That we still need dinner

[Littlebittiredoflife]

DH is saying we don't need dinner tonight as we've already had three meals. Our "meals" were 2 or 3 American pancakes for breakfast with fruit and a drizzle of syrup, smoked salmon and cream cheese bagel with crisps, cucumber and tomato for lunch and a scone with jam and cream. Admittedly lunch was around 2:30pm and scone around 5:30pm.

I know it's not the healthiest day and we could do with a bit more veg for sure but aibu to think that we do all need an evening meal still? DH is often saying do we actually need dinner if we end up eating lunch late. I'm not the best judge of food as I overeat but I'm sure DC will still need feeding this evening

Hmmm is it his turn to cook?

How is a bagel with salmon and cream cheese plus crisps, cucumber and tomato a very large lunch?

Generally speaking a 3 course meal is a large lunch.

A 'meat and two veg' type meal is a lunch/dinner

Bagel is a light lunch/snacky lunch

In my head

However my parents and my partner cant really eat dinners now, my parents have always eaten very small portions and would go home from my house saying they wouldnt eat tea later after being fed by me (which they wouldnt)

Everyone has a different capacity.

I totally would ( 5'5", 9st 5 BMI 21), but if it was as late as 5:30 pm might well skip dinner. Would still feed the DCs however......

@DrummingMousWife

is pasta or cheese and toast light? I would say those are pretty heavy, stodgy options

ffs, lunch was a sandwich, minimal salad and a packet of crisps. That is not a large lunch.

And a scone is not even tea, never mind dinner.

I'd be expecting at the very least sausage chips and beans... but would be vaguely placated by a thick or a chunky vegetable soup and nice bread.

@MissyB1

what if she’s not hungry though? No point forcing something down for the sake of it

Bung a couple of pizzas I the oven.

@Gundogday

those are easy options yes, light deffo not!

Is your husband called Jack Sprat, by chance?😉

Sounds like you had a decent dinner anyway, no argument. It's all good!

Sounds like your DH is concerned about yours and / or your DCs’ weight…

I have a DC who overeats and it is a real battle to keep her weight (at the upper end) or where it should be. I have another who is really fussy, eats less healthily as a result, and is like a rake as he naturally stops when he’s had what he needs. I get it, it’s hard depending on the hand you are given. I am always hungry!!

That’s not a hugely healthy food day but I wouldn’t say it’s excessively bad. If you are DC are eating like that everyday and then having dinner that’s a different matter though.

I’d definitely want some dinner after a scone at 5:30 (but I’m not someone who can skip dinner even on Christmas Day). I’d probably keep it light though so some soup or a sandwich.

@ChinaChina

bagels, crisps, scones and then pizza would be a bit much surely?

Tbh I wouldnt count a bagel with a bit of salad and crisps a very large lunch? Nor one scone as a 'cream tea'

The whole day is a bit funny food wise, sharing a pizza for those who are hungry seems a good end to this day and then back to more normal eating tomorrow.

Need and want are different things.
I wouldn't need another meal but I would probably want it. I am trying to retrain my brain and belly to only eat when I am actually hungry rather than because it is X time. Or because I am bored.

I would still feed kids though.

No one would judge her?! Have you read this thread?

Depends. If it was 1 little scone with a bit of jam/cream then yes I would want some egg on toast or something. If it was a full afternoon tea with 2 big scones piled high with jam and cream then I probably wouldn't be hungry.

You don't 'need' dinner. If you're not hungry, don't eat. If you're a bit peckish, have a snack. If you want dinner, have dinner.

Calories in pancakes 550 minimum, calories in salmon bagel 462, calories in cream tea 672 so total of 1684 calories. You don’t need dinner, maybe a bowl of soup

yes, many people eat their evening meal early
if they want to eat at the same time as their kids, if they go to bed early (if you're in bed by 9 it's not great to be eating at 8), if they are doing intermittent fasting or "window" eating, if they work shifts, or if that's just the time they're hungry!

I eat later now but growing up we always ate between 5-5.30. If you have lunch at 12 it's probably healthier to eat a main meal at 5.30 rather than have a large snack to 'tide you over' until 7.30.

is it THAT remarkable and unusual that you need 3 question marks to convey your shock?

Pretty sure @Bitofanchange was being sarcastic 🤣

It does, for some people. It would top me wanting another meal after it.
I'm not an underwater and I'm not skinny

I don’t think adults need that much food so I am with your husband; perhaps something for the children or soup, salad, or fuit

Challenge accepted

A bagel sounds like a large lunch??

and the competitive teeny tiny ridiculousness starts