Husband told the bride her dress was beautiful

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My husband told the bride her dress was beautiful, but when i showed him my dress idea, which was very similar, he said he didn't like it. He claims he doesn’t recall her dress being similar. Does it appear he finds the bride attractive not the dress?

Anyone else sick of these random daft threads like ‘my boss called me an elephant’ we’re the OP never returns?

To quote Basil Fawlty: “A satisfied customer - we should have him stuffed!” 😄

I routinely tell brides on their wedding day that they look beautiful -- because they almost always are!
In fact I don't think I've ever seen a bride who didn't look lovely, after all it's their day and they're very happy.

Ha ha, yep, I'd forgotten that one!! my faulty towers quotes have faded away over time🥲

Christ alive, you sound like a difficult person

You can’t see a single other explanation? Seriously? At every wedding I’ve ever been to I’ve told the bride her dress was beautiful. Even if she looked like a meringue wrapped in toilet paper.

I suspect he had no real opinion on the dress at all, and was just making small talk.

Ooooh yes I remember that one. He smiled when he said thank you or something. Does sound familiar.

I live fairly close to the register office, and yes they are. Often they are trotting up the street in kitten heels holding up their dresses so as not to trip, and it makes me happy to think of their (potentially)long and happy marriages.

IMO, the bigger the wedding, the shorter the marriage.

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Maybe he is socially normal and knows that is the kind of thing you say to a bride. He might also think she is attractive but presumably you also think other men look good.

Most men couldn't give two shits about weddings dresses unless they are being worn by their own wife (or maybe their daughter on her wedding day)

Saying to the bride 'your dress looks beautiful' is just something everyone says to the bride (whether you think it or not) Just like you tell a new mum that their new baby is beautiful/cute (whether you think it or not)

Are you always this insecure? This sounds a batshit to me.

I'd be very surprised if any man remembered enough detail about any dress, let alone a bridal gown, to even notice whether they were similar or not! Also why are you showing him pictures of the dress you may wear? Isn't it supposed to be a surprise? Get a dress you love!

This sounds like a bigger problem about your confidence in yourself and in your relationship. Everyone tells every bride that they/their dress looks beautiful, it’s what you do even if the bride rocks up in a teletubby inspired bright green monstrosity.

He’s not supposed to see the dress anyway and has no say in it.

Just wear what makes you feel beautiful and I guarantee on the day he will say you/your dress look beautiful.

Nice to tap into her insecurity. 🙄

FFS, OP 🤦‍♀️

You don't tell a bride her dress ISN'T beautiful.

He made an absolutely standard kind, normal-person comment at a wedding to a bride who's just spent how long and how much on her dress. He probably didn't even clock anything about it.

In contrast, you've just shared an idea - and he wasn't keen on it. He maybe didn't like the style, didn't feel it would suit you. Or just wasn't bothered. Meh, it's a dress.

Do you often do things like this?

You can't possibly see a reason someone would make smalltalk to a bride by saying her dress is beautiful, regardless of whether they like it?

There must be something in 4 otherwise she wouldn’t ask this question. People on here are assuminh she’s crazy but there’s not enough info. Maybe OP’s partner has fancied this other woman for years??

It’s a lovely thing to say to a bride on her Big Day.

Everyone always tells the bride they look beautiful, that they love the dress, that it’s the best wedding they’ve been to, even when that isn’t really true.

I wondered the same. It is possible that the dress suited the girl he complimented but he felt something different would suit you better.

Who knows?

In my experience most blokes are not overly interested in bridal dresses.

Why are you even looking at wedding dresses if you're already married??

I'm really confused? He made pleasantries at a wedding - he probably didn't even notice the dress that much?

He may have just been being polite. It’s a thing you say.

its also possible that a dress that suits one person does not suit another

he may also just imagine you in a particular style. That doesn’t mean you need to choose that style.

Should he have told her that he didn’t like her dress?

Of course he told the wife her dress was beautiful - that customary politeness at a wedding. It was quite wise of him not to tell HER she looked beautiful within earshot, as I suspect this would have been a whole other thread.

This is another post where I’d gently suggest a bit of growing up is needed. And maybe some counselling to address the insecurity.