To be upset that fellow holiday goer told me I'm too old for my hair?

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I'm rising 60 and have been obese all my life, have just got it under control, gone on a glow up and have decided to Fuuckit and I've headed off on my holiday of a lifetime.

I've spent most of today with another solo traveller and quite enjoyed her company, but am fully aware she's from a more forthright culture than me. (A close friend from home is also this nationality so I'm fully aware of this conversational style).

As we parted company she said that she felt she had to tell me that at my age I should be considering getting my hair cut to a more age appropriate length.

I fricking love my hair, my hairdresser has been with me through literal thick and thin, and had particularly encouraged me nurturing my length after The Bad Bad Bob Incident of October 23.

Low self confidence and self esteem through being morbidly obese for 30 years doesn't lend itself to resilience, so I'm now in my room trying to distract myself and win the day back to no avail.

Aibu to be upset or am I a soft numpty?

You are being a soft humpty. Because it's her opinion, not a fact. She may well have lots of style choices you disagree with but culturally you keep your opinion to yourself. Use her bluntness as a tool to practise your resilience on.
'You're too old for that hair'
'No such thing. I love my hair/ I ignore ageism and wear my hair how I like it.

People say that to me all the time I have waist length grey hair in great condition. I'm always being told I need to cut it but luckily I don't care what anyone else thinks.
I have no intention of joining the rows of grey cauliflower hair ladies with short perms.
Enjoy your lovely hair. Ignore rude people.

Isn't this a case of "if you've got nothing nice to say, say nothing." Ignore! Your hairdresser likes it and she's the expert. Most importantly, you like it.

This is personal. My hair is shorter at 45 than at 35 but that's because it's quality has gone downhill. Dh's aunt is 80 and she's got long, blond (coloured ofcourse) hair and she looks fabulous. She also wears jeans and Nice tops and looks so much younger than her age.
I admit I do find it ridiculous when older women 50+ wear ultra low cleavage tops with glitter coloured letters saying sexy. It's just an oxymoron. You can be sexy at 60 but it needs to be done with elegance, not vulgarity.

Gosh thank you all.

You're jolly nice heartwarmers.

@Yoheresthestory actually I didn't, I'm really ashamed about my flabby shabby past so I keep it quiet.

I cut off my long hair in my early 20s and kept my hair short until lockdown. I hit 50 in lockdown and decided I wanted long hair and have been growing it ever since. It’s down past my shoulder blades now and I look after it with regular trips to the hairdresser. I absolutely love it. It’s given me a much needed boost at a time when my face and body have physically changed in a way I don’t like due to menopause. For me, it’s a way of taking back a bit of control as I go through all these changes so my advice is to ignore the comment and remember how good your hair makes you feel. That’s all that counts.

I’m not quite “older” (🙄) yet but it will be a cold day in hell before I ever chop my hair to a “more suitable length for my age”.

You and your hair sound gorgeous OP. Congrats on your glow up, don’t let this knock your confidence.

@RitaAndFrank I've just looked it's October 22 when I lost my rag and told hairdressers to chap it right off, and dye it dark! So apologies - 30 moths to grow it long!

Yes, you’re being a bit of a numpty for letting a total stranger lay an axe to the roots of your self-esteem.your choices are Yoir choices. What you yhink of your hair is more important than what a total stranger met on holiday thinks of your hair.

Ahaha bang on the guilders 😂

Ignore her OP, you’ve done brilliantly to lose the weight and to be travelling on your own. You love your hair! Don’t let a stranger’s insensitive comment ruin your time away. Chin up, confidence on! Enjoy the rest of your time away.

She’s just a jealous bint
but I hate long hair so it’s short (early60’s) and falling out
who gives a cack what others think
your hair is your hair where it how you like there’s no age requirement

Reminds me of being a teenager and girls bitching because someone's mum still wore jeans at 40 or whatever. Unsolicited opinions are not required!

She is mean bitch, she is trying to put you down for your confidence or maybe it’s just her personality trait, some people are like this.
Also think about this logically - there is no “age appropriate length” concept. It’s just stupid. My hair is not great. I was never able to have them longer than a bit below shoulders. You have great hair and have them long. It’s all about hair , it’s not about age.

That statement is just as rude and ageist as the original statement. I’m about to turn 59. I have never in my life worn a low cut top with Sexy written on it because it’s not my thing but I do not need someone telling me what I can or cannot wear at my age and how to be sexy.
As it happens I would have thought “vulgar” isn’t sexy at any age.

I’d be equally forthright and tell her to do one. Rude cow. I bet you look fabulous!

That’s still great compared to me 😊
Have a lovely rest of holiday 🍹

I had a completely strange man tell me my hair colour wasn't age appropriate recently. Some people just can't help themselves. Ignore her unsolicited opinion.

Please don’t let this ruin your enjoyment of your hair. Just think of yourself as modern and lovely and think poor soul having such dated attitudes. Take even more pride in it as you actively choose your look.

Just to clarify no moths were harmed in the process of cultivating long!

I had my highlights done yesterday and a friend said those are out now nobody has highlights. What?? I’ve had them for 20 years and still see countless women either lovely fresh blonde hair.

People love a put down.

Forthright culture eh? You mean rude and opinionated don't you? I bet your hair looks great and so do you.

How nice of her to share her opinion on something that was nothing to do with her. I'd have told her to jog on with her stupid comments.

Op, I am sure your hair is glorious, but may I say, I love your writing style. Your answers make me smile .

Hmmm - I wonder whether anyone has ever told Jerry Hall she’s too old for her hair!

Im70 and have long red hair when I was 60 I used to have bunches and loads of people said how cute it looks. You wear your hair anyway you like. I hate stupid rude people. Did she think she was doing you a favour or maybe a bit envious.
Wear hot pants and a boob tube if you want. You do whatever you like and everyone else can do one.