To be upset DS is going to double barrel his surname when he gets married?

[MsArgent]

DS is due to marry his girlfriend soon and they have recently announced they’re going to double barrel. I am not against double barrelled surnames and I do of course understand that it’s 2025 and more of a modern concept to keep it “fair”. However it’s truly just too long. Her surname is really quite long, along the lines of Williamson and we have a 2 syllable 8 letter one! I have asked him what he wants and he said originally he didn’t consider it and did think it would just be his surname, until she spoke up about what she wanted and he was open to it and said yes. I asked if he responded to it at all and questioned the practicality and he just says no he didn’t because it’s not a big deal. I think he is completely undermining how much of a burden having to keep repeating and spelling the double barrelled names will be, especially as they are hoping for children one day. I get it’s his life but what is the general opinion on this? I am curious if he would change his mind when realising what people will actually be thinking behind his back. Grandparents are horrified but I have tried to explain it’s more usual nowadays and DH doesn’t like it at all but hasn’t said anything yet

It's nothing to do with you. Let them at it, and see how inconvenient it is.

I'd be more concerned about whether she is going to be a decent partner for your son.

Ds1 surname has 9 letters and his husband surname has 6 letters and they have double barrelled

seems to work fine 🤷🏻

If your objection is genuinely that the name will be too long, just suggest he takes his future wife's name?

I don’t think it’s really about the length of the surname is it.

It sounds like you're the only one who's upset, well you and the 'horrified' grandparents.

There are only two people who matter here and they've made their decision.

You'll have to find something else to worry about.

Loads of people double barrel & end up using one name.

Relax.

They could take her only her name, then it won’t be so long

If this is the only concern you have about this marriage then you really should be happy!! It’s none of your business tbh. Let them be…

Or choose something completely different.

Like Mr and Mrs Buttout-Backdown 🤣

Butt out. Don't be that MIL.
Also this is Mumsnet. Pro women. You should be supporting this.

Good on her for speaking up

I understand to a point but ultimately, it’s their decision and they’ll have to live with it.
I kept my maiden name and some people had a lot to say about it apart from my husband who was fine with it! It’s not that big a deal really.

I'd stay out of it. He shouldn't care what other people think anyway as long he and his soon to be wife are happy with the choice.

Or like pp's have said, if it is truly due to the length then maybe suggest he takes his wife's name.

What a lovely problem to have I guess

Agree with the suggestions that he take her surname, and that would resolve your concerns.

Easy - he should just take her name. That would solve the syllable problem.

Well, I wouldn't go so far as to be upset about it, but I think really long double-barrels sound clunky. Mrs Williamson-Griffiths is a bit of a mouthful.

It might sound better if he took her name

But Williamson-Russell for example sounds fine.

Yep, another vote for suggesting that he takes his wife's surname.

None of you have any right whatsoever to have an opinion, let at all express it, on what your DS wants to call himself. Butt out OP. Don’t be THAT mother in law.

"horrified"

FFS. Let then do what they want to do and wind your necks in.

Honestly, mind your own business. It’s nothing to do with you - or the ‘horrified’ grandparents.

Yeah you’re right, he should just suck it up and take her name.

Or they could blend their names into a new one if you really think it sounds daft being so long. FWIW posh people have been managing with ludicrously long double barrelled names for yonks, so I’m sure he’ll manage.

Don’t be daft.