Husband told the bride her dress was beautiful

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My husband told the bride her dress was beautiful, but when i showed him my dress idea, which was very similar, he said he didn't like it. He claims he doesn’t recall her dress being similar. Does it appear he finds the bride attractive not the dress?

Pervert

Were you sitting on a park bench in trench coats and he says
'the brides dress is beautiful'
You reply
'but you hated my dress'
and he says
'Give me the Kompromat quickly Vladimir, but keep up the bizarre wedding bants'
?

Is he not allowed to tell a bride she looks beautiful on her wedding day?

Oh grow up. What is wrong with people on this site lately

That’s what I came on to say.

Social niceties at a wedding:

Telling the bride she looks beautiful
Her dress amazing
The service was wonderful
The food is fantastic
The venue is amazing
It was fun mingling with complete strangers whilst the B&G had photos taken for 2hrs

It does not reflect people's actual thoughts in any way.

It's just one of those things you say because it's to be expected and to appear polite whether you like it or not, isn't it? Unless he was gushing about it then I think you're maybe a bit paranoid unless you have reason to think he's inclined to flirt.

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Leave the bastard... and never be friends with that dress bride bitch again!

What bride?

Does your husband have TWO wives? If so, gonna stop being confusing on AIBU and start an AMA instead, please. It will fill up fast.

What do you think he should have said? “Bloody hell love - you look like a sack of spuds in that monstrosity! You’d have been better off wearing the bag it came in!”

He claims he doesn’t recall her dress being similar.

Yeah - he’s what’s called “a man”. Look them up.

This is insane. Everyone tells the bride she looks beautiful on her wedding day, even if she doesn’t, because that’s what you do.

Well this is clearly a healthy relationship and marriage is a great idea.

Have you ever told a bride she looks dead ugly, fat or haggard? No? Do you fancy them? This is where madness lies.

Your partner has no strong feelings about a dress. If you gave him 10 pictures of bridal dresses now, he would not be able to remeber which one was the bride's he was talking to. Hell, if you gave him 2 pictures he probably still wouldn't get it right!

It's just what you say to a bride at a wedding. He's hardly going to say "I don't like your dress" is he?

Maybe he liked her dress and didn't like the one you showed him. So they were similar, like most wedding dresses.

He wasn't marrying her. Different dresses suit different people. It was too late to say anything as she was wearing it, whereas yours is still at the ideas stage. He was hardly going to tell her it looked shit. And so on. There's lots of valid reasons he'd say this that don't involve him fancying the bride more than you, but if you don't trust him, don't marry him.

Different people don’t look the same even in the same dress. It depends on size, shape and looks. 🤷‍♀️

Any particular bride? A random one on the street? A relative?

If more then three minutes elapsed between him offering these two opinions, it probably just means that he has the average man's memory for women's clothing (ie, zero).

You need to work out if your insecurities are based on his actions/words or your own issues before you think of marrying him.

Either way it sound like you don't trust him or you feel insecure which doesn't bode well for a happy future together.

Why would you be showing your husband your dress asking opinions if its what you wanted? seems like a looking for drama action which compared with this post backs that up. Sounds exhausting.

Dresses look wildly different on different people and most men cannot tell the difference between most standard white wedding dresses. I'm quite wedding fashion obsessed and from conversations I can tell you most women I know can't tell what the dress of the last wedding they went to looked like more than 'its white' and possibly a vague shape (fitted, princess etc...) or material detail (lace etc...) unless they are due to get married themselves. Its just not a huge deal to virtually anyone but the bride or possibly someone soon to be or just been bride.

Unless its a unique dress like bright colours, mini dress, made of something unusual like leather etc... (in which case its unlikely you would see someone else in something similar) then they do all look similar to people who frankly don't care.

Same.

Yep, every bride is 'beautiful'. It's just what you say.

Nice bloke and a sane wife - I think we need to frame you and hang you both on the wall!!