That we still need dinner

[Littlebittiredoflife]

DH is saying we don't need dinner tonight as we've already had three meals. Our "meals" were 2 or 3 American pancakes for breakfast with fruit and a drizzle of syrup, smoked salmon and cream cheese bagel with crisps, cucumber and tomato for lunch and a scone with jam and cream. Admittedly lunch was around 2:30pm and scone around 5:30pm.

I know it's not the healthiest day and we could do with a bit more veg for sure but aibu to think that we do all need an evening meal still? DH is often saying do we actually need dinner if we end up eating lunch late. I'm not the best judge of food as I overeat but I'm sure DC will still need feeding this evening

A scone does not equal a meal. Even if it was served with cream and jam.

DH doesn't have to eat dinner if he doesn't want it. But he can't dictate what others eat.

Is there a limit? Who is to say why or whether OP should have pasta and potatoes later?

(and I say that as someone who doesnt eat pasta, potatoes, bagels, scones or pancakes, but thats my choice, theres nothing wrong with eating those things)

A scone is a snack before you start cooking a roast. If you have have any left over, they make an excellent bread and butter pudding.

Ha ha ha! It may not seem like much, but believe me if it is a cream tea, i.e. a scone with jam and real clotted cream, it is actually very filling.

So you had breakfast, lunch and a scone.

That’s a normal day of food on top of dinner.

Of course you should have dinner if you are hungry.

If DH is not hungry that’s fine but if you are then you should definitely have something.

You sound a bit like Jack Sprat and his wife. 😉

It sounds as though everything was resolved. Having said that, I'm always puzzled by people who think that because they aren't hungry (or tired or anxious or whatever) that no one else could possibly be. Bizarre.

I wouldn’t want to eat much after all that. I might have some soup or toast if i was hungry but not a full on meal

Um, yes?!

Order an Uber eats Indian takeaway, with rice and naan.

No one would judge you!

ITS NOT OVEREATING

Yes it's a bit bready but it's ONE DAY

I'd definitely have an evening meal after that.

Oh and I'm a size 8-10 and have been for 12+ years before anyone asks.

In what world is a bagel with a few crisps, cucumber and tomato a 'very large lunch' 🤔
That's a perfectly normal lunch, some people might even have some fruit or yoghurt with it and it still would not class as a 'very large lunch' ffs

Beautifully phrased 👌

And no not a world I want to visit!

I've just been to the shop for cake and lindor. That's not a meal, either.

Agree. Mumsnet is full of restrictive eaters.

My extremely skinny 9yo would eat a filled bagel, a bag of crisps, fruit, crudités, greek yoghurt and a small flapjack for lunch and be starving 4 hours later.

The food listed by OP is probably 1500 or so calories I reckon. I'd be hungry on that.

I think it’s the crisps putting people off.

Only fat people eat crisps. A bag of McCoys is a one way ticket to being airlifted out of bed.

Agree with this^
As @DustyMaiden said : Those that are hungry eat.
If your DH is not hungry - he doesn’t.

I think we established this weekend that 3 sweet naans and 11pm scrambled eggs are the way forward.

FWIW a scone at 5.30 would tide me over for a bit but I would want something else later.

Its fine if he is not hungry or cant be arsed to make anything while being hungry but saying this is enough food for a day is weird, unless its what you would normally eat.

This whole thread is batshit.

you’re both adults. Eat if you’re hungry. Don’t if you’re not.

can’t believe that needs to be written

Everyone's different. Today I've had roast chicken with a jacket potato and salad and two pears. But I am on mounjaro and trying to lose weight. Dc's have had cereal and toast and a few snacky things as well as the chicken dinner and fruit. Dh had the same as me and porridge.

There's no one size fits all it depends how hungry you are - I don't believe people "need" to have 3 meals a day.

I cant believe it needs to be written that different people have different hunger levels and capacities and appetites, but still come the ridiculous 'restrictive eater' comments and teeny tinies comments.

And its all over another thread too.

cheese on toast or pasta is ‘light’? 🫢

A scone is not a meal its a scone. But I don't live in competitive undereating land where a chicken and a massive salad should sustain us for a week.

I wouldn't want dinner - maybe something snacky later, maybe not. When I was in my twenties, I could easily have put away a meal.

Surely, the question is, are you hungry? Not what would everyone else do.

Eat / make dinner if you and the kids want it.

I wouldn’t need to eat again. My husband would, and my kids would too. I would be making them dinner as normal and choose not to eat myself. If I got hungry, I’d be happy with some crackers and houmous or anything picky.