To back out of weekend away

[Calmdownandcarryon]

A friend is organizing a weekend away for a group of us, we're staying in an air b n b which is all fine however ive just checked the listing and there are not enough beds for us all to go. She's said about sleeping on the sofa or 3 of us sharing one of the beds, I really dont like this idea especially as she expects us all to pay the same. Everyone will be sharing double beds but even so someone will be on the sofa yet all paying the same, am i wrong to back out of going?

I’d just explain that, as there are not enough beds, you will bow out of the trip - as you are sure that will be more comfortable for all concerned. I definitely wouldn’t make anything up, as they do need to know why and hopefully get that it’s not a workable plan.

Although now I see that it’s all sorted in a very sensible way!

Back out quickly! Your too adult for 'Brownie Camp' sleeping conditions. On the rare occasion I go away for an overnight with freinds. I insist on my own room. I'm a heavy snorer and wouldn't inflict me on anyone. Apart from that .I like to 'spread out'
Just talk your freind the sleeping arrangements are a problem for you. You don't share a bed and you don't fancy a sofa. No problem 😊

I would be truthful and just say that due to the bed situation you no longer wish to go. It's ridiculous sharing beds and sleeping on a sofa.

I think it is unfair to say the OP should've checked first. Personally I wouldn't check that there were enough beds before committing, I would assume that if I'm going away somewhere, that I get a bloody bed! It's hardly a luxury. I go away with a group yearly and I'm seldom the one to organise it (not because I'd not want to but because others choose to and I'm the least fussy about destinations) , I'd never think to say 'yes is there somewhere I can sleep properly please' before agreeing to go. It's a requirement IMO and if it were to be any different I'd expect a conversation about it, initiated by the organiser.

It's okay to say 'found this place but someone will have to share a bed, what do we think' and let others decide if they're okay with that but not fine to assume everyone will be okay with an anomalous situation such as that.

100%

No way. I'd be very hesitant sharing a room let alone a bed!

I think that once you’ve had an experience where you’ve ended up on a sofa or in a toddler bed you start taking more of an interest in where you stay. 😄

I’m never ok with someone booking for me.

Other people have different priorities and standards. And the people booking are almost definitely not the ones on the sofa or sharing a bed.

Last time I didn’t get involved in booking I spent a night on a deflating airbed in an open plan lounge/kitchen with no curtains.

I wouldn’t say I’m fussy but my more laid back friends probably would. They would stay in places I absolutely wouldn’t because it’s a bargain and I want somewhere at least as nice as my house unless I’m camping.

Just be honest. The weekend away isn’t shaping up to be what you were expecting and therefore won’t be going

I'd say I'd book my own place nearby and meet them for activities and stuff but then get to retreat back for a proper sleep later :)
I'd be dreading the sleeping arrangements too much to enjoy it.

OP has sorted out the situation and booked a hotel with a friend.

I think the trouble with these scenarios is that the bed sharers have no idea that it’s a red line for some people. My cousins were upset when I insisted on getting a camp bed for my cousin to sleep on because she needed to share my room. As they were sisters they were used to sharing beds and assumed I would e too. But as an only DC and poor sleeper, I’m really not. Not that keen on sharing rooms so much since my friend insisted I flush after my nocturnal wees then complained about the toilet flushing too much and then got out her kindle and flooded the room with light about 2am as she couldn’t sleep.

Bet your organiser friend isn't sharing 3-in-a-bed or sleeping in the sofa.
It sounds bloody awful to be honest. I wouldn't pay to do this but then I'm not 15 anymore

No sofa, no bed sharing - no room sharing. Too old for schoolgirl sleepovers . I like my privacy.

That’s fine when you’re a teen or early 20s ..
Now to be honest if I’m away for a weekend , I want my own room , wouldn’t want to be sharing with anyone ..

I'd tell her the truth and say it's just not for you. I certainly wouldn't be doing it!

If I was in my early 20s I might have done this but these days I wouldn’t even share a room never mind a bed or sleep on a sofa.

hell no

If the air bnb owner is on site or finds out then they are quite within their rights to chuck you out if there are more people than beds available as their insurance wouldn't cover them for more than the specified number of guests. So, no, you are not being unreasonable. Your friend is taking the piss and jeopardising the entire trip

Organising and participating in group bookings are a minefield, eg terms around deposit or indeed full payment for accommodation and any joint activities, for those who pull out.

The organiser here hasn’t handled it well IMO if she didn’t make the details and terms clear at the outset.

I don’t mind sharing rooms with people I know and am happy to share a bed with someone I’m close with but not a random.

I’d rather have my own room/bed because I sleep better but it’s not a deal breaker for me.
I do get that it is for other people though.

What I don’t understand is all the comments about not doing this because they’re not a teenager/in their 20s.
I don’t believe this is an age thing really.

Yes thats what me and another friend are doing, so relieved, we can join in all the planned events and drinks in the house and then walk back to the hotel together!

I wouldn’t share a room, so definitely not a bed. Tell her the truth & cancel.

Oh that works perfectly! Would have been a shame to miss out just over lack of beds. Got the best of both worlds now :)