Husbands messages to a friend

[PRGirlUK]

Here's a message exchange between my husband and what was one of my close friends. I became aware of it as I watched it come through live on a computer I was using, which was synced to his phone he was using downstairs.

Husband - Oi [name of friend] how are you? X
Friend – Alreety poppet. I'm v good thanks. Is you ok? X
Husband - Good ta beautiful: you need to get your beautiful arse out for a drink. X
Friend - My god damn arse will be out tomoz. Is you??
Husband - Hell yeah, look forward to seeing you. X
Friend - Don't get too excited only ickle pikey me lol. Will be good night looking forward
to seeing yas all x
Husband - You is all any man needs. Yum. X
Friend - Pfffffff yeah. Know of any spare ones
Husband - No just me.
Friend - Hmmmmmm
Husband - Your call eventually
Friend - Wat is?????
Husband - Nothing. See you tomorrow. X
Friend - Have a drink poppet x

I saw the friend the next day and she did not mention it. When I eventually challenged my husband he brushed it off as nothing and just banter, effectively minimising the impact it had on me, and that it was in my head that there was anything wrong with it. To me it is unacceptable and devastated me. Thoughts?

They're both totally out of order

He's not sliding into her DMs, he's running full tilt

Is this a real thread OP? Or just a wind up

Eww

I’d ditch him for trying to claim he’s single and acting so desperate around her.

And I’d ditch her for the gross replies, talking like she’s 5 a year old.

^^ this
He's been at it before

I think the last line is her telling him she thinks he's talking to her like this because he's had a drink.

OP was you invited to this drink?

If it was me I'd kick him out. He clearly wants her and although your friend doesn't seem interested she hasnt really stopped him, something must of happened or been said for him to message her in that way in. You'll be constantly thinking what he's upto when he's out now.

This is way more than friendly banter in my opinion.

Would he be ok with you texting this type of thing to one of his mates?

Did your husband (and his friend) do GCSE English or Functional English Level 2? Are these people non native English speakers? Also what country are they from.

Just trying to get some context.

He is a twat and is definitely interested in her.
She I am not 100% about - I think she is an awkward position - if you had not read the messages live on the laptop and she mentioned to you that he had sent messages she felt were inappropriate what would you have said? I suspect - you would ask him - he would say it was banter and she was trying to split you up and you would stay with him and she would be the one you no longer see.

I think the kisses are harmless (from her) I know some people who put them to everyone and mean nothing by it. I think it is possible her 'wat is' - could be an attempt to see if he would be more explicit and she might have told you or she might be interested.

I would be dumping him on the ground that he sounds thick - as well as a flirt

Just a bit?

Yes, @PRGirlUK, your H is a player. He was clearly making a move on your Friend, and it feels like it’s not the first time. I would consider his sordid words and intent to be infidelity.

His defensive downplaying and accusing you of overreacting are manipulative tactics straight from the Script. You caught him shitting all over you and your marriage by coming on to your Friend, and he is not remorseful at all. That speaks volumes.

I am uncomfortable with F’s response to his sleazy overture. She is being coy and playful instead of definitively shutting him down like I would expect. She should have called him out or popped his balloon by telling him to bring you to the drinks. She absolutely should have told you instead of keeping his dirty secret.

@PRGirlUK, his faithless behavior is sickening and deserves consequences. I would send him away while I considered my options.

Chavvy

This is an April fools joke, it has to be!

Surely actual, adult human beings don't talk like that? Had they both bumped their heads earlier that day?

Sadly not a joke. All true. She previously told my H that he would be her H one day. I'm glad I called him out and thanks all for the validation of my reaction. What an absolute twat. Am done with both. It's a betrayal in my eyes and I deserve better. And the cringe speak just is the icing on the cake!

I'd dump him just for his typing 'style'. Vom.

Shish. Us immigrants actually try harder 😂

😂😂😂 is you?? Arghhh

Eh?!! 😳 what sort of friend is she? Are they going for drinks tonight? Are you going?

Hed shag her in a heartbeat given the chance. I wouldn't trust her either though. She's encouraging him. You don't talk like that to a friends husband

I'd dump both of them

I'm sorry but your husband is tragic.

He's dumb as a box of rocks.
He's treating you like crap.

He's not even a good at cheating. He doesn't understand how technology works, is inarticulate, his banter/flirting sucks. He won't get far with anyone with more than 2 braincells.

You could do better without even trying.

He's not a loss. You will be far better off without him.