To be upset that fellow holiday goer told me I'm too old for my hair?

[MoneyPieceNotMoneyShot]

I'm rising 60 and have been obese all my life, have just got it under control, gone on a glow up and have decided to Fuuckit and I've headed off on my holiday of a lifetime.

I've spent most of today with another solo traveller and quite enjoyed her company, but am fully aware she's from a more forthright culture than me. (A close friend from home is also this nationality so I'm fully aware of this conversational style).

As we parted company she said that she felt she had to tell me that at my age I should be considering getting my hair cut to a more age appropriate length.

I fricking love my hair, my hairdresser has been with me through literal thick and thin, and had particularly encouraged me nurturing my length after The Bad Bad Bob Incident of October 23.

Low self confidence and self esteem through being morbidly obese for 30 years doesn't lend itself to resilience, so I'm now in my room trying to distract myself and win the day back to no avail.

Aibu to be upset or am I a soft numpty?

Ignore

Ask her if she’s thought about doing anything to cover up her massive nose she keeps sticking in other people’s business.

Agree, ignore.

Hmph! What does she know...?!!
Me thinks a lot of derogatory comments come from a place of jealousy, lovely...kwim? 🤗

Yanbu to be upset but ignore her. The view that once you get to a certain age you must chop your hair is old fashioned. So who is to say her view is valid? It doesn’t sound it to me.

your nearly 60, you look how you want to look, you celebrate who you are and you absolutely ignore this rude woman. Go out, have a fabulous holiday and have joy in who you are.

Ignore her, what an idiot. There are no actual rules about how you should look or wear your hair at certain ages other than bullshit made up ones. She is almost certainly jealous of your hair.

Ignore it, why shouldn’t you have long hair. I think by 60 you are allowed to really not give a fuck what anyone else thinks.

I bet you confided in her about your hard work and glow up??

she wants to take you down as she saw a crack in your armour. Ignore her.

It's a very old fashioned view- that there are 'appropriate' hair lengths for women of different ages. Maybe this is more persistent in her culture?

I'd ignore!

Wow I can only say I’m envious that you’ve managed to grow your hair to an ‘unsuitable length’ in just 18 months… and at the age of 60! I say this as an almost 50 year old who gave up hope of my hair growing past my shoulders years ago. Enjoy your hair and your body, op and most of all don’t lose your new-found confidence.

To be clear, the crack in your armour is your vulnerability about how you look. Not anything to do with your hair.

Kindly, you're being a soft numpty.

There is no such thing as a "more appropriate length for your age"

Dust off her unwanted, innane and (internalised) misogenistic comment and hold your head up high.

And well done on getting your obsesity under control. You can justly feel proud of yourself

I had a friend who thought things like this. She also used to say women shouldn't wear miniskirts over 30 (!) And she'd point out to me when she saw women doing this.

I'm now over 30, still wearing miniskirts (when weather allows) and no longer her friend

I’m rather softer bodied than is socially liked, I’m 61 and have hair down to my waist (or where my waist use to be)

just ignore her and let your hair speak for it self

That’s a very old fashioned opinion. I work in an office full of 40-60 year olds, and we all have really long hair. I bet you look GREAT

Age appropriate hair is a very dated concept. Have your hair how it suits you and you like it and don't give her opinion a second thought.

Ps I also have a bad bad bob incident from my past where I ugly-cried in an expensive Paris hair salon. This was over ten years ago and I remember it like yesterday.

I'll be long haired till the day I die!

She wasn't forthright. She was rude and sounds deeply unpleasant

I’m 51 and my hair is waist length -fuck her!

I would tell her this is 2025 and not the 1950’s where women were told to get their hair cut short. What a very old fashioned view point.

Ignore her an enjoy your holiday. She’s a dick and jealous!

There is only one opinion that matters and it's this one:

"I fricking love my hair"

Women are so conditioned to make other people's opinion of them more important than their own; refuse to do that.

There is being forthright and being rude, your fellow traveller is being rude.

Ignore her and continue to enjoy your holiday.

You have your hair as long as you want it. Her limited views and narrow mindedness don’t matter.

You sound amazing, and for what it's worth, I LOVE the idea of having hair length (or shoes, clothes, tattoos, ideas, hobbies, piercings etc...) 'inappropriate for one's age'!

Dutch?
(or Germany or South African?)

Shake it off. It’s a cultural mismatch. You don’t have to accept her assessment as anything other than “wow, that’s forthright, but I don’t agree.”