To ban DP’s best friend from my house?

[LeonieJD]

I’m just back from giving DP and his friend a lift into town.

This was the first time I’ve properly met him, and wow, I’m in disbelief.

They had a couple of drinks here before going out - DP’s friend was joking and asking how much I know about his ‘antics’ at Uni and in his 20’s.

Gentle ribbing turned into his friend referring to past partners as ‘whales’, saying they’d ’pull a pig’ for a laugh and then referring to one specific woman as a ‘paper bag job’ All WHILST I WAS SAT THERE!!

Then, as I reversed off the drive, I waved to a neighbour who was getting something from their car. DP’s friend tapped him on the shoulder and casually asked ‘is that the fit one with the arse?’ - he has never been to our house before so someone has clearly referenced her.

AIBU to say I never want to meet this pathetic ‘man’ again?

I was stood at a bar getting a wine and half a pint for my partner, and there were two 30ish blokes chatting, both really nice looking, nice clothes etc, but oh my God the filth coming out of their mouths about women, made me want to vomit. I bet they're other halfs never sees that side of them 🤢🤮

I highly doubt DP will invite him again

Well, if he does ever see him again op, either inside or outside your house, you will know that everything he told you was lies won’t you.

It’s weird how they always label criticism of a specific man’s behaviour: “man hating.”

Makes perfect sense to me.

Maybe failure to comprehend is a ‘you’ problem.

Seriously?

Stop focusing on the friend and look at who you've hooked up with. Sound like a right pair of tw*ts in my opinion.

Birds of a feather....

My lovely DH was a very drunken teen. He had a (unwarranted as it turned out) reputation for not being into relationships and having ONS. I had to wait for him to grow up and sober up before we started being a couple. Unfortunately his friends haven't grown up (or sobered up in some cases) and are still the same "lads" thirty years later. I suspect this is the case with your DP — he grew up.

Either your DP is like his friend and you just found out or he used to be like that and has now grown up and not like that anymore. Still not great though tbh.