He wants to meet without children

[UniqueTraybake]

I'm part of a single parent what's app group and we live in a big city

One guy has recently joined and has attended a social. He's got his child 50:50.

It was the weekend and he messaged the group asking if anyone wanted to meet, he didn't have his child and he's the only single man in our group. We are mostly donor children.

What do you think, aibu in thinking that's weird?

I have a male friend

How very dare you?!!! 😂😂

@Liverpool52 , your poor friend though. That’s really sad and I hope he managed to make some friends.

Why do you deem the single mums as desperate?

Very misogynistic!

I don’t. I think that’s his thinking and why men would leer at such groups. Women with young kids and no time to date can be seen by some men as “more easy picking”. I raised a child without the other parent (not donor related, there was a distance issue) and in my experience there are men that feel that this demographic can be “low hanging fruit”.

Among all the weird posts, the feel I too got was that he's trying to hook up with one of the single mums.

On that basis - OP - YANBU.

someone comes in to start window shopping desperate single moms.

Is what you said.

Even if they do want to get his dick wet, it doesn’t make them desperate, having sex is ok, single parents can still have a sex life, if they want.

Maybe I’m a bit weird, but what’s wrong with approaching a single person for a potential date?

Does EVERYTHING have to be conducted online?

And yet so much of the fruit on Tinder is virtually laying on the ground.

OP, you need to put more information in your posts if you want to get your actual point across in a way that other posters can see and understand your view.

Exactly!

I should have put desperate in quotes. I’m not saying there’s something wrong per se. I can see why it would be annoying if a man comes into a group that’s intended for one thing with the intention to date. It changes the dynamic.

Of course there is nothing wrong with donor baby mums wanting to wet his dick (as you so eloquently explain sex), per se or not.

Not all donor baby mums are not wanting to have a relationship.

If it’s as a group I don’t find that weird. It’s not like he plucked someone out of the group and messaged them individually.

Why not?

Sooooo this 👆😂

Emily is this you?!

OP - AIBU?
MN - yes you are
OP - you are all mean
Other person - I am also on that WA group and OP is right

Heck of a coincidence

What, nowhere?

If he was female would you find it odd he reached out looking for a child free evening?
If it feels strange and nobody in the group ever talks about anything other than the kids then I guess just decline.
But in isolation if he just wants to be friends and maybe go for drinks and be child free for a bit there's nothing wrong with that. It doesn't sound like he was trying to get one of you specifically to go on a one to one 'date'?

Thanks for this. It's a lot clearer now.
If OP had explained this, the answers would be different I think.

Amazing coincidence!

Donor baby mums is hardly a well used term!

With young Milly?

Do you not go anywhere without dc? I’m a single parent but I love a bit of me time a dog walk in the woods or even just a cafe with a bit of cake and a book. I think it’s good for the soul!

He doesn't want to spend time with you and your 'kid'.
He is looking for social company when he is child free and is looking for other people who might be child free for a few hours.

You are weird to think that's weird 🙄

100% 🤣🤣🤣

Sill waiting for some insight into what a donor is.

I can only imagine it's a man donating his sperm.

But is there a group for women who use sperm donors?

How does this work?