To not want my husband to attend his female best friend’s wedding without me?

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My husband has a long-time female best friend - they’ve never dated but had a brief “thing” years ago before we met. She’s getting married abroad and due to work and budget, I can’t attend. He still wants to go alone, says it’s important to him and it’s “just a friend.” I trust him but I’m not entirely comfortable with the idea of him flying off solo to a wedding of someone he once had a thing with. AIBU for saying I don’t want him to go?

Or launch into a rendition of "It should have been me"

It’s not controlling to be uneasy about something. Most people would be, a bit, just not cool wives on here.

I couldn’t help but imagine a romantic scenario. I’m not saying I’d throw a strop or even mention it, but 🤷🏼‍♀️

Some people dont have that many close friends so to say its only one friend isnt the correct way of looking at it.

For heavens sake she can't TELL her husband he can't be friends with someone! You make them sound like children in the playground!

And you are telling ME I'm overreacting!

I'm seriously concerned about some of the comprehension skills of some of the posters on this thread.
Or could it be they are being deliberately obtuse and argumentative? Surely not!

If I were invited to an ex’s wedding, I wouldn’t go without my husband. If he weren’t able to go because of budget or work, I just wouldn’t go. An ex’s wedding isn’t that important!

I know it's stupid it was in response to what you said!!

The woman’s getting married, how would you turn this into a romantic scenario?

The OP has clearly said this is her husband's close friend not an ex

They had “a brief thing”
She’s an ex!
I can completely understand if OP thinks old feelings might be stirred up when DC sees her in her wedding finery.

They have been friends for many years. That's more important than a brief "thing"

I trust him but I’m not entirely comfortable with the idea of him flying off solo to a wedding of someone he once had a thing with.

I suspect he WON'T try to shag her on the occasion of her ... marrying someone else. This is about as safe as it's ever gonna get.

Because she’s a friend and the OP isn’t keen on him going to her wedding, despite the fact she was also asked.

A couple of my friends are exes. It pretty much means you’re mildly incredulous about having found them sexually attractive many years ago.

Prince Harry had Chelsea Davey at his wedding. Meghan didn't mind. It's okay these days I guess

So there is an attachment, even if not now sexual.

Yes a meaningful friendship

Did Chelsea bring her husband?

I understand OP's fears. There's probably a 1-2% chance that DP may rekindle the old relationship when the wine and party is flowing. I wouldn't take that risk.

A female "best friend" when you're married sounds utterly bonkers, not least of all him wanting to burn your family budget to bugger off on a jolly without you. He's acting as if single. Why do you think you've got a viable relationship with him.

Even more concerning for OP, then!

I see no problem. He's hardly going to commit adultery with her at her WEDDING to someone else! Or if you think he might, you have worse problems than this particular trip.

Really? You think he's going to start a fling with the bride on her wedding day?

Well yes if you dont trust your husband to be around his friends then yes it might be worse than it being an ex 🤦‍♀️

“The moment I wake up….”

Being jealous of your partner going to the wedding of a woman who is marrying someone else is beyond mad