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DS(8) not invited to party

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idontunderstandwhy · 09/04/2025 14:01

Dh used to compete and be a sports coach so we have a section of our garden built up and dedicated to that sport. He just teaches our dc and they play there now.

Ds has mostly had garden parties and then and on play dates his friends play there also.

Mum of one of his friends at a past play date mentioned her ds would love to learn do the sport and do something like this for his birthday but couldn’t find anywhere near.
Dh said that he’s welcome to come and practice whenever and actually could have party here if she couldn’t find anywhere else.

It was then agreed her ds could have his party in our garden and borrow equipment we had but that obviously over wise party organising is her responsibility. She has other entertainment, food arranged ect, party is quite soon.

She’s now said that she doesn’t think my DS should come as she’s worried the fact it’s his house/garden and he is good at the sport will take the shine of her DS and people will think it’s my DS’s day instead. And as it’s an out of school friend he would only know a few of kids anyway.

She never specifically said ds was invited we just assumed and we probably agreed based on that assumption.

I don’t think its fair to have ds locked in the house or taken out when his friends and boys his age playing in our garden and am shocked she thinks this is an okay suggestion.

AIBU it’s only fair ds goes?

OP posts:
Helen1625 · 20/04/2025 17:11

Thank you for the update. Glad it went OK and that she was appreciative of your hospitality. I think you've got the right idea, limiting contact going forward.

ChocolateAddictAlways · 20/04/2025 17:17

OP, it’s a shame she didn’t send you a proper thank you message afterwards. I think that’s the least one should do in this situation. And frankly most people would have bought a bunch of flowers or something else to show their appreciation given how much party mum saved by hosting in your garden. But well done for being the bigger/kinder person in this situation and showing grace. It’s a shame she’s losing out on a good friend due to her own behaviour.

Timmygnome · 20/04/2025 17:46

That's a CF there for sure
And that's a no to the party

RampantIvy · 20/04/2025 17:58

Timmygnome · 20/04/2025 17:46

That's a CF there for sure
And that's a no to the party

The party was yesterday.

OP has updated.

Lbet · 20/07/2025 08:18

idontunderstandwhy · 09/04/2025 14:08

Thankyou for the replies, I hadn’t yet replied but needed to check I wasn’t being unreasonable and missing something.

Party is very soon and would be putting her out a lot to cancel. I think the most reasonable option would be to just insist it’s only fair that ds gets to go and I think she would agree to that above cancelling the whole party.

Most sensible thing to do.

ChicTealCat · 20/07/2025 09:49

What a cheek ! Of course your son should be invited to a party in his own garden. I certainly wouldn’t want such an ignorant woman thinking she could use our garden for a party anyway, whether invited or not. Stop it now before it goes any further, say something like you had forgotten that you were having friends and their families over on that day. Really sorry but you need the garden to keep them entertained. What an awful woman ! Such unbelievable rudeness. Good luck and just put your foot down !

Morph22010 · 28/07/2025 00:43

ChicTealCat · 20/07/2025 09:49

What a cheek ! Of course your son should be invited to a party in his own garden. I certainly wouldn’t want such an ignorant woman thinking she could use our garden for a party anyway, whether invited or not. Stop it now before it goes any further, say something like you had forgotten that you were having friends and their families over on that day. Really sorry but you need the garden to keep them entertained. What an awful woman ! Such unbelievable rudeness. Good luck and just put your foot down !

Party has been and gone months ago

Dearnurse · 28/07/2025 01:51

I would 10000% say that if your son cannot attend then your house & garden is no longer available, I wouldn't care one bit if it put her out even if it was the day before absolute CF !

chibuahua · 28/07/2025 06:39

Dearnurse · 28/07/2025 01:51

I would 10000% say that if your son cannot attend then your house & garden is no longer available, I wouldn't care one bit if it put her out even if it was the day before absolute CF !

This is an old thread from April

TaupeLemur · 28/07/2025 12:42

The brass neck of Some people!!!

OzMumOf3Boys · 28/07/2025 13:03

So what happened?

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