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Sell the story, if so to who?

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cupsandcupsoftea · 18/03/2025 20:15

I'm unsure about this but I'm on dating sites and as we all know it's full of parasites.

I was speaking to an elected councillor who I thought was decent, he sent me nudes, vulgar text etc. He swiftly deleted it but it's really wrong, I have screenshot etc. He was disgusting.

I'm not on about selling per se for money but we shouldn't have creeps like this representing us.

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Phonicshaskilledmeoff · 18/03/2025 20:45

Letmecallyouback · 18/03/2025 20:42

Most people just block them. Not Google then find their mobile and message them.

And that’s why they get away with this shit ffs. She’s doing us all a favour by exposing this kind of behaviour. Women need a back bone not a blind eye!

RedCatBlueCatYellowCat · 18/03/2025 20:45

Report him to his party leader on whatever council he is on. And to the monitoring officer (solicitor) at the council.

Some councillors do use their personal mobile numbers.

AgnesX · 18/03/2025 20:46

Did you manage to keep the pictures and messages? If not it'll be your word against his and given that you contacted him, it might not end well.

Mudkipper · 18/03/2025 20:46

If you're serious about getting this dealt with, you contact the leader of whichever council it is, and complain to them, and also make a complaint to the police at the same time.

cupsandcupsoftea · 18/03/2025 20:46

I'd take money sure but I'd donate it.

It shouldn't be allowed, it's just wrong on so many levels.

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Devianinc · 18/03/2025 20:46

Annascaul · 18/03/2025 20:16

You really want to make a profit on this??

She said not for money but to expose him.

BobbyBiscuits · 18/03/2025 20:47

You should ask the papers what they'll give you, without giving off the whole story. I know The Sun used to pay £750-1000 for something really boring for a slow news day.

cupsandcupsoftea · 18/03/2025 20:47

AgnesX · 18/03/2025 20:46

Did you manage to keep the pictures and messages? If not it'll be your word against his and given that you contacted him, it might not end well.

Yes I screenshotted everything before he deleted.

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Sunshineandoranges · 18/03/2025 20:49

Just go to metro online..they have a link at the bottom of their articles saying..have you got a story to tell? Just send info and ask do they want the photos.

cupsandcupsoftea · 18/03/2025 20:49

Phonicshaskilledmeoff · 18/03/2025 20:45

And that’s why they get away with this shit ffs. She’s doing us all a favour by exposing this kind of behaviour. Women need a back bone not a blind eye!

Thank you.

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Rachelsthorns · 18/03/2025 20:51

If you genuinely wanted to take action, not for profit, I can't understand why you didn't contact the Council and his political party. That's surely the first thing to do and they can take action against him.

Flaskfan · 18/03/2025 20:52

Based on what happened with one of our local councillors, he'll plead mental health, get 3 months suspension then get right back to it, because 'he's a good bloke really' and 'I've known him years.'

Itsoneofthose · 18/03/2025 20:52

cupsandcupsoftea · 18/03/2025 20:15

I'm unsure about this but I'm on dating sites and as we all know it's full of parasites.

I was speaking to an elected councillor who I thought was decent, he sent me nudes, vulgar text etc. He swiftly deleted it but it's really wrong, I have screenshot etc. He was disgusting.

I'm not on about selling per se for money but we shouldn't have creeps like this representing us.

Sorry.. why do you want to do this exactly? A grown man sends nudes to a grown woman and consequently you want to publicly shame him and for him to loose his career? Under the guise that he ‘shouldn’t be representing us’. Think there’s more to this tale than meets the eye here. Careful you don’t get done for slander and libel.

Toothicktounderstand · 18/03/2025 20:53

Sorry if this has been mentioned but isn’t it an offence to send unsolicited nude pictures? I don’t know, just thought it was.

cupsandcupsoftea · 18/03/2025 20:54

Itsoneofthose · 18/03/2025 20:52

Sorry.. why do you want to do this exactly? A grown man sends nudes to a grown woman and consequently you want to publicly shame him and for him to loose his career? Under the guise that he ‘shouldn’t be representing us’. Think there’s more to this tale than meets the eye here. Careful you don’t get done for slander and libel.

I saud nothing rude to him, you think him sending me unsolicited nude photos and extremely vulgar chat is okay?

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cupsandcupsoftea · 18/03/2025 20:55

He knew it was wrong as he deleted them in 30 mins but that's fine is it, poor guy.

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Phonicshaskilledmeoff · 18/03/2025 20:55

Itsoneofthose · 18/03/2025 20:52

Sorry.. why do you want to do this exactly? A grown man sends nudes to a grown woman and consequently you want to publicly shame him and for him to loose his career? Under the guise that he ‘shouldn’t be representing us’. Think there’s more to this tale than meets the eye here. Careful you don’t get done for slander and libel.

Best case scenario it shows terrible judgement on his part. Not someone that should be in his position

x2boys · 18/03/2025 20:56

Hes, a councillor not an Mp who has any power
Would anyone care?

cupsandcupsoftea · 18/03/2025 20:57

x2boys · 18/03/2025 20:56

Hes, a councillor not an Mp who has any power
Would anyone care?

I'm not sure, that's what I'm asking.

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Ted27 · 18/03/2025 20:58

@cupsandcupsoftea

If your motivation is really not about money then you need to complain to the monitoring officer at the LA.
This might help
https://www.lgo.org.uk/make-a-complaint/fact-sheets/other-topics/complaints-about-standards-and-member-conduct

https://www.lgo.org.uk/

https://www.lgo.org.uk/make-a-complaint/fact-sheets/other-topics/complaints-about-standards-and-member-conduct

Binglebong · 18/03/2025 20:59

PineappleCoconut · 18/03/2025 20:42

Just report him to his council and party, & the police

if they don’t act and sack him for this, then I’d contact the local papers on his area.

I wouldn’t want money to sell the story.
He deserves to be held accountable for his actions and reprimanded. You don’t deserve money for his actions.

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Best bet.

fearlessTV · 18/03/2025 20:59

Haricots · 18/03/2025 20:29

They do

I have just checked the list on my council website

not one single mobile number. All landlines or email

Edited

I just checked one fairly local to me and all their mobile numbers are listed

cupsandcupsoftea · 18/03/2025 20:59

Ted27 · 18/03/2025 20:58

@cupsandcupsoftea

If your motivation is really not about money then you need to complain to the monitoring officer at the LA.
This might help
https://www.lgo.org.uk/make-a-complaint/fact-sheets/other-topics/complaints-about-standards-and-member-conduct

Thanks, I will.

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RedCatBlueCatYellowCat · 18/03/2025 20:59

Itsoneofthose · 18/03/2025 20:52

Sorry.. why do you want to do this exactly? A grown man sends nudes to a grown woman and consequently you want to publicly shame him and for him to loose his career? Under the guise that he ‘shouldn’t be representing us’. Think there’s more to this tale than meets the eye here. Careful you don’t get done for slander and libel.

It would absolutely be a breach of the Council Code of Conduct. Being a councillor is not a career, it is an elected position within the community and those who are elected are expected to maintain certain standards. Sending unsolicited nudes is illegal.
One of my local councillors recently got sanctioned for swearing at a junior council officer. This is many times worse, if true.

Teanbiscuits33 · 18/03/2025 21:00

Why would a councillor’s personal mobile number be listed on the government website? He could have all sorts of people texting him if that was the case. They don’t just put mobile numbers on public websites. It doesn’t make any sense.