He wants to meet without children

[UniqueTraybake]

I'm part of a single parent what's app group and we live in a big city

One guy has recently joined and has attended a social. He's got his child 50:50.

It was the weekend and he messaged the group asking if anyone wanted to meet, he didn't have his child and he's the only single man in our group. We are mostly donor children.

What do you think, aibu in thinking that's weird?

I moderate a lot of online groups and dodgy people join constantly. They usually fall into one of the following

— your garden variety creep who does meet the group requirements but only joined to hit on other group members

— someone who is pretending to meet the group requirements to hit on group members (are you sure this guy actually has kids)

— someone who is pretending to meet the group requirements to get money out of group members in some way either for their genuine business or a scam (like all those people offering to clean ducts on Facebook groups)

— a scammer from abroad who has cloned a real person’s profile to gain access to group members.

It’s possible this guys is just a single Dad who thought the group may be a good way to improve his social life. Or he may not have innocent intentions.

@UniqueTraybake

ah OP do you have any family who could look after your child for you? Or what about your friends? Or get a babysitter? You deserve some time just for yourself, you matter too!

I get the impression that if this single dad is looking for women to shag he may well be barking up the wrong tree with this group.

In other news me and DS just ordered a kebab

how is this a problem?

But not having another parent doesn’t mean you have no child-free time. Plenty of single parents have friends, siblings, or parents of their own who are happy to babysit to give their loved one a break. Of course not all single parents have that support system, but many do.

I don’t think you’ll be meeting anyone anytime soon!

You are massively overthinking things.

There will be plenty of parents that you meet that will want to meet up without their kids.

I much prefer to meet without my DC and have actual relaxed adult time.

Obviously as a single parent it’s very rare but any chance I get to socialise without DC I grab it.

Did you read the thread about ‘Emily’ a friend that was co-dependent on her DD?
It might be worth a read to see his most parents like to meet without their DC if they’re able to.

This. How do you not understand this?

And yes, it is weird to not imagine going anywhere without your child.

Huh? 50-50 means half the time. Hence 50-50 😂😂

WTF?

Its the equivalent of "your Mum"

Really!??????

Very odd.

Omg hi OP 🤣🤣🤣🤣 great name change.

I suppose it depends on what you think he means by “Adult Time”.

I think it sounds like something Borat would say .. but that is probably because I am a weirdo.

If you think it might be weird, then that is your spidey senses telling you something is not for you.

No judgement.

I don’t think @Mahanii could possibly be the OP. She’s answering questions, it all makes sense and it’s not… odd.

In fact, if she’d worded her OP as clearly as Mahanii has written hers, she might have had an entirely different response!

Bit of a coincidence don't you think?

Plus there's only one man in the OP's group.

Honestly..... you're the weird one. and it's unhealthy to never go anywhere without your child. Unless still a babe in arms, perhaps. What age does your child need to be before you let go ?

It's a perfectly reasonable request for this guy to want to make connections, first make sure he gets along with the parent(s), then introduce the children to each other.

This.

Edited to add - Never mind. I've just got as far as p2 of the this thread, and the OP definitely seems a bit unusual in her thinking.

So now you're insulting other posters. Hmmmm

Obviously I can't be 100% sure it's the same group. But the mould and damp advice and the camping trip, in a group of mainly donor baby mums, can't be that common either?

Hmmm

You make a LOT more sense than the OP, and it sounds as though her gut instincts are correct (but for the wrong reasons!)

Exactly. While OP phrased the question in a way that made her a target for a lot of laughs, her gut instinct that he’s joined the group to get his dick wet is probably right. It can be annoying when you’re trying to have a group that’s about parenting and someone comes in to start window shopping desperate single moms.

in which case I am afraid that is more indicative of being weird than someone who does do things without their children.

But in reality different strokes for different folks

Yeah sure what are the chances 🙄