Husband told the bride her dress was beautiful

[HK55]

My husband told the bride her dress was beautiful, but when i showed him my dress idea, which was very similar, he said he didn't like it. He claims he doesn’t recall her dress being similar. Does it appear he finds the bride attractive not the dress?

It’s just normal social interaction! Be glad you don’t have a husband like my ex, he would have told a bride her dress was ‘interesting looking’ at best if he didn’t like it. One of many reasons we never went out much as a couple…

I wouldn’t overthink it. I say ‘your dress is gorgeous’ whether or not I like it - it’s her day and she should feel special. It’s just the done thing.

The fact he has an opinion is a good thing - shows he cares about the wedding and isn’t just turning up

He said what you're supposed to say in that situation. Oh its beautiful or it looks lovely on you.
You don't tell the bride the truth! You tell her it's gorgeous even if she looks like a sack of shit.

But you? He can and should be honest with you.

And I would happily stand next to my husband smiling while he said this to a bride. Unless he was staring directly at her cleavage and / or groping her bum at the same time I would assume he was being polite by complimenting a bride on her wedding day.

My SIL wore polyester satin but I told her she looked fantastic. It’s what you do, FFS.

Eh

He literally was just complimenting the bride.

Handing you a grip

Every wedding I’ve been to I’ve told the bride she looks beautiful, even if the dress isn’t to my taste - the dress has suited them and they have looked beautiful - who doesn’t on their wedding day…for many it’s the best they will ever look in their life. It doesn’t mean the dress would be one I’d wear/suit me.

I can imagine a similar conversation with DH
"you said The Brides Dress was beautiful"
"what bride?"
"you know, x"
"did we go to her wedding?"

Perhaps she'll be back to tell us we should "demand more from our men"....

This!

In the same way, all new burn babies are beautiful, even if they’re not.

And every name chosen by your daughter, dil, son, next door neighbour for said baby is lovely.

You were at a wedding and he said that the brides dress was beautiful. But when youhwere getting married, you showed a pic of similar dress and he didn't like it?

Could be that he found the bride attractive. Could be that he was making small talk. Could be that the dress suited the bride even if it wasnt his style. Could be that on persona and in a picture the dresses look different. Could be that he thinks the dresses look different. Could be that his taste has changed.

The OP isn't coming back is she? She's a plopper. (Popping a first post on and not posting again after it.) Always a controversial subject matter too.

@HK55 It's impossible to respond to you properly, or advise you, because of scant information in your ONLY post.

He was being polite.

The alternative was to say to the bride he doesn't like it.

I actually know someone (jealous of others) who did exactly that... said to a bride at the reception that she didn't like her dress (to the horror of those around). This was 35 years ago and we still talk about it.

You're overthinking it.

Stirrer …

I think you’re reading way too much into that and perhaps you should explore why you immediately assume your husband fancies someone else based on a throwaway comment?

YABU. If this triggered such a thought process, I wonder what else you get wound up about…

its something people say - I would say that whether I like the dress or not (it’s a special occasion and the bride would expect it), I tell parents their newborn kids looks beautiful when really they look puffy and wrinkly all at the same time, I would say one of my girls looks gorgeous on a night out because she put in the effort but in reality I’m indifferent. It means nothing, just a pleasantry and an expected custom.

Do you mean you were at a wedding and your DH commented to the bride about how beautiful her dress was? He was probably being polite, he would hardly comment to say the dress was ugly.

If I was to ask DH now about the dress at any of the weddings we have been to over the last few years I'm pretty sure he wouldn't remember any of them in detail.

I have no idea what’s going on here. I’m going to put the kettle on instead.

For goodness sake it’s just something nice you say to brides!

I once read an interesting quote that stayed with me.

“the subconscious mind will always find evidence to support that which it believes to be true”

so you believe deep down that your husband prefers other women to you, and as such you fixate on something meaningless because of your subconscious beliefs. Otherwise you would not have retained that

Yes OP, he should have told her she looked dreadful and should be ashamed to leave her house looking like that. Every bride wants that. If this trivial comment, presumably made out of politeness, bothers you so much you are over reacting massively. Most men wouldn't know one wedding dress from another and care less.

You need to better explain what you mean OP. Your post is a bit confusing.

In the meantime, I’m assuming you want to get a dress (though not a bridal one as you’re already married?) and your husband doesn’t particularly like it. You’re confused because he once complimented a bride who was wearing a similar style.

However, people generally compliment brides. It’s considered polite.
You are over-thinking this.

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