Mother’s Day disappointment aibu

[genderguessesplz]

i have a daughter age 2, and am 14 weeks pregnant with baby 2.

All week I’ve seen a gift bag in the dining room that says happy Mother’s Day on it, I was really looking forward to seeing what daddy and my toddler might have picked for me.

i opened a mug that says mum, I am known as mummy as my daughter is only tiny. My husband told me his sister had bought it had got it to him, so he didn’t even choose it

I feel sad that my husband didn’t do it and I’ve put the mug in a charity bag as I don’t want a Mother’s Day gift from my sister in law. Only my child or husband

am I being unreasonable here.

Ungrateful and setting a really poor example for your daughter. Pull yourself together and grow up a bit.

It's fine to be disappointed. I think a lot of women are very thoughtful and don't understand people who aren't. Your husband clearly is one of those people. Maybe he has some good points as well. Next year tell your husband exactly what you want. Life's too short to be sad about mother's day gifts.

Yanbu Mother’s Day is a chance to say thank you for everything you do and show how appreciated you are. Your husband failed. Yanbu.

No, her husband set a bad example. She set the example that women don't have to appreciate the very minimum of effort.

Meh at least you’ve had a mug. I’m a bit narked that my husband has done nothing and been a lazy git all day. My children did make me lovely cards at school though.

It was slightly embarrassing when my dad asked me if I’d had some lovely chocolates and flowers this morning and I said no. They’d actually sent me a card and money so had made more effort than my husband had.

Oo.
Can u say what Zoo

I was brought up in the 50s and 60s. We were given a small card by our church to give to our mums and would give her a small gift - a bunch of daffs, tulips or chocolate when we were old enough to go to a shop on our own and maybe bake and decorate a cake when we were old enough to use the oven. When did Mothering Sunday become such a big thing?

Wow. Men on MN apparently get away with doing less than the bare minimum!

Do you feel generally unappreciated @genderguessesplz? I think sometimes all those feelings come to a head on days like Mothers Day.

I'm going to generalise here and say men can be shocking at choosing presents, your sil did a pretty poor job too. Maybe they grew up with Mothers Day being not a big deal with token gifts??

I know, but they are hilarious.

Yes you are being unreasonable.
I wonder if all these posts about mother's day are true because I don't know anyone in real life who gives it any headspace at all!
I'm a mother and a grandmother and I don't expect anything beyond a message.

I guess Marwell

I had much the same ( although dh cooked )
Although all three of mine finished their Unis on Friday for Easter but are still there

That’s more effort than a mug he got his sister to buy though isn’t it? I’d be thrilled with a homemade card and some tulips, as it is, for reasons unknown I got nothing 🤷🏼‍♀️

No. In case I ever have to post trade secrets… 😉

Bit shitty to your SIL to just instantly chuck the gift she got you, knowing that your DH wasn’t going to bother, at least she tried. Your DH did a crap job, what did he do last year?

I don't think it is in real life. It's just a few people on Mumsnet who think it is!

I think a lot of mums would be happy with a card, flowers and a cake baked and decorated from them. It’s not even close to what OP got though in fairness to her

Thats South not South East

I was guessing
Howletts
Or Port Lymm
Or Wingham

My sons at one, when he’s home.

Well I'm a mother. I think Mothers' Day is commercialised, invented nonsense. I'd be disappointed if my son sent me a "Mothers' Day" card.

OP , grow up.

My sons always talking about those 🤣🤣

like when the cheetahs started throwing up so they decided to change the diet from horse meat 🤢

I feel you. All I wanted was to be out of the house. I don't drive so wanted hubby and the kids to take me somewhere. A nice walk, the beach, a museum...anywhere. We went to Asda and the the graveyard to put down flowers for my mum. Then home again. I feel so let down and disappointed. I did get a card and chocs. To be honest, I would have loved flowers but they never buy me them for any reason. So the kids are in their rooms, hubby is on his phone and I'm sat here staring at the same 4 walls i see every day. 😔oh how it must be nice to feel appreciated

A mug? The only time I hit a mug is when my kids decorated it themselves.
However, I wouldn’t want gifts. Take me out to lunch please (or cook- and clean up - a nice meal),

Did you tell your DH you were expecting something?

I personally wouldn’t mind just because I feel like it only makes sense when your DC are old enough to get it and they do something, like a school card or something.

Putting it in the charity bag is passive aggressive and childish though. I definitely wouldn’t get anything else after that move lol.

Mother’s Day actually dates back hundreds of years, it’s linked to Lent, hence why the date changes every year. It may now be commercialised but it’s not invented.