My husband says I can't have a pottery wheel even though my neighbour has offered to let me keep it in her studio

[Observermum1]

I don't ask for much but really fancy a second hand pottery wheel. My husband says it's a waste of money and that I won't use it much. I feel really sad as I have fancied one for years. My neighbour has even offered to put it in her shed/studio as we don't have room for it. AIBU?

That's for her to decipher, not you.

Posters have responded in good faith based on the information given. I don't know why it should matter in the least bit to a total stranger. The OP knows if she over-egged the pudding.

Do you seriously think she is going to up and leave her DH of is it, 28 years, based on a few random opinions on MN?

Why does it matetr in the least bit to you? It's rather odd, in my opinion, to argue that nobody should ask for clarifications but just come to a dramatic conclusion on their interpretation of a obviously vague story. But each to their own. If people don't think their advice will be followed, why give it? And why don't you spend any of your time arguing with them, but instead reserve all your energy for anyone who says "what does that bit actually mean?"

I've been asking you the same question and I haven't had any response.

This is all a bit odd, to say the least, and a tad over-invested. Bizarre. No OP has to share details they don't wish to. Your last post doesn't even make sense.

If you have the money yourself just buy it. You're not a child and don't need permission.

I repeated your question, after answering yours thoroughly. How come I am "over invested" for asking the OP questions and you are not, despite posting at least as much just quibbling about my decision to ask the OP questions?

No OP has an obligation to say anything they don't wish to, but they don't have the right not to be asked questions that would clarify their story. If they refuse to give clarifications, people can draw whatever conclusions they wish from that.

Otherwise you just end up with people posting "My husband's a twat" and everyone saying "What a twat! Leave him!"

I mean some might say that's a useful forum, others might not. I'll leave it to the organisers of this one to decide what they want to allow and what they don't.

Thankfully he isn't a dangerous lunatic. He stormed out the house in a foul mood and slammed the door. At the time his attitude was very much 'you can't have one' without having to say the exact words. Anyway, he has realised that I am spending my own money and I can actually use one of our sheds as my pottery workshop. He's even said that he knows I am very creative and it makes sense. At the time of my original post I was really shocked by his reaction. Thankfully it's all sorted now, and I found this forum really helpful.

Hope you get your wheel soon, and update us with what you've thrown :)

Tell him to F off, not helpful I know but really there is nothing else to be said.x