To be upset that fellow holiday goer told me I'm too old for my hair?

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I'm rising 60 and have been obese all my life, have just got it under control, gone on a glow up and have decided to Fuuckit and I've headed off on my holiday of a lifetime.

I've spent most of today with another solo traveller and quite enjoyed her company, but am fully aware she's from a more forthright culture than me. (A close friend from home is also this nationality so I'm fully aware of this conversational style).

As we parted company she said that she felt she had to tell me that at my age I should be considering getting my hair cut to a more age appropriate length.

I fricking love my hair, my hairdresser has been with me through literal thick and thin, and had particularly encouraged me nurturing my length after The Bad Bad Bob Incident of October 23.

Low self confidence and self esteem through being morbidly obese for 30 years doesn't lend itself to resilience, so I'm now in my room trying to distract myself and win the day back to no avail.

Aibu to be upset or am I a soft numpty?

Op, thank you for starting this post… it is so heartwarming to read all the posts of women daring to own and love their hair (freely& agelessly 🥳) , in an infuriating ageist world which still coerces and tries to ‘educate’ females what is and isn’t appropriate for them, from the cradle to the grave ( ffs)…I salute you all 😁
late 50’s , and not only is my hair long (& longer than haters think it should be), but also I continue to wear my little side plait I wore all my life .. it’s just me, and I hate that sometimes I feel sort of pressure to conform …like I felt at every age ( ffs 2)..

i feel our western culture is particularly ageist and tries to strip us women of our femininity once we are past our childbearing age/our ‘purpose’ … ( cut hair, dress ‘ appropriately’, don’t be ‘sexy’ , shame & redicule ).

last year, while travelling in Asia..my hair felt so bad/ thin, I decided to get it cut, I google translated to the young hairdresser to just cut it however he thought would be best with my hair & closed my eyes in terror ..(he said he will do the “Auntie Cut”…my heart sank 😂…… turned out the auntie cut wasn’t a pixie-all-women-of-certain-age-shall-look-the-same…here’s the Vietnam auntie cut .. ( minus my plait)..if anyone fancies a hair cut while on a holiday ..😎

Bet she’s Dutch ! My friend said 3 years ago
your hair is aging you I’m 64
actually stung at the time tbh
but I’ve gone shorter and I feel and look better
I have another friend who’s 80 and her hair is very long , really wish there was a way to tell her it’s not working anymore
ether ignore or have a think about new style
worked a miracle for me

In my experience people (especially near-strangers!!) who preface comments with "I feel I have to tell you" deserve to have those comments ignored.

Please do not he upset. Some people just can’t help themselves. If you loved your hair before she opened her mouth - then please DON’T cut it!!!!! Remember, you don’t know this woman (you just know someone from where she’s from), bearing that in mind, do you think she could be jealous???

I’ve had similar said to me , I’m 52 and have waist length straight hair , it’s thick and healthy and I’ve been told my many hairdressers what amazing condition it is in . I’ve also been told by acquaintances and relatives that women over 40 shouldn’t have hair longer than shoulder length . I’m very body conscious as a curvy person and my hair is the only part of my appearance I like so Im not cutting it just because some people have outdated opinions .

I voted YABU as you really should ignore some random twats unrequested opinion.
I detest this notion that long hair has a shelf life, fuck off!

Dutch?
North Korean??
Never take hair advice from the joyless and rude.

It's your hair you do what you want with it !!

I'm 100% Dutch and comfortable being 'racist' about my own people 😘

Je moederrrr

You do you. None of anyone else's business! Have a fantastic holiday 😎

Back in the 80s when I was a teenager by 40 everyone was expected to have a middle aged style perm, by nearing 60 a shampoo and set. Thank the Lord things have changed. Don't take what was said to heart, you do you like many of us are in this enlightend age! Take care xx

I bet she has terrible hair herself 🤣

Very rude and patronising, please ignore her.

And well done on the glow up, I imagine you look great and she was a bit jealous.

I've never understood why hair is such a flashpoint for some people- I see inappropriate nails (unable to do anything, and they look like claws), false eyelashes that look like some creepy crawly has died on their eyelids, and dreadful clothing all the time -but no one would dream of mentioning it , but if you have longer hair than a couple of inches all over and are over 50 everyone seems to feel they can tell you how inappropriate they think it is- just ignore it, it's their problem, not yours.

I love my long hair, I love braiding it and it still just makes me smile every day. It reminds me of my Mum, who also kept hers long and never went near a blue rinse lol.

Please ignore rude people’s opinions, the only one that matters about your style is you…I’m glad your hair makes you happy. Enjoy your glow up, and holiday!!

The poem, Warning, by Jenny Joseph, was written in 1961 and is still a favourite of many and still relevant today:

When I am an old woman I shall wear purple
With a red hat which doesn’t go, and doesn’t suit me.
And I shall spend my pension on brandy and summer gloves
And satin sandals, and say we’ve no money for butter.
I shall sit down on the pavement when I’m tired
And gobble up samples in shops and press alarm bells
And run my stick along the public railings
And make up for the sobriety of my youth.
I shall go out in my slippers in the rain
And pick the flowers in other people’s gardens
And learn to spit.
You can wear terrible shirts and grow more fat
And eat three pounds of sausages at a go
Or only bread and pickle for a week
And hoard pens and pencils and beermats and things in boxes.
But now we must have clothes that keep us dry
And pay our rent and not swear in the street
And set a good example for the children.
We must have friends to dinner and read the papers.
But maybe I ought to practise a little now?
So people who know me are not too shocked and surprised
When suddenly I am old, and start to wear purple.

Take no notice - you might enjoy Cher's boundary breaking outlook on ytbe if you search cher oprah getting older

Why can't I see the pic of OP's hair? Dying to see your lovely long locks OP

Well either way, its only her opinion, and OP shouldn't let it upset her. Different culture or not, she was rude.

If it was a Bob in 2023 it’s unlikely you have Rapunzel hair, but even if you do, so what? Enjoy it.

This!! And 60 is not old.

I'd give it few days then casually mention in passing that I'm growing it longer.

This

I think it’s the style and the make up that makes the difference here.

The lady on the left looks lovely and natural while the ‘Birkenhead face/lift’ and excess make up make the beautiful Helen Mirren look unnatural.

how dare she dictate her views on others you decide how you want your hair none of her business. Don't spend any more time with her your own company will be better than being with a rude self opinionated control freak. ps Im 71 with waist length hair and aint changing it wish I could meet her Id tell her where to go and have a holiday. ha ha

Cheeky fukker - opinion not required (or requested for that matter). If you're happy with your hair keep it. 😘

I meant for op to ignore the comments BTW.