Mother’s Day disappointment aibu

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i have a daughter age 2, and am 14 weeks pregnant with baby 2.

All week I’ve seen a gift bag in the dining room that says happy Mother’s Day on it, I was really looking forward to seeing what daddy and my toddler might have picked for me.

i opened a mug that says mum, I am known as mummy as my daughter is only tiny. My husband told me his sister had bought it had got it to him, so he didn’t even choose it

I feel sad that my husband didn’t do it and I’ve put the mug in a charity bag as I don’t want a Mother’s Day gift from my sister in law. Only my child or husband

am I being unreasonable here.

I'd hand him a screenshot of this post

Interesting username for your first post on MN!

🤔

Roll on Christmas, all the moaning about presents not, received, not appreciated and so on although maybe we can anticipate 'My inadequate Easter egg' in a few weeks.

That’s vile! You’re a Mother’s Day troll, first post, weird username.

FFS use the bloody mug and smile at you DD when you do so! When my DC were two years old I go bugger all - their arsehole of a dad just couldn't be bothered.......his excuse......."You're not my mother".

Probably mini eggs that they don’t want to share!

I genuinely will never understand the angst surrounding Mother’s Day.

No winning in losing a child.
But the point i make is just be grateful.

Exactly! The joy of Mother’s Day is just being a mother.

I’m not really sure if today is supposed to be another mini Christmas? I had a card from my DD7 and that was it really. Took kids to Legoland, tried out new bbq. Just feeling greatful being a mum ☺️

Yes yabu

Petulant princess behaviour. Be grateful you have healthy children. Many will be waking up on Mother’s Day grieving.

Really happy for all the mums who feel that being a mum is enough?! Bit smug. But women are allowed to want things.

But you got a gift. It might not have been the perfect gift but it was still a gift.
Do you need items to tell you you are a good mum? If the mug had said ‘mummy’, would that have made it acceptable?

Seriously, it’s a day that someone made up. Don’t put so much on it.

And women are allowed to feel that having DC is enough.

it goes both ways.

Yabu. two year olds can’t shop and you are not your husbands mother.

Yeah, but no one has a right to occupy a space that puts other women down and makes them feel like they are inferior, petty, selfish mothers because they don't have the same feelings and live in identical circumstances and they want something more from the people in their lives that they spend a huge amount of time caring for. Happy Mothers day.

I'd be interested to know all the women saying their partner isn't their mother and a baby can't shop, still don't care about no card or gifts when their child is of an age to ask daddy to help or for the dad to take the child shopping and say what would you like to give mum?

No, of course two year olds can’t shop! Hence it’s not unreasonable for the OP’s partner to lend a hand… it’s called being a nice person?

Also kids aren’t going to be able to earn money until at least 14 - so how are they meant to buy stuff without some kind of help? Or mums shouldn’t get Mother’s Day cards until their kids get jobs?

"there was nothing in my stocking" then a list a mile long of stuff they've done (half of which is probably entirely unnecessary) "it's the same every year" DON'T BLOODY DO IT THEN

NBU to feel disappointed, but very U to put the gift in a charity bag. Your daughter is just learning about receiving and giving gifts, set her an example and show some gratitude to HER. Not to mention, you should also thank your SIL who put some effort in, as your (D)H didn’t bother.

The fact he couldn’t even be arsed to pick a mum mug and got his sister to get something is just absolute wank. No less effort could have been made. YANBU! Defo charity bag it.

YANBU, DD is too small to buy anything so he discusses with her what they should do and he heavily nudges her towards a massage, flowers and a home made card. It is one day, just one little day when even a card and a cup of tea would be appreciated, just a tiny little bit of thought.

Dd knows it’s mothers day and she loves being able to say she got me some flowers, chocolates and bought me a thoughtful present (I get massages because I’m constantly saying I need one and then never get around to booking them). It’s not just about the mum it’s the pleasure a small child gets for having their mum give them a massive cuddle and a thank you. We never bought xmas or birthday gifts (neither of us are bothered about gifts) before we had our DC, we started because we wanted to show her how to give and not just receive.

She isn't SIL's mother either.