To back out of weekend away

[Calmdownandcarryon]

A friend is organizing a weekend away for a group of us, we're staying in an air b n b which is all fine however ive just checked the listing and there are not enough beds for us all to go. She's said about sleeping on the sofa or 3 of us sharing one of the beds, I really dont like this idea especially as she expects us all to pay the same. Everyone will be sharing double beds but even so someone will be on the sofa yet all paying the same, am i wrong to back out of going?

Be honest and say you don't want to sleep on the sofa or share a bed with two others.

Just remember she is being unreasonable to expect anyone to do that.

If there's fallout, if the other friends can't understand that, you need new decent friends.

Just say “Sorry, I don’t want to share a bed or sleep on the sofa, so I won’t come this time.”

Maybe I missed it but did she not run the accommodation option past all of you before booking it?

That would be MY get out for sure...

"I won't be going Linda, I know you gave me the dates, but you didn't say there weren't enough beds. I don't want to share a bed or sleep on a sofa, so I'm sorry I won't be able to go, unless you can change the accommodation to suit everyone. I'm sure you understand. "

You just say you're not a student or a teenager, and your days of sleeping on a sofa/sharing a bed have long gone. You agreed under the impression that you'd at least have a bed to sleep in, now you don't so you don't want to go. Simples.

That’s how I’d put it, you’re ’letting’ everyone have a bed. What was she thinking, booking too few rooms/beds?

Just be honest and say you don’t want to share a bed with 2 people or sleep in a sofa

It’s quite easy.
“There aren’t enough beds for everyone. It’s unreasonable for everyone to pay the same amount when one person ends up on the sofa or floor so i’ll skip this one and you can sort the costs between everyone with a bed.”

You obviously feel like the odd one out of the group if you expect that you’ll be given the sofa so why be polite about it?

Well said @Thebloodynine

I think it’s reasonable to say that you’re only happy to go if you definitely have your own bed… presumably if your friend doesn’t see the sofa as a problem she’ll be happy to be the one who takes this option!?
You could also suggest an offer of help to source an alternative property?

Just say “The sleeping arrangements don’t suit me, there’s not enough beds. I won’t be coming but have a great time”. Easy.

I wouldn't ever agree to any holiday without seeing the sleeping arrangements.

Are you saying you've agreed to the holiday and told her you're going but then at some point later, have decided to ask about the bedrooms, don't like the arrangements and are now thinking of saying you have something else in and so can't go?!

I wouldn't do that, no.

I wouldn’t even share a room yet alone a bed.

Just tell her that it is unfair that some of you will be sleeping on sofas or sleeping three to a bed but paying the same price so you have decided not to come. Is everybody else OK with the sleeping arrangements? I assume that the organiser hasn't volunteers to go on the sofa or share a bed with two other people.

I wouldn't go away with anyone that I wasn't good enough friends with to feel able to say "er, are you joking, we can't all sleep like this" so I really don't get why you can't just be honest.

If they get funny with you, then they're twatty "friends" and at least you have now found that out!

Normally, the worst case scenario for a group of friends going on holiday would be sharing a room with another person. Surely no-one would expect to have three adults in a bed or be sleeping on the sofa with no reduction in price?

What the actual fuck does she think she’s pulling?!
Be completely honest, in the group chat if possible and tell her the bed situation is not acceptable.
Why even try and lie? You actually have a legitimate excuse not to go.

Literally say "There's not enough beds so I don't want to to go." Why is it so difficult?

why are you friends with people you can't talk to? You can't say 'there aren't enough beds'. Why can't you stand up for yourself?

When agreeing to this sort of thing it’s reasonable to assume you’re getting your own bed. If it involves sleeping on sofas or sharing double beds it is really up to the organiser to make it clear that that’s what is involved.

Just say you’re not paying for those types of sleeping arrangements.

"Don't know how to get out of it".
Have you tried?

I think you’re a bit stuck now as backing out means other people will have to pay more.

Easy to say now but this should all have been agreed before booking. Did the booker just go ahead without checking with everyone? If you were content for her to go ahead and find/book something then I think you need to suck it up really.

I’ve been stung twice with situations like this. One was a hen do and one person did all the booking without discussing it and I ended up on the sofa.
The other time I was a late addition so didn’t mind.

I think this one is a fairly easy out - 'Sarah there aren't enough beds for us in this place you've booked so I'll take one for the team and duck out because I can't sleep on a sofa'

Be honest. Say sharing a bed is for children, as is sleeping on a sofa-bed.
and that you are not prepared to pay good money for what boils down to a weird sleepover.

Not a chance I'd go

I think something like:
”Hi all. Was so looking forward to our trip away but, now it has become clear that there aren’t enough beds for everyone, I will take one for the team and drop out. Too old and too poor a sleeper to not have my own bed, I’m afraid. Hope you have a great time and hopefully I can come on the next one”