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Sell the story, if so to who?

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cupsandcupsoftea · 18/03/2025 20:15

I'm unsure about this but I'm on dating sites and as we all know it's full of parasites.

I was speaking to an elected councillor who I thought was decent, he sent me nudes, vulgar text etc. He swiftly deleted it but it's really wrong, I have screenshot etc. He was disgusting.

I'm not on about selling per se for money but we shouldn't have creeps like this representing us.

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cupsandcupsoftea · 18/03/2025 20:16

If so, how? I'm not wanting money just to expose.

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Annascaul · 18/03/2025 20:16

You really want to make a profit on this??

Haricots · 18/03/2025 20:16

This is via messaging rather than via the app?

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cupsandcupsoftea · 18/03/2025 20:17

It's on WhatsApp

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YourIcyReader · 18/03/2025 20:17

Local paper would be your best bet, surely.

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cupsandcupsoftea · 18/03/2025 20:17

He's not local.

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ExtraOnions · 18/03/2025 20:18

Report it to your local council, or, to the local govt ombudsman.

Loads of lazy journos hang round on these pages though

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cupsandcupsoftea · 18/03/2025 20:18

I don't want to make a profit but I'd happily sell and donate anything to a women's charity. I'm just not sure if it would be of interest.

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cupsandcupsoftea · 18/03/2025 20:19

He's a councillor, not an MP.

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Snorlaxo · 18/03/2025 20:19

You could make a social media post if you want to stay anonymous.

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cupsandcupsoftea · 18/03/2025 20:22

We messaged on the dating app then I found his number via the government website. He replied, verified himself sent me nudes, horrible messages. I just don't think this is right.

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cupsandcupsoftea · 18/03/2025 20:22

So, I don't want money but I don't think he should be in a position of power.

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cupsandcupsoftea · 18/03/2025 20:23

I'm just not sure if it's 'interesting ' enough.

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Haricots · 18/03/2025 20:23

cupsandcupsoftea · 18/03/2025 20:22

We messaged on the dating app then I found his number via the government website. He replied, verified himself sent me nudes, horrible messages. I just don't think this is right.

So he didn’t give you his number, you found it and messaged him. Had he sent you nudes before you got his number?

ItsaMeMummio · 18/03/2025 20:24

cupsandcupsoftea · 18/03/2025 20:22

We messaged on the dating app then I found his number via the government website. He replied, verified himself sent me nudes, horrible messages. I just don't think this is right.

WTF? So you basically online stalked him for his number?

Neither of you are coming out of this very well tbh. He sounds like a creep but your behaviour was also quite inappropriate.

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cupsandcupsoftea · 18/03/2025 20:25

We chatted on the site, he then got a bit horrible. Then I thought I'd find his number on government site to verify was him, I assumed it wad a fake profile. It wasn't as he got back to me off the proper number

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cupsandcupsoftea · 18/03/2025 20:25

I thought originally someone was impersonating him so messaged the real guy to let him know. Turns out it was him.

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Haricots · 18/03/2025 20:25

ItsaMeMummio · 18/03/2025 20:24

WTF? So you basically online stalked him for his number?

Neither of you are coming out of this very well tbh. He sounds like a creep but your behaviour was also quite inappropriate.

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Exactly

added to which, mobile phone numbers aren’t provided.

this is sketchy op. He didn’t give you his number. You stalked him

ToKittyornottoKitty · 18/03/2025 20:26

With you seeking him out and messaging him he probably thought you were interested… why did you contact him?

Rachie1973 · 18/03/2025 20:26

cupsandcupsoftea · 18/03/2025 20:22

We messaged on the dating app then I found his number via the government website. He replied, verified himself sent me nudes, horrible messages. I just don't think this is right.

So if you hadn’t hunted him down he’d not have been able to?

ExtraOnions · 18/03/2025 20:26

cupsandcupsoftea · 18/03/2025 20:22

So, I don't want money but I don't think he should be in a position of power.

He’s a local councillor … the most power he has got is deciding what days your bins are collected on.

Also, check out “revenge porn” laws if you are thinking of sharing intimate images

ItsaMeMummio · 18/03/2025 20:26

cupsandcupsoftea · 18/03/2025 20:25

We chatted on the site, he then got a bit horrible. Then I thought I'd find his number on government site to verify was him, I assumed it wad a fake profile. It wasn't as he got back to me off the proper number

So he showed some red flags, and instead of blocking him and moving on, or reporting him to the dating site, you decided to find his mobile number online and contact him via a different platform?

This is very strange.

Haricots · 18/03/2025 20:26

cupsandcupsoftea · 18/03/2025 20:25

We chatted on the site, he then got a bit horrible. Then I thought I'd find his number on government site to verify was him, I assumed it wad a fake profile. It wasn't as he got back to me off the proper number

What is “a bit horrible”?

and no way did you find his mobile number off a “government website”

Rachie1973 · 18/03/2025 20:27

I think I’d just block and move on.

Josiezu · 18/03/2025 20:27

Why would his life be relevant? Honestly getting to know someone in a dating capacity and then going to the press about nudes or whatever is gross and horrible behaviour on your behalf.