or three to a bed for me thanks. Have a lovely time.

B1anche · 12/04/2025 09:26

Calmdownandcarryon · 12/04/2025 09:23

Thanks wasn't sure if I was being a diva!
Yes I feel I would end up sleeping on the sofa/sharing with two others based on previous events.
What do I say now to get out of it? She checked dates everyone was free before booking, do I come up with a clashing event or just say I dont fancy it and deal with the fallout?

Tell her the truth. You are NOT being unreasonable.

JackieDaytonaLuckyBrews · 12/04/2025 09:27

Oh, and if there is fall out, then "friend" is a twat. She wants you to pay full price presumably to be the one uncomfortable while I'd bet she'll be in one of the comfier shared doubles or single beds?

Createausername1970 · 12/04/2025 09:28

Nope, I wouldn't be going.

I would say upfront I would want my own bed. Not sharing a double. I wouldn't mind a twin room, but not the same bed.

So, "great suggestion to go away, and definitely include me again, but this particular scenario isn't for me"

pictoosh · 12/04/2025 09:29

And if you're the fall guy who always accepts the raw deal, this is your chance to politely refute it. You don't want to and you don't have to.