That we still need dinner

[Littlebittiredoflife]

DH is saying we don't need dinner tonight as we've already had three meals. Our "meals" were 2 or 3 American pancakes for breakfast with fruit and a drizzle of syrup, smoked salmon and cream cheese bagel with crisps, cucumber and tomato for lunch and a scone with jam and cream. Admittedly lunch was around 2:30pm and scone around 5:30pm.

I know it's not the healthiest day and we could do with a bit more veg for sure but aibu to think that we do all need an evening meal still? DH is often saying do we actually need dinner if we end up eating lunch late. I'm not the best judge of food as I overeat but I'm sure DC will still need feeding this evening

Yes where another poster has outlined that cheese on toast is heavy and stodgy!!!

lol. Its half a sandwich simply grilled.

I wonder what Italians and Spanish people think about all this demonising of bread and pasta, you cant move for bread with meals in europe.

I say that as someone who cant even eat bread due to digestion issues, including most starchy carbs but theres nothing wrong with them if your body tolerates them.

Unless you need to stay away from starchy carbs for dietary reasons, like I do, there is no need to worry about a diet that is 'carb heavy'. The vast vast majority of the world eats carb heavy, using pasta or rice, or bread or pastry goods to bulk out their intake.

I eat low carb for my own personal needs but the majority dont need to do that and certainly not for children.

This was my thought too. My DC would feel let down if they didn't sit down with us for dinner.

While I do agree that sitting down for a meal together is a good thing in general, to say that children will feel let down if there is a an occasional exception seems a little weak. It sounds like those children need to learn that not every day has to be the same and that sometimes it is ok to eat without mummy and daddy sitting there too. That said, I doubt the the children would really feel let down, sounds like projection of adult insecurities.

Possibly depends on the age of the kids? My child fell asleep in the car on the way back from my sister's a few weeks ago. We carried her up to bed and she didn't stir till the morning. The next day I got a telling off that she'd had no dinner! We also had to play two of the after dinner games the following evening.

I scone isn’t a meal!

Id want to have something cooked at some point in the day, and more vegetablesy. So a vegetable soup as a PP suggested sounds perfect, or a pasta with a vegetable based source? Even a vegetable curry or stir fry

What you’ve had today is suggestive to me of a day when you’re saving your main meal for the evening tbh!

Well, it was your description of one bagel being 'a very large lunch' that got people going, not that you said you find bagels filling.

What's your objection to salad?

You’ve arrived on this thread…..🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

Only on Mumsnet would a single cream cheese and salmon bagel be called ‘a very large lunch’.

And kebabs are in fact quite rich in protein! 😊

My objection is salad leaves me positively stuffed.

It’s just odd to me that expressing my opinion that having bagels with smoked salmon and cream cheese, crisps, cucumber and tomato is a large lunch (it is by my standards) and that it was a late lunch (at 2:30pm) and then a cream tea at 5:30, well for me that would be enough, I wouldn’t need another meal in the evening. For other people it’s clearly not enough and they would want another meal, but I don’t see why it causes such outrage that someone wouldn’t need an evening meal after that.

Can't be bothered to list what I eat,(fed up with the stupid comments) this would be my DH,who eats by the clock. Kids different, teenage DGS, can really pack food away. DH has been saying for 15 years plus,he wants/needs to loose weight. I enjoy food/prep/cooking/baking, I can't eat a lot of carbs. I have a hiatus hernia,so cannot eat after 6pm. It's no wonder 60% of the UK is reported to be overweight, diabetes on the rise, the amount of people using "fat jabs".

Salad LEAVES is a different matter.

Oh hello!

Excited for Thursday?

Oh DON’T! My stomach is stretching at the mere thought! 🥬

That would be enough food for me. I would not need dinner.

But you have dinner if you are hungry.

Have some of a mumsnet chicken

don't prepare anything for twatface.

I'm not outraged. But a cheese and salad sandwich with crisps is a very standard sized lunch. Too much for some people, too little for others - but it's an exaggeration to call it a very large lunch.

I get your child was upset that she slept through her usual dinner time. Its still ok though that the dinner was skipped.

I can see why we have so much obesity when three pancakes with syrup and fruit is regarded as a 'snack'. And a bagel with cream cheese and salmon with salad is regarded as a 'snack'. Those are not 'snacks'. That's quite a substantial breakfast and a decent lunch. Its two meals. Not two snacks.

A scone and cream is pretty filling. I would not need a full meal after that unless I had had a very active day. On a normal day, I'd just need some soup or something. On a sedentary day, I might no need anything more.

Are we genuinely suggesting that a salmon bagel is unhealthy choice that is contributing to an obesity problem.

What are people eating they deem a healthy lunch if a bagel isn’t it. Seeds? Dust?

I am unhealthy, overweight, and comfortably so. I would never consider salmon and salad an unhealthy or overly sizeable lunch.

Like I said on one of these threads less than a week ago, I had a Burger King for lunch one day and still had dinner later. I don’t need any faux outrage or judgment around that, I wanted a burger and I ate one, but surely that is unhealthy and we can leave the bagel eaters out of the “the country is getting fat” debate!

No. Pp said it was a decent lunch, nowhere did she suggest it was unhealthy.

Helps to read before ranting

Mine?