Husband told the bride her dress was beautiful

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My husband told the bride her dress was beautiful, but when i showed him my dress idea, which was very similar, he said he didn't like it. He claims he doesn’t recall her dress being similar. Does it appear he finds the bride attractive not the dress?

But he's your DH? So why are you looking at dresses? And surely he's allowed to say a dress is beautiful? You sound very insecure.

Yes!
Edited to say depends the circumstances .
If he seen a women in a bridal shop and went out his way to say her dress was beautiful I’d say he thought more that “she looked beautiful in it “

At a wedding then that’s the correct thing to do and I doubt he paid much attention.

Maybe as you're already married he thought it would be a bit over the top for you to wear a bride's dress to the cinema or something?

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Well, if telling a bride they are beautiful on their wedding day is a bad thing then I've been doing it wrong for years.

As a bloke, he probably didn't even notice the dress, but knows to tell a bride they look amazing. It's a pretty standard thing to say

So he should have told the bride her dress was shit? Or had an awkward silence where he just said hello.

Hello, crickets......

No, you tell a bride she is beautiful! even if she is wearing what you consider to be a bin bag.

Why would you show your dress ideas to your future husband?

It’s an insult to say that the dress is beautiful. More appropriate to say ‘You look beautiful in that dress’, but I suppose that would gave ticked you off even more 🙄

He complemented the bride on her wedding day. Well not even the bride really, the dress! It’s basic manners when you attend a wedding. Strange you’re reading more into it really. Go with the dress you like and feel comfortable in. Men have no idea.

Please tell me that when he complimented the bride, you rose up like an outraged lioness and hissed ‘Keep your filthy hands off ‘im, Lisa!’ While simultaneously photographing the dress from all angles so you could replicate it.

No, that is what you say to a bride.

It’s basic politeness to say that to a bride. Why are you massively overthinking yes?

You need to get a hobby.

What bride? Where? When - a week ago or 5 years? Would you really expect him to have told any bride (on her wedding day?!) that he didn't like her dress?

Eh?

Oh please do get a bit of perspective.
He's married to you. He complimented a bride
Act your age...

I think there are a few stock phrases at weddings.

    1."Congratulations!"
    2."You look great, your dress is beautiful"
    3.'What a wonderful ceremony/location"
    4. "Thank you for inviting us to your special day"

I think when it comes to their own weddings, people are more honest/discerning/critical

My DH is a very sweet man and he would definitely tell a bride that a dress was beautiful...as it's the done thing. Who would tell a bride anything different? He would also be privately honest with me though if he thought the style wouldn't suit me.
E.g. my friend got married in a strapless dress and she was beautiful in it/ really suited it, dress was lovely etc. but on me would be terrible as I have massive shoulders.
I really believe you're overthinking this, OP.

You ALWAYS tell the bride her dress looks beautiful even if you think it looks like it came out of a skip.

Unless there’s a HUGE backstory here (or this isn’t real), you’re being totally nuts.

MN should ban posters who post a vague thread and then don't return.

Its turns out that the one time when men thought that it was safe to say a woman or her clothes were beautiful, is now according to the OP and several others wrong.

Who knew.

Who is the bride to him?

When did he tell her this?

How long ago was this?

If he said to his cousin or his best mates wife AT their wedding three years ago 'oh that dress is beautiful'... thats fine, thats what you do, you really do not say anything other than this about the bride in her dress on her wedding day.

What did you want him to say 'love you look like a pig in a meringue'? No.

Chances of him having a fucking clue what the dress looked like half an hour later are next to nil, most people do not remember fine detail all that well and blokes remembering the specifics of someone elses dress ... it's just not happening.

If he said it to a random lady in a wedding shop, yesterday, and then today says he doesn't like a similar dress you're looking at.. then yeah you might have a problem!

You're comparing apples to oranges here - seeing someone in a dress at an event like a wedding, the only acceptable comment is 'beautiful'.

Being asked your actual opinion on a dress - be honest if you don't like it. Unless you are in the habit of asking for honest opinions when you actually mean 'tell me what I want to hear', in which case you're an absolute twit.

Coming up in a few years: DH told a young mum her baby was beautiful, does it appear he finds her attractive?

Another plopper. So many of them in the past week.