To be upset DS is going to double barrel his surname when he gets married?

[MsArgent]

DS is due to marry his girlfriend soon and they have recently announced they’re going to double barrel. I am not against double barrelled surnames and I do of course understand that it’s 2025 and more of a modern concept to keep it “fair”. However it’s truly just too long. Her surname is really quite long, along the lines of Williamson and we have a 2 syllable 8 letter one! I have asked him what he wants and he said originally he didn’t consider it and did think it would just be his surname, until she spoke up about what she wanted and he was open to it and said yes. I asked if he responded to it at all and questioned the practicality and he just says no he didn’t because it’s not a big deal. I think he is completely undermining how much of a burden having to keep repeating and spelling the double barrelled names will be, especially as they are hoping for children one day. I get it’s his life but what is the general opinion on this? I am curious if he would change his mind when realising what people will actually be thinking behind his back. Grandparents are horrified but I have tried to explain it’s more usual nowadays and DH doesn’t like it at all but hasn’t said anything yet

Nothing to do with you whatsoever

This.
I couldn’t care less about ‘his name her name’ and whose is most important. My baseline argument is I think double barrelled names sound chavvy 🤣🤣🤣

It's not that she's a MIL (she's actually his mum but anyway!), it's that it's none of her business and a fairly none issue. Part of me would love to track the couple down and encourage them to both take his wife's name 🤣

My MIL gave us stick for double barreling our surname as in her head the woman HAS to take the man’s surname. She made herself look a complete twat.
Their choice of surname has nothing to do with you, just as it had nothing to do with my MIL.

Indeed, what is the point of it?

So Jacob Rees-Mogg is a chav. How interesting.

See also Elizabeth Mountbatten-Windsor.

HE isn’t a chav per se. But the name sounds chavvy, yes IMO

Another chav.

We do seem to be moving away from titles anyway. They're not used as much as they used to be.

Spot on.

It absolutely leaps off the page/screen that she thinks her DS is wonderful and the future DIL…. not so much. A tale as old as time.

It’s reminding me of my own ILs so much it’s making me twitch. Exactly the same character traits. Entitlement/my kids can do no wrong/total lack of awareness of the important stuff most people worry about. If it were my child I’d be so delighted they’d met someone, were happy and getting married. OP’s type takes all that for granted because they’ve probably always assumed it would happen so instead of being grateful they go straight to the ‘is she good enough?’ narrative. All the OP’s posts reek of this attitude.

Save your worries for something important and focus on their special day. If they want a long name it's up to them and who's to say it'll be a burden to them anyway?!

I think the OP has departed from her thread.

I am just grateful that my Dc with their hyphenated surnames have never been so snobby or sneery as to describe people as chavs or chavvy.

People do still seem to find Ms unusual. “Miss or Mrs?” is the usual question.

The Queen was a chav!
Fucking hell!

I don't think you know what chav means my dear.

I don’t think the Queen was a chav. I was responding to the silly comment from a PP saying that double-barrelled names are chavvy. The fact that the Queen had a double-barrelled name proves the point that they are not.

Sorry @JustASongAtTwilightI got muddled and thought you were the poster saying double-barrelled names were chavvy

It’s OK. I don’t think any double-barrelled names are chavvy.

I don't recall being asked that lately, but do find that things I've signed up to as Ms sometimes come addressed as Miss or Mrs.

But this is withing an overarching context of fewer titles. I think it may be to do with email replacing post, as stuff that comes via letter is more likely to have a title.

Elizabeth Bowes Lyon ... Chav

Helena Bonham-Carter ... Chav

Tara Palmer-Tompkinson ... Chav

Sir Ranulph Twisleton-Wykeham-Fiennes ... Chav

🤣

This explains some of the times tickets or other records were filed in the wrong place! It’s much more respectful to use people’s actual names, not just pick the bit you prefer.

Jacob Rees Mogg
Alec Douglas-Home
Andrew Lloyd-Weber
Daniel Day-Lewis
Olivia Newton-John

Just say you want the woman to take your son’s family name like we all know you want to.

My son is changing his surname to
his wife, does it matter ?